I've struggled with being significantly overweight most of my adult life and I'm finding myself more and more confused about it. This conversation has helped me to see more clearly around other suffering and I feel much more at peace with whatever arises. However, when I'm suffering about my weight (which is often) and I look at what's true, I get confused. It is true that it's healthier not being so overweight, and then there's hunger, I don't know when it's real or habit etc. Also, when you say that genuine change can never come unless identification with self falls away I get scared because I wonder if my motives to lose are to secure the self. I want to lose so I can be healthier, feel better and go up stairs without getting out of breath etc., but I also want to look better in my clothes - so I wonder if I'm trying to lose for the "wrong" reasons. Can you shed any light on this?