Live Brighter With Tara

Harvard did a long study of adult development and they found out that the most important Contributor to our well-being is the quality of our Relationships. In this week's episode, we will be talking about the four relationship must-haves and how we can prioritize and improve the quality of our present and future relationships.

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CHAPTERS:

00:36 Harvard Study of Adult Development: Quality of our relationships

01:31 Relationship must-haves

01:55 Conflict resolution

02:58 Our childhood's effect on our conflict resolution

03:35 Conflict resolution as a learning process

06:40 Intimacy

08:00 My experience with intimacy after my destructive marriage

08:55 Similar vision

10:13 Ability to have fun together

11:01 Prioritizing these relationship musts

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Has religion been used in a relationship to control you? Has the bible or scripture held you captive to stay in a destructive situation? Or has your own "Godliness" or idea of being a Christian ever held you captive in an abusive situation? For our December special episode, I'll be talking about Religious abuse and how the scripture is often misinterpreted to use for control and manipulation, the consequences of staying in a destructive relationship, and ways on how we can change our situation.

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PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS:

01:05 Introduction: Christmas season

01:34 Background: My church and own destructive situation

02:08 4 common messages in the church that is being used for keeping a person in a destructive situation and ourselves

02:38 Submission

05:17 Silence

06:10 Over-abundance of forgiveness

07:29 "Role" of the Woman

08:37 Ourselves as Women

11:06 Red Flags in a Relationship

13:48 Consequences of staying in a Religiously abusive relationship

15:38 Consequences for our kids for staying in an abusive relationship

16:45 What staying in a religiously abusive relationship does with our Relationship with God

17:23 Us being half of the relationship

18:46 God hates Abuse and God loves you

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In this week's episode, we will be joined in by Kim, one of my good friends, as she talks about her dysfunctional situation and the things she learned after leaving her abusive relationship.

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PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS

00:42 Something about our guest, Kim

01:27 Kim's dysfunctional situation: religious and emotional abuse

03:42 More context on Kim's situation: her children

04:41 The need for a "rescuer," a damsel in distress

05:47 Expounding more on Kim's first marriage and kids

06:34 Using religion/God to harm

08:03 Buffers and Kim's behavior as she coped

08:46 Normalizing

10:20 Kim's verbal degradation

11:00 Kim's conflict resolution with her abuser

12:09 What are some other things that led to buffering?

14:50 Kim's growth and development after leaving her situation

17:41 Creating a level of honesty and peace

19:21 Getting out, healing, and putting yourself in a healthy relationship

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Have you ever been told not to feel a certain way or that you're too sensitive? Emotions don't just go away and rejecting or suppressing them can have consequences–both physically and mentally. It's important to feel and process our emotions or they do some serious damage. In today's podcast, we will be diving into the world of emotions and how we can sort and understand them better.

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TIME STAMPS:

00:39 What are emotions?

00:49 Emotions are God-given

00:59 Emotions are vibrations

01:53 Consequences of suppressing and rejecting your emotions

03:06 How emotions can be stored in our bodies

03:31 Emotions are information

04:33 Unprocessed Trauma: Big T and Little t trauma

06:59 Importance of feeling your emotions

07:47 Barf Notebook and Unravel Notebook

09:20 Your thoughts create emotions

10:14 Choosing: what do you do with this information

11:22 EMDR and reprogramming our brains from trauma

12:20 How trauma can inflate our emotions

14:01 Emotions: feel, sort, and choose

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Do you wish you weren't so influenced by what other people thought and felt about you? Well you certainly can because in this week's podcast, we'll be talking about how we can get our needs and validations from an internal scorecard rather than from an external scorecard.

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PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS:

01:04 Four Basic needs

01:31 Examples of child processing experience that can create challenges in our needs

02:17 How the lawyer/lifeguard part of our brains can collude and make it worse

04:17 Expounding on the basic needs

04:50 Getting validating from an internal scorecard

05:39 Changing our circumstances as adults

06:32 How we can meet our own needs by ourselves

07:08 My personal experience with the 'Jesus and the kind friend Download'

09:21 Meeting our own approval and being our own person

09:39 Example of internal/external scorecard as a realtor and life coach

10:29 Reflection on the four basic needs

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As a Kind Girl, it's easy to miss that you're in an emotionally or religiously abusive relationship. It's easy for us not to validate what we're feeling because we focus on others more than ourselves. In this week's podcast, we'll be talking about how we can heal after abuse by focusing on three healing areas.

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PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS

00:50 Qualifying what it's like in emotionally/religiously abusive situation

01:56 Focusing on emotional and religious abuse: understanding the context

03:18 How to heal after the abuse

03:35 Reconnecting with the True God

04:39 My experience in making a choice in regards to reconnecting with the True God

06:21 Reconnecting with Self

08:06 Getting connected with what we like

08:35 Knowing myself really well—what brings me joy

09:55 Retrain my thinking on how I dealt with others and having healthy relationships with others

10:19 Understanding what boundaries are

11:31 My decision to divorce, my family, and understanding what my job was

12:41 Summary of three healing areas

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Some Domestic abuse situations are challenging especially if it's not physical since we don't have the science to show or or prove whether it's emotional or psychological–which therefore, makes it harder to recognize and see. In this week's podcast, we have a special guest–Michael Schaan–wherein he shares his story and what he learned from his destructive marriage.

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Podcast Highlights:

00:28 Introduction of special guest: Michael Schaan

01:05 Something about our special guest

01:25 Michael's story

02:38 Beratement examples

03:23 What's the effect mentally and physically of beratement/buffering

04:42 How did Michael cope during these challenging times 05:25 How did work helped soothes in challenging times

07:01 What was Michael's thinking/beliefs that you stayed so long in the marriage

08:41 What was recovery like after the divorce and how did he thrive

12:22 What did Michael learn from this situation

14:13 What is something he wish he had known

14:48 Interview wrap up and remarks

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Have you ever felt like thinking and loving yourself is selfish? Growing up in a christian background, I've always regarded others more important than myself–which led me to a destructive relationship for 22 years. In today's episode, we'll be talking about the common misinterpretation people have about loving ourselves and with what the bible really says about the order of love.

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PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS:

1:05 What does the bible say about loving others than yourself: Order of love 00:42

01:44 Loving God: Understanding who he is

02:13 Understanding how God views women and manipulation/control

02:53 How people use religion for control and abuse

03:26 To love God is to see him as a loving God

04:16 Jesus values women

05:20 Loving God with your whole being

05:52 Loving ourselves

06:59 Loving one self in a practical sense: self talk and kindness

09:00 Respecting ourselves

10:01 Caring for ourselves

10:38 Loving others with a full cup

11:05 Allow yourself to feel your emotions

12:13 Arrogance vs Self love

12:40 God's order of love leads to a happier and healthier life

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Have you ever said or thought to yourself that you're not enough or you're unlovable? It might be your identity, and your identity is not stuck. Join me in today's episode as we talk about our identity and how we can better understand it/how to figure it all out.

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HIGHLIGHTS: 00:22 What is your identity? 01:16 Where does your identity stem from? 02:13 The voices in our heads 02:34 The Lawyer part of our brain: what is it? 02:59 The lifeguard part of our brain: What's it all about 03:24 A voice from God: is it harsh and criticizing? 04:07 How do God see us 04:38 We have a plan and a purpose 04:53 What we say out loud really tells us a lot about identity 05:05 How to figure out your identity 05:27 What God says about us 05:44 Things that were part of my identity 06:19 What to do to figure out your identity: barf notebook

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Do you find yourself constantly in fear in your relationship? I was, and it was my normal for 22 years. I was used to it and didn't even question it. I also didn't have the words to describe what I was going through, which made it even harder for me to understand the situation I was in. Join me in today's episode as I talk about my "normal" and how I learned to handle it.

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PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS:

01:08 My Normal: Always in fear all the time 02:08 Comparing myself to others 02:47 Self-shaming 02:58 Vocabulary that I didn't have that would've helped me 03:33 Functional codependency 04:14 Gaslighting and my experience with it 05:33 Lovebombing 06:44 Narcissism and its different degrees 07:28 Passive Aggressive 08:14 Stonewalling and what to be aware of 09:58 The 7 principles of making marriage work by John Gottman 10:27 The "4 Horseman" in your relationship 12:41 Cognitive Dissonance 13:27 Trauma 14:20 Trauma Bonding (Stockholm Syndrome) 14:59 Attachment Styles 15:51 Boundaries as a kind girl 16:40 Boundary Destroyers 16:51 Highly Sensitive person/empath 18:41 Learning the right words and having this information is helpful 18:50 Closing remarks

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