Our hearts broke for Allison Holker Boss when her husband, Stephen Twitch Boss (a fixture on The Ellen DeGeneres Show and an incredible dancer), took his own life a little over a year ago. 

Allison instantly became a single mom of three, navigating the unimaginable. 

So, how do we talk to our children about grief and loss? Whether it’s losing a loved one, the loss of a relationship, or any of us trying to find our way in a season of hurt. 

Allison recently became a judge on FOX’s So You Think You Can Dance. And I think you’ll be encouraged to hear how she’s doing, how she’s leading her children through loss and grief, what she tells Stephen every night, and why she’s decided to release the kids' book they’d been working on before his death, called KEEP DANCING THROUGH. 

This is part of a parenting series on the show, where I’m talking about the things you’re talking about and tackling what you’re in the thick of. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. 



Listen in to learn more:

 (03:50 - 04:56) Year of Challenge, Growth, and Gratitude 

(08:52 - 10:24) Build a Strong Future Foundation 

(16:17 - 17:49) The Therapeutic Power of Dancing 

(23:07 - 24:02) Embracing Emotions and Human Vulnerability 

In this episode, we delve into accepting our purpose and being fully ourselves, how we can support and care for loved ones who are walking through grief, and navigating complex conversations about loss with our kids while holding space for our own pain. 



LINKS

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https://www.instagram.com/allisonholker/

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http://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter

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Losing Stephen and Parenting Through Loss with Allison Holker Boss

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Therapist David Thomas is back, answering all your questions about TWEEN and TEEN boys!

Your questions ranged from gaming, discipline, ragey hormones, and phone use to porn, substance use, and body image. Phew! We covered so much. 

David, the host of the Raising Boys and Girls podcast and the Executive Director of Daystar Counseling, will help you navigate these years and give you SO MUCH HOPE.

Share with anyone who could use some insight into tween and teen boys. They’re precious but so misunderstood. 

Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. 


Listen in to learn more: 
(10:42 - 11:32) Consequences of Phone Misuse
(18:25 - 19:50) Supporting Boys Through Peer Pressure
(29:51 - 30:51) Addressing Pornography and Male-Female Relationships


In this episode, we are diving into healthy boundaries on gaming and technology, why helping our kids regulate is the first step of discipline, consequences that make sense (besides just taking away screens!), body image conversations with our boys, and helping our sons navigate through instead of numbing out when things get tough.

Resources: 

CONNECT WITH DAVID: 
https://www.daystarcounseling.com/ 

FOLLOW DAVID/DAYSTAR ON INSTAGRAM:
https://www.instagram.com/raisingboysandgirls/

DAVID’S BOOK RAISING EMOTIONALLY STRONG BOYS:
https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Emotionally-Strong-Boys-Tools/dp/0764239988

DAVID'S PODCAST - https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com/podcast 

Here’s a great phone contract to sign with your kids from WAIT UNTIL 8th.  
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https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter 


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Answering Your Questions About Tween and Teen Boys, PT 2

To be honest, I’ve had a difficult time connecting with my boys. At times, I’ve wondered, and you may have, too, “Is anything connecting?” On top of that, my teen son recently told me that I don’t understand him. I know so many of you are right there, too. That’s why we’re talking about it. 

David Thomas, the Executive Director of Daystar Counseling is joining the conversation to  help us make sense of tween and teen boys. (I have cried tears of joy and relief since talking with him!) 

This is the first of two episodes in which we’ll discuss what’s happening in the boy brain, their different stages of development, how we can best support them, and why we need to extend their runway to age 25. 

David also hilariously explains what happens to their collective IQ when a group of adolescent boys gets together and why they only seem to open up at night. (It’s a thing!)

This conversation is setting up next week’s episode, in which we will answer all your questions about tween and teen boys in an insightful Q&A with David. 

Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. 


Listen in to learn more: 
(00:00 - 00:26) Developmental Differences in Adolescence
(01:32 - 03:15) Understanding Tween and Teen Boys
(09:23 - 10:59) Parenting Through Adolescent Development
(14:20 - 15:25) Understanding Adolescents Through the Enneagram
(19:15 - 20:20) Boys, Pornography, and Parental Supervision
(21:29 - 22:28) Stages of Adolescent Development
(28:51 - 30:16) Navigating Motherhood With Steadiness and Support

SUMMARY:
In this episode, we discuss how to communicate with tween and teen boys in a nonthreatening way, the developmental differences between boys and girls, how we can best support and nurture our boys' unique wiring, why ages 13-15 are so tough for teen boys and their parents and hope for the future of our relationships with our sons. 

LINKS: 

CONNECT WITH DAVID: 
https://www.daystarcounseling.com/

FOLLOW DAVID/DAYSTAR ON INSTAGRAM:
https://www.instagram.com/raisingboysandgirls/

DAVID’S BOOK WILD THINGS:
https://www.amazon.com/Wild-Things-Art-Nurturing-Boys/dp/1414322275

LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER
https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter

FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM  
https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en

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https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/
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Making Sense of Tween and Teen Boys (with author and counselor David Thomas) Part One

One of the scariest, yet best things our family did was moving from NYC to a small town in South Carolina in 2020. Has there been a lot of GAIN in our life because of it? Absolutely. But, there’s also been a lot of things we’ve GIVEN UP because of it. 

We’ve created a life we love and my guest today, Stephanie May Wilson, is going to take us through three steps to help you create a life you love, as well. She’s even written a new best-selling book about it! 

Stephanie is doing just that in her own life, moving her young family to Spain (wait until you hear why!) to create a life they love. It’s a decision that’s both scary and exhilarating. 
How often do we get ourselves twisted up making a decision we think will please someone else, or living another life that’s not authentic to us?

Stephanie has four words for all of us: YOU GET TO DECIDE. 

Friends, we get to decide. Yes, there will be gain, as well as giving up. But, we get to decide. 


Listen in to learn more: 
(6:04 -9:37) Childcare Costs and Women in the Workforce
(9:38 - 12:46) Defining Life Moments Before Age 35
(13:21 - 14:34) Pressure of Turning 30 (or 40, 0r 50)
(16:56 - 17:49) You Get to Decide
(17:50 - 19:23) Three Things To Quiet the Noise and Find Out What You Want Out of Life
(21:23 - 22:51) When Our Choices are Limited by Circumstances

SUMMARY:
In this episode, we are delving into the pressures of building a career and a family at the same time, the power of making decisions (even when our choices are limited by our circumstances), 3 things you can do to quiet the noise and figure out what you want out of life, and the hard reality that even the best choices will come with sacrifice. 

LINKS: 

LINK TO STEPHANIE’S WEBSITE:
https://stephaniemaywilson.com/


LINK TO STEPHANIE’S BOOK:
https://www.amazon.com/Create-Life-You-Love-Outside-ebook/dp/B0CCV1RMLV


LINK TO STEPHANIE’S PODCAST:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/girls-night-with-stephanie-may-wilson/id1278993781


LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER
https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter


FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM  
https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en


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Three Steps to Creating the Life You LOVE

We’re answering your questions about teen drinking and substance abuse because it’s a topic that you’re asking us to talk about and a topic that is causing a lot of tension in your homes. 

I remember taking my first drink when I was five. My dad gave me a sip of his beer, and I loved it but never abused it growing up. Conversely, John distanced himself from alcohol until he was in his 20s because of an alcoholic grandfather. So, out of the gate, we’re approaching this subject from different perspectives.

Because we wanted to stick to the facts and the hard questions on this topic, we’ve invited Jessica Lahey, an author and expert on it, to the conversation. She’s a recovering alcoholic and has been researching and writing about it for over a decade. 

We’re going to tackle all your questions: Should you give your teens a safe space to drink? What is it doing to their brains? What are the real numbers? And we’re going to bust some myths about it in the process. 

Life happens, friends. Let’s talk about it. 

Listen in to learn more : 

(00:40 - 01:39) Mother's Day Gift Planning With Paula
(05:33 - 07:21) Parenting and Substance Abuse Prevention
(08:37 - 09:53) Substance Use Risk and Adolescence
(15:08 - 16:09) Trends in Adolescent Substance Use
(25:40 - 26:54) Concerns About Adolescent Vaping and Addiction
(29:25 - 31:05) Parenting and Conflicting Views on Alcohol
(32:52 - 34:08) Parental Approach to Underage Drinking
(36:18 - 37:49) Teen Substance Abuse Risks and Facts

In this episode, we are digging into why age matters when it comes to substance use and its effects on the brain, how substances have changed from when we were growing up, the statistics on substance use in teens and young adults, and why providing a “safe place” for teens to drink may have different results than you might think. 

LINKS 

LINK TO JESSICA’S WEBSITE
https://www.jessicalahey.com/

LINK TO PAULA’S NEWSLETTER
https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter


FOLLOW PAULA ON INSTAGRAM  
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LINK TO CARRY’S NEWSLETTER 
https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/


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Should You Give Your Kids A Safe Space To Drink?

I’ve been pretty open about caring for my aging mother while juggling a family of five. There’s actually a term for this stage of life-- when you’re caring for your kids and your parents. It’s called ‘The Sandwich Generation’ when you’re sandwiched between caring for your kids and your parents. 

When I heard your similar stories and learned that so many of you are in the thick of this season, I knew we had to talk about it. And I knew there was only one person we needed to talk to. 

Jessica Kim is a mom of three and a fellow mompreneur who cared for her parents in her home until they passed away. In 2018, she founded IANA Care because she experienced firsthand how isolating, overwhelming, and unsupported this time of life can be. (IANA=I Am Not Alone)  

Caring for our parents is an honor, but it can also be a big stressor. I hope this conversation helps you navigate what to do when caring for your kids and parents. And, more importantly, I hope you know you’re not alone in it. 

Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. 

Listen in to learn more:
(09:13 - 11:25) Selling the Family Home Emotional Journey
(15:49 - 16:34) Acknowledging the Role of Caregiver
(28:46 - 30:00) Support for Caregivers

In this episode, we discuss the importance of naming and defining our role as caregivers, why caregiving does not have to be all or nothing, two questions to ask as you decide what to delegate, why caregivers burn out, and what we can do about it, and some practical tools to help ease the load on your caregiving journey. 

LINKS
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Find out more information about IANA -
https://ianacare.com/  

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Losing Stephen and Parenting Through Loss with Allison Holker Boss

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