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How do you define intuition?

Did you know that there are 4 types of intuition?

Sunil Godse explains this complex gut feeling that you might be getting as you navigate through your life. I’ve ignored my intuition many times in my life and have learned to talk myself out of listening to my intuition out of a virtue of self-doubt and not wanting to upset people around me. 

After making a series of bad decisions, with one leading to a friend being shot and killed, Sunil Godse spent thousands of hours on research and interviews to find out that the reason we waste time making bad decisions is because we ignore our intuition, a subconscious phenomenon that we are all born with that helps us make the right decision at the right time in any situation we find ourselves in.

Sunil developed a seven step process that shows you how to sharpen your intuition so that the only decisions you make are the right ones in any situation that move your life forward.

To get in touch with Sunil Godse visit his website

www.intuitionology.com

I went to a personal branding workshop several years ago where I learned that personal branding includes the practice of curation.

What does this mean?

It means that personal branding experts teach people how to carefully select the parts of their lives that they will share with you, the customer. 

While we all aren’t comfortable sharing all of the struggles of our lives with just anybody, it also feels really gross to me that people share only a curated version of their lives in an effort to manipulate their audience or customer into liking them. What bothers me more than curated lives displayed on social media and online is when those same people claim to be authentic. 

This entire week of episodes on the podcast surround the word and definition of the word authenticity. We had a special guest on the show last Wednesday who started us on the journey of this subject. 

If you didn’t get the chance to listen to Erika’s amazing interview please click on this LINK to get caught up to speed. To learn more about Erika visit her website at www.erikagerdes.com and make sure you drop her a dm on Instagram or Linked in to thank her for the wisdom she shared here on the podcast. 

To share your thoughts with us on the podcast visit

www.tearoutthetags.com

au-then-tic-i-ty |n.| The quality of being authentic

au-then-tic |adj.| Of undisputed origin; genuine

gen-u-ine |adj.| Truly what something is said to be; authentic

What in the actual F*ck?!?!

This feels like a sick cycle of chasing something that can’t be defined. What came first, the chicken or the egg, haha. 

Authentic points to genuine and genuine points back to authentic. So what is it AND how do you know if you possess authenticity?

Last week, Erika Gerdes made me fall in love with the word authentic after learning to resent and repel this word in my life. 

Today you’ll get to discover your own definition of authenticity, authentic and genuine as you discover what may be broken about the definition you currently have. 

If you didn’t get the chance to listen to Erika’s amazing interview please click on this LINK to get caught up to speed. To learn more about Erika visit her website at www.erikagerdes.com and make sure you drop her a dm on Instagram or Linked in to thank her for the wisdom she shared here on the podcast. 

To share your thoughts with us on the podcast visit

www.tearoutthetags.com

Do you feel like there's a person or people in your life that are actually quite calculated and sometimes manipulative when giving compliments? 

Today's show is a conversation about ingenuine compliments and how to combat them. 

According to this article, there are four reasons that might cause you to grow uncomfortable when someone compliments you, leading you to deflect. 

1.  Have Low Self Esteem

2. Your Self-Image Doesn't Line Up

3. You're Uncomfortable with Big Expectations

4. You Want to be Humble

You may agree or disagree with these four reasons and you may have a few more that you might add to the list if you yourself have a tendency to deflect compliments. 

The important question for you, if you are someone who deflects when given a compliment is, what are you gaining from deflecting?

and

What is happening to the person giving the compliment when you deflect?

Today's episode will promote thoughtful discussion and discovery for you and the people in your world surrounding the subject of compliments. 

I've struggled with the word authenticity and what it means to me because it can be such a buzz word in the personal development space. It seems like the more we develop and grow as a person the more elusive that #authenticself can be. 

My special guest on the podcast today reshaped the way that I look at the word authentic and helped me discover a new definition that has led to some really amazing discovery. 

Erika is an authenticity advocate speaker, writer and coach whose mission is to make the world better, kinder, and more joyful. She is the designer of The Art of Undoing, which helps people undo who they think they should be and unlock who they are to become.

Erika is a former global business executive at Google, where she worked for 12 years before leaving at the height of her career, as a single mom, to empower people to embrace their authenticity and amplify their impact.

If you are seeking and understanding the true you that you are today AND that you are yearning to become in your future, this conversation is for you. 

For more information on Erika Gerdes, visit her WEBSITE or get in touch with her on Instagram or LinkedIn

You're so... 

There are a thousand words that could come after these two simple words. Depending on the person you're observing, you may choose a word that has to do with their external appearance, the conversation you have with them or something you learned. 

Recently, I noticed a woman wearing a beautiful outfit walking out of a nail salon. After commenting on her outfit and how ON POINT she looked, I realized that what I was trying to compliment was her #confidence! I ended up telling her that after giving her a couple of other compliments. I started thinking about this interaction after she acknowledged and thanked me for the comments. In fact, she walked over to my car and said, "you MADE my DAY!". It's rare that we compliment people for their confidence but why? Why isn't it more commonplace to just tell someone that their energy is refreshing and magnetic?

I challenge you to compliment someone this week on their confidence and see what kind of reaction you receive. Notice the people around you and notice people that you're drawn to because of their confidence.

Then notice how you feel if they receive it well. What did it make you feel?

If you are taking me up on this challenge let me know how it went at [email protected] or shoot me a DM on Instagram @tearoutthetags.

Bee Evans

A message about compliments..

We did a pole last week on Instagram asking you how you feel about compliments, what compliments you like receiving AND do you have a tendency to deflect compliments. Today is day 1 of our weeks worth of conversations about compliments. Today we pick apart the idea that you may have a bad habit of not hearing compliments that you regularly hear because they become templated or common to you. If that's you, do you have the same tendency when it comes to criticism or do you store criticism more willingly?

We would love to get YOU involved in the conversation. Please email me at [email protected] or send me a message on Instagram www.instagram.com/tearoutthetags 

There are two podcast episodes referenced in this episode. If you want to give either a listen click below on the referenced show. 

#156 You Distill People

#157 You're Not Pretty...

As always, tear out the tags that are holding you back and attach tags that will empower you to be emboldened.

Bee Evans

Think of the most important person in your life...

Now imagine that you had walked right past that person because you had your eyes on your cell phone, you had headphones in your ears or you were too busy to notice them. 

Everyday, we have opportunities to interact with perfect strangers and we forget to look for the special ones that are meant to stick around in our lives. We literally choose to walk by extraordinary people everyday because we are living life in fast forward or we forget to recognize the blank spaces that we have open in our own lives that are just waiting to be filled with new mentorship. 

James Norris, with Handi Capable Fitness, is a prime example of #everydayextraordinary. If I had been unlucky in my life and had tripped past his extraordinary story and inspiring journey, I would have missed out on learning, friendship, inspiration, encouragement, laughter and many other extraordinary people that James has introduced me to. 

James entered this beautiful world wearing the tag #extraordinary AND immediately began building #resilience as he learned to grow thrive with #cerebralpalsy.

In today's podcast episode 158. Everyday Extraordinary, James shares his heart and his truth with you vulnerably, while he also compassionately shatters assumptions that you might have of him. 

To learn more about James Norris and his incredible non-profit organization visit www.handicapablefitness.com and follow him @handi_capable_fitness

"Oh my gosh, you're sooooo pretty", they say. 

This is a compliment that seems to be thrown around regularly and a word that holds very little substance as it's defined differently through the eyes of the person handing out the tag. 

What do you think of the words pretty and beautiful? 

Have you ever looked up the definitions?!?!

Beautiful 

(n) 1. a combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight. 

"I was stuck by her beauty"

(n) 2. a beautiful woman

Do you know what the antonym of beautiful woman is...

#UGLY WOMAN

That feels pretty gross to me, all together. The only problem is the definition of pretty is just as bad, if not worse!

Pretty

(n) 1. an attractive thing, typically a pleasing but unnecessary accessory. 

!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOPE, no thanks !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

These are two words that you might hand to the woman you love or words that, as a woman you're used to hearing. Even worse, these might be words that you yearn to hear as a woman. 

BUT YOU'RE SO MUCH MORE than beautiful and pretty. 

What is the most extraordinary compliment you've ever received?