Do you want 2023 to be your year? The year you finally stick to your goal and you don't quit. If so listen to this - the secret to achieving you goal is in this podcast.

Thank you so much for tuning in for 410 episodes (or however many you have listened to) this is the end of new episodes for Mama's Daily Dose for now, but take a look at the other 409 episodes, re-listen, find new ones and keep taking action towards your "more."

Something is always more than nothing!

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“If you want to create a new self, you first have to stop being the old self.” - Dr. Joe Dispenza

This is a Throwback Thursday quote that we used last year on the last Thursday of the year as well. It's a great reminder going into this season of change and goal setting that if you want to be, do and have something different; you must first become someone different than who you are right now. And if you become someone different, you must stop being the current you.

Do you want to see some kind of change in 2023?
In order to change you have to do something different. To become someone new you have to first stop being the old you.
 
What is one thing you can STOP doing in order to become the person you want to be?
Pick 1 small thing. The same as we talk about starting new habits with small actions, you can stop your ineffective actions with small habits. 

Tune in tomorrow for our last episode of Mama's Daily Dose! Don't worry the 410 episodes will still be here for you to repeat and I'm going to share the secret of how to actually achieve your goal next year and every goal after that!

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As much as I love learning and growing from nonfiction books, I also love a great story and fiction works as well! And I've learned as much from characters and themes in fiction as I have from nonfiction.

Also, we all need something light to read! I enjoy reading fiction before bed.

For all the books I've read this year (and previous years) check out my IG highlights under 2022 books (and there are also highlights for previous years.)
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If you have some favorite books be sure to share with me in on IG.

Top Fiction Books of 2022
PeachTree Bluff Series by Kristy Woodson Harvey
Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty
Miles High Series by T.L. Swan

Okay, I know I cheated a bit since two of the books are actually series, but they can be grouped together! 

Happy Reading!

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I love books! And I love sharing great books that have had an impact on me.

For all the books I've read this year (and previous years) check out my IG highlights under 2022 books (and there are also highlights for previous years.)
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Top Nonfiction books of 2022:
High Performance Habits by Brendon Bruchard - also love his planner that you can get on Amazon and his website
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
This Naked Mind by Annie Grace
Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki

Honorable Mention:
Mindset by Carol Dweck
Find Your People by Jennie Allen
Grit by Angela Duckworth

Tune in tomorrow for the top fiction books.

Also, this will be the last week of the podcast! Episode 410 will be the final episode of Mama's Daily Dose. Thank you so much for going on this journey and taking this time for you, to improve yourself, get your more not only for yourself; but for you kids and future generations. 

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IG -@MeghanQBarrett

You've been working on the actions and asking yourself questions to bring you to this point today!

A way to keep track of the years, what you've done, what you've learned and what your dreams and goals are for the future year.

 Do you ever feel like you have so much to do and not enough time?

You have these wishes and dreams for the future, but they seem so far off?

You’re so focused on the “what if…” that you just get stuck where you are.

It’s a fun dance between reflection and looking to the future that will get you on the path to achieving your goals.

Appreciating and seeing what you have now and how far you’ve come already shows you that you are capable of those big dreams.

A yearly tradition I implemented to enjoy this dance is writing a letter to my future self at the end of each year. I then pack it away with Holiday decorations to open at the end of the year.

It’s an awesome keepsake to recount what has happened over the years, who you were and who you want to become.

Plus it’s pretty fun to see what I was doing 9 years ago!

Grab a pen and piece of paper and start writing to 2023 you. Here are some prompts below that I use but tailor it to what you want:

• ️What you learned ️ 
• What you loved️ 
• What you overcame️ 
• What you achieved ️ 
• What had a positive impact️ 
• What is different from last January ️ 
• What do you want to stop doing️ 
• What do you want to start doing️ 
• Your 2023 goals

It’s also a fun activity to do with the kids and teach them about goal setting. I started doing a shorter version of this with my 4.5 year old last year and will be doing it with boys this year (3&5).

Appreciate how far you’ve come and know that you are capable of moving so far forward as well.

Write a letter to your future self - 2023 you. You don't have to use my questions, but let future you know what happened this past year and what you are going to do in the coming year.

Pack it away with your holiday decorations and see how much you've changed next year! 

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Instead of saying, "What did you forget?"

Replace it with, "What did you remember."

Words are powerful! We put our energy and focus into what we say and believe.

This idea came from Marisa Peer who is British therapist, author and speaker and focuses on language. She says, "Changing one word will change their (children) life." 

She tells a story of how she would drop her daughter at school and when she got to the gate she would come running back to her and Marisa would say, "What have your remembered."

She would then focus on the fact that her daughter remembered before she got into school, instead of chastising her for forgetting something at home.

What this does is have your and your children focus on remembering instead of forgetting. When you tell yourself that you keep forgetting things or you have a horrible memory, you will focus on that and continue to to prove yourself right.

Whereas, if you focus on what you've remembered and tell yourself you have a good memory that is where your energy will go.

You aren't forgetting, you're remembering.

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"You cannot find peace by avoiding life."
- Virginia Wolf 

What do you use to escape what is going on in your life or how you are feeling?
We all have our own coping mechanisms to escape or get a little break from our lives and our emotions.
Some examples:

• Drinking
• Shopping
• Social Media
• Drugs
• Sex
• Gambling
• Eating

Identify your coping mechanism for when you feel like you need to escape, need a break or are feeling overwhelmed.

The first step is knowing that you are using a coping mechanism. Some mechanisms are effective and some are ineffective.

Over the past couple years I noticed I've been using alcohol and social media - neither of which are healthy for me or inline with my goals. I first had to recognize what I was really using these activities for - avoidance. Then once I realized I was avoiding something I was able to take a deep look at what I was avoiding.

The only way to really fix anything is to face it head on. Avoidance tends to cause more issues than it fixes.

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You have so much going on: juggling schedules, housework, health, drinking water, and so much more!

It can be difficult to keep all these things straight and in the forefront of your mind. 

The easiest way  to keep your goals and who you want to become on the top of your mind is to simplify it! Pick 1 word that you want to describe your next year.

Whenever you feel like you are wavering or forced with a difficult decision, come back to your guiding word.

Somee examples: 
abundance, bold, calm, challenge, dedicated, dream, empower, forgiveness, grace, gratitude, integrity, joy, kind, mindful, nurture, persistence, play, relationships, service, teach, whole, yes.

For 2023 I'm choosing focused. Whatever I am working on, or whomever I am with at the time I will be focused on that.

What is your word?

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Do you know what is really important to you?

What are your driving factors? What are your values? What are your non-negotiables?

If you can't quickly answers the top 3 things (or values) in your life that are important to you, there is a good change you are feeling a little lost or you have a difficult time making decisions.

I felt like something was missing for a long time. I was unable to make quick decisions because I couldn't decide what was really important to me.

When you are able to name and know your top 3 values then you have a guide and filter which you can quickly run decisions through. It takes away the much of the angst because you know why you are making the decision and you can do it that much quicker.

Pick your top 3 values. They don't have to be forever, but what are you top 3 NOW?

Use these as your guide. If you follow it, it will bring you closer to your goals and who you want to be without being distracted by other shiny things.

And before you set your goals for next year, know your values. If your goals are not inline with your values, your values will win out. 

For example, one of my values (my top value) is family first. I had a goal of building and online business that was taking time away from my family. My goal went against my value. There way not way to achieve my goal.

Know your values and ensure your goals are inline with them.

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IG -@MeghanQBarrett

What do you do when you start feeling overwhelmed and anxious? What if there was a quick way to reassure yourself and start feeling better instantly!?!

I saw this on Mel Robbins IG and has changed my anxiety and my first response when I am feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated.

She said, "If you woke up feeling anxious or overwhelmed this morning, put your hand on your heart, close your eyes and repeat: I'm okay. I'm safe. I'm loved."

I'm not kidding when I say this INSTANTLY brings my anxiety level down.

And it works on your kids too! When my son was extremely upset and I hugged him put my hand on his heart and said, "You're okay. You're safe. You're loved."

These are words we all need to hear. 

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