This episode looks at solutions for when screens and devices like tablets are causing conflict in the home, especially when it is time for them to be turned off!

Siblings will often find themselves in conflict over devices and screen time, whether arguments over whose turn it is, jealousy over differing time allowances and scenarios wherein the younger sibling is a thorn in the side of the older sibling.

Therapist, author and leading expert on youth and family dynamics, Laura Kastner, PhD, shares her expertise on behavioral management, and how it relates to sibling fights.

Also, author Emily Cherkin, MEd and researcher Caroline Fitzpatrick, PhD, share more ideas on preventing and responding to screen related meltdowns, setting boundaries, and fostering emotional regulation in our kids.

Practical tips include redirecting attention, "planned ignoring", and creating family screen time/media plans (or rules) with little kids—not just teens.

Featured Experts

Laura Kastner, PhD

Emily Cherkin, MEd

Caroline Fitzpatrick of, PhD

Books

Getting to calm & Wise-Minded Parenting, by Laura Kastner

The Screentime Solution, by Emily Cherkin

Research References

Fitzpatrick, C., et al. Early-Childhood Tablet Use and Outbursts of Anger. JAMA Pediatrics, 2024.

Additional Links

Family media plan for Tablets

Family media plan for Video Gaming

Time Code

00:00 Introduction to Planned Ignoring

00:19 Screen Time Struggles and Sibling Conflicts

01:20 Expert Insights: Laura Kastner

02:54 Behavioral Management Techniques

08:42 Handling Screen Time Tantrums

11:15 Practical Tips for Screen Time Transitions

14:06 Research on Screen Time and Emotional Regulation

18:55 Creating Family Screen Plans

19:51 Conclusion and Resources