You've heard the story about the frog and the kettle. It's the slowly heating water that sneaks up on the frog before it can react.

Turns out, frogs are smarter than that. They jump when things get dangerous.

But the metaphor survives because it describes something we do in marriage.

Except our kettle doesn't heat up. It cools down.

Most couples hit a pause button at some point — kids, career, a season of life that demands everything. The intention is good: we've got this, we'll get back to us later.

The problem is, there's no suspended animation in a relationship.

When you step back from connection, the marriage doesn't hold still. It starts cooling. Slowly. Below the surface. Often for years before you notice.

In this episode, I walk you through how it happens, why we miss it, and what it takes to reverse it.

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