Are you craving better communication during your spouse's deployment or TDY? 

I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to deployment communication, and providing actionable tips to improve communication that allow you to connect deeper with your spouse, even across different time zones and limited availability.

Deployments and TDYs bring unique communication challenges, but with the right mindset and strategies, you can maintain a healthy and meaningful connection with your partner. 

So don't just accept that deployment communication will not be great while they’re away. Join me in this episode as we explore:

• Four practical ways to improve communication during deployment

• How you can get what you need most when your spouse is away

• Ways to approach the conversation when there is something pressing you need answered or you have something bothering you

• An effective tool you can use anytime to improve communication

• How your mindset plays a crucial role in all of this

FREE CHALLENGE! How to get through deployment without dread, resentment or fights: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/july-2023-challenge

Check out my course for more support during deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Ever have that sinking feeling when your spouse's promises start fizzling out?

We've all been there, wondering why they aren't following through after promising they’ll communicate at set times during deployment, or even pick up something they promised after work.

But here's the kicker: solving this problem doesn't have to lead to a fight! Join me as we dive into real-life scenarios, uncover the hidden negativity, and discover the secrets to rebuilding trust without causing a major meltdown in your relationship.

We’re exploring:

• Scenarios from my own marriage and my clients’ relationships (and how you can overcome and even grow stronger in the process)

• Why we try to make lack of follow-throughs mean something more than they really are

• How small things can chip away at the trust you have for your spouse and what you need to pay attention to for rebuilding that trust

• The best thing you can do to remain a solid team

• Five steps to successfully repair trust based on psychological research 

• Why it’s so difficult for our spouses to make a repair (and two ways we can make it easier for them to communicate about it)

Check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you ever find yourself longing to rediscover the person you are beyond the role of a military spouse?

Our identities, goals, and dreams outside of being a military spouse are essential to our well-being, yet they can feel so challenging and even beyond reach at times. However, not pursuing our desires can negatively impact our marriage, and lead to resentment and conflict. 

Molly Rose has found a way to help us as military spouses have everything we want AND stay married. This is something that will allow us to show up more for ourselves, our marriages, and our families.

Her mission is to support military spouses by creating remote work and rewarding careers. She is the creator of Virtual Assistant Academy, which provides trusted virtual assistance solutions and flawless tech execution services for busy entrepreneurs and business owners. 

If you find yourself thinking, “I just need something for me”, you want to step into an exciting role outside of being a military spouse, or you desire to add extra income each month that allows you to get support however you need it most, then this episode is for you.

We’re exploring:

• Molly’s transition from climbing the corporate ladder to training others how to become Virtual Assistants

• What a Virtual Assistant is (and the various aspects of working from home)

• The benefits of being a Virtual Assistant (especially as a military spouse)

• How having a flexible job impacts our marriages

• The skills you have as a military spouse that you can get paid for RIGHT NOW

Learn more about Molly Rose at virtualassistantacademy.com

Connect on Instagram: @mollyrosespeed

Get the needed support during your next deployment: In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Maybe you have thought or even said out loud, “I can’t do this anymore”. We all know how challenging marriage can be, and trust me when I say I completely get it. Today I am sharing one of THE hardest moments in my marriage. The moment I felt the most uncertain. The moment I didn’t know if we were going to make it through.

In an effort to be more open and normalize the difficulties in marriage (yes - even as a marriage psychologist I still have difficulties in my marriage!), I am sharing my struggle that I’ve safely kept behind closed doors, until today. I will take you on my personal journey of how we overcame the “this isn’t working anymore” moment in our marriage.

We’re exploring:

• A vulnerable story of when I wanted out of our marriage

• Four steps we used (and still use today in difficult times!) to overcome the biggest challenge in our marriage we’ve ever had

• What you can do to make your spouse feel confident in how they are supporting you

• How to turn TO each other and work as a team when you’d rather figure things out on your own

• What you can say and do for each other so you both feel better, faster

Looking for support during deployment? Look no further! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Krista got the call. The one every single one of us dreads, the absolute worst-case scenario. Join us inside this courageous conversation where she shares her unimaginable tragedy and how she created something so beautiful from it. Together, we discuss the resources available to you in these situations, how to normalize moving through feelings of healing while reminding you to have the difficult planning conversations now so you can both be prepared for anything.

We’re exploring:

• How to give yourself grace when you feel the need to be strong all the time
• The ways the military community kept showing up for Krista when her direct connection to the military was gone
• Foundations and organizations every military spouse should be aware of for support on this journey
• Top questions to ask your spouse, so you both can have an extreme understanding should something happen to either one of you
• Resources to reach out to if you’re experiencing financial hardship 
• How to thrive in our role as a military spouse for ultimate preparation
• And so much more!

The Military Life Binder : ​​https://www.listandfile.com/

Keeper Security password manager: https://www.keepersecurity.com/ 

The Unquiet Professional, making noise for those who serve: https://www.theunquietprofessional.org/

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Available now! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/44943126970086

What do you do when you want out of the military, your marriage… or both? 

Reaching this breaking point is all too common in military spouse life. You feel broken down, it seems impossible you’ll ever get out, and you have no energy or emotion left to give. 

Take heart, you’re not alone.

When you find yourself at your breaking point (or to prepare for next time you want out), this episode walks you through how to get in the best possible place yourself in order to make these hard decisions.

We’re exploring:

• The first thing you can do when you are at your breaking point

• One difference-maker that will help you feel better and have more confidence you are making the best decision

• What you should NEVER do when you are in a dark emotional space

• When to have conversations with your spouse about wanting out (and how to prepare for it)

• How to keep yourself from saying or doing something you’ll regret (and also how to better understand and support each other)

• One tool anyone can use to help you gain clarity on the best decision for you 

Come along with me while my spouse is deployed and we can support each other! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you dealing with a spouse who refuses counseling? I’ve been in your shoes and understand just how frustrating it can be. You feel completely stuck and not sure what to do to move your relationship forward. 

In this episode, we dive into why your partner isn’t accepting help and what you can do about it. Spoiler alert: It’s not about convincing them. Listen in to get a better understanding of what your spouse may be thinking and arm yourself with tools to communicate what you need for a stronger marriage.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The reasons why your spouse may be against marriage counseling or coaching

• Why friends and family are not the people who can best support you

• How to bring up the topic of counseling without causing a fight

• What we need to do to have a more productive conversation

• One game-changing tool to help you understand your partner better

• How to communicate (not convince!) your reasons for wanting to get support and why it’s important to you

In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage! Access now: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you struggling to maintain connection with your spouse, whether they are away or at home? 

I expect there to be dips in connection within every relationship, but it’s especially difficult in a military marriage. Figuring out how to feel more connected emotionally when you’re already feeling disconnected physically is HARD.

Good news! Military life does not have to impact the connection you have with your spouse if you are intentional about the five things I’m sharing in this episode. 

We’re exploring:

• What to do when you feel resentment towards the military for losing connection with your spouse

• One powerful decision that will change the way you show up for each other

• How your thoughts can work against what you really want in your relationship

• Two assumptions you can immediately put to rest to feel more connected to your spouse

• The danger of relying on other people to determine how you feel

• One key to making this lifestyle work for both of you

Join here for access to my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Want to know how we can better support the unique and diverse experiences of military spouses of color?

Joelle Clayborne is an advocate for mental health services, Gen Z military spouses, and military spouses of color. She is an expert in Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion, as well as a freelance consultant, author, content creator, and military spouse. 

For anyone wanting to bridge the gap in race, age, and diverse perceptions of the military, this episode is a must listen! From topics such as embracing our identities as military spouses, to addressing our biases, to starting conversations that support military spouses of color, you don’t want to miss this very important conversation. 

We’re exploring:

• How being a military spouse impacts Joelle’s mental health (and what helps her improve mental wellness)
• Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in the military
• What Joelle believes is massively helpful for military spouses of color 
• How to start conversations that support military spouses of color
• Joelle’s three steps to addressing race and inclusivity

• Website: https://www.joelleclayborne.com/
• Podcast: Business DEI Under 5

• Harvard Implicit Bias Test: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/user/agg/blindspot/indexrk.htm

• I'm a Black Military Spouse—Here's How Our Family Navigates Life as a Black Military Family
• Down in the Trenches…. Life as a Black Military Spouse
• BLACK HISTORY MONTH THROUGH THE EYES OF A MILITARY SPOUSE
• SPOTLIGHT ON BLACK/AFRICAN-AMERICAN MILITARY FAMILIES
• Fostering an Inclusive Community for BIPOC Spouses
• The struggles of Military Spouses of color

• Blackmilitarywives.com | Black Military Wives Instagram
• Esposas Militares Hispanas

• Does Ethnicity Affect the Coping of Military Spouses?
• Understanding Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in Defense Communities
• Diversity in U.S. Military Families

• The Mocha Manual to Military Life: A Savvy Guide for Wives, Girlfriends, and Female Service Members

In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage (available now!): https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

I love research y’all. I stumbled across an 85 year Harvard study recently that blew my mind. It sent me into deep-dive research mode, and I came out of that wanting to share what I learned with you in this episode: what will make you happy, healthy, and live longer.

This episode validates what I have personally learned and experienced as a Military Psychologist and Marriage Coach. I only want to share things with you that are backed by research and apply to ALL of us, not only a handful of my clients. This is something we need to be prioritizing and talking about more with those around us. So, listen in to learn what makes the biggest difference in our happiness above anything else, so you can start implementing this in your life today.

We’re exploring:

• The #1 thing that contributes to us living happier, healthier, and longer

• What does NOT make us happier (that most of us think will)

• How our mood and experience of physical and emotional pain are impacted by relationships

• Harmful thinking that prevents couples from getting what they want

• What we need to be prioritizing over everything else for the biggest positive change in our lives

• Why this is crucial for military couples specifically

AVAILABLE NOW! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869