While holidays may look different for everyone, the spirit of the season is gratitude and family. Zaiba and Uzma discuss their "Thanksgiving" histories and how they became enlightened by motherhood, adulthood, and "getting woke" to all the hidden truths they didn't learn as American kids. How do we come to grips with our dark past to push a better way forward?
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1) To learn a more just view of American history the average school board will not approve, read A History of Us by Joy Hakim:   http://www.joyhakim.com/ (MWM has no financial interest in this series; this is what Uzma ACTUALLY uses to teach US History at home!)
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Zaiba & Uzma, as big fans of FYI, want all moms to know about the amazing resources FYI makes available on teen device use, suicide, being a black Muslim teen, how to talk to our kids, and SO MUCH MORE. You don't need to have kids to benefit either! Share what you learn today and earn hasanah (reward) for it. All of our links should be SUPER EASY to memorize!
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When are we being paranoid and when are we being stereotypical ourselves? Muslim-American moms have to be extra careful to be friendly enough, but also safety savvy in a way other moms don’t. The identity of “being stuck” or “ABCD” vs. the firmly planted identities of native-born Muslim-American children will be addressed as well as offensive vs. intentional curiosity.
Let’s talk about discrimination, hijab, Muslim identity, and how we plan to shape the paths our kids will tread in the future.

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On retreat this week with a special and recurring guest, Rubina Cohen, Zaiba and Uzma review the last 6 months of podcasting: what they’ve learned, what else is coming, and how they plan to improve to suit their Muslim American mom sisters.

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Zaiba and her husband take time to sit down and talk about the importance of being on the same page while raising children.   How they set goals for themselves, their children and learn their secret to raising kids that are not attached to their phones. 

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This week, Uzma's pre adolescent son, Usman, provides points for Muslim American moms to be successful and operate better on their day to day. See if you think what he says is just for Muslim American moms or not, and maybe you'll find a pleasant surprise.
There are plenty of revelations for some here, at least for those who have been raised with some "back home" style parenting, but most of this young man's sage advice is now common knowledge, and we hope to break cycles of negative parenting with better tools. We're all a work in progress. Even better is the great news Usman offers about his own experiences with discrimination at school, and we can only hope that every Muslim kid in this country feels the same way.
A nice pearl today is a quick guide for the Muslim American, or any, family, so make sure you listen to the end! Don't forget to rate and review this episode, or DM/PM on FB or IG.

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Come unpack all the guilt Muslim moms feel and what we can do about it. We try to prove that everything we feel guilty about is made up, and remind ourselves about the Thought Model as well as, oh yeah, Allah's promise to us! Explore the limited resources we have to learn more about Muslim mom guilt from the professionals (why aren't more people studying this?!?!?), but mostly feel better about the choices we have to make on a daily basis for our families.

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1) Definitions and clinical info: https://www.mindfulreturn.com/mom-guilt/
2) Information on Muslim mom guilt that is a unique resource for us: https://productivemuslim.com/guide-for-working-muslim-moms/
3) A layperson's perspective on mom guilt and deciding between work or being SAHM ( also one of the WORST articles we’ve ever read on the subject): https://muslimmatters.org/2010/06/16/my-dear-sister-submit-for-your-babys-sake/
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Zaiba and Uzma explore the mom bully and how she is definitely one of the toxic people in our lives. They discuss how to identify bullying behavior some adults demonstrate, review instances of being bullied themselves, and how to avoid becoming one. The mom field is supposed to elevate all of us, not push anyone down! How can we work so hard to raise awesome humans and not strive to be the same ourselves?!?!? This is one you want to listen to until the end because there are a lot of pearls in it to attain our best Muslim mom selves.
Thanks to the wonderful listener who asked us to talk about this today. We welcome more ideas and concerns you want us to discuss.

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1)  Rising above mean moms: https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/dorathy-gass/i-was-bullied-by-another-mom-so-i-put-on-a-smile-and-rose-above_a_23347952/
2) 7 Ways to deal with moms that bully other mothers: https://www.verywellfamily.com/ways-to-deal-with-mean-moms-that-bully-4125597
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After a singular incident, Zaiba and Uzma talk about what it feels like to be invisible despite showing up every day in a million big and small ways for our kids. They recount what it feels like to be "the one" as well as "the none" in the family. Maternal identity, being seen, being appreciated and the opposite of all those show up on today's episode. Review some more thought models and come feel better about our common pitfalls and how we get out of those negative spirals through prayer and reflection.

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1) Nicole Johnson's article on several sites: https://justbetweenus.org/relationships/parenting-advice/the-invisible-mother/
2) Mothers' rights in Islam: https://justbetweenus.org/relationships/parenting-advice/the-invisible-mother/
3) Molly DeFrank's article about 4 kids and all the browsers was actually on "Scary Mommy": https://www.scarymommy.com/what-to-expect-four-kids/
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