Mommying While Muslim

Today's episode features TWO special guests, CCF Associate Director Leena Al Arian and Legal Director Kathy Manley. Leena has lived through the arrest and detention of a family member and can speak to the psychological effects on families of laws that target and entrap Muslims in the United States since 9/11. Ms. Manley describes the legal realities uniquely faced by Muslims in the United States, forcing us to pay attention to the laws in our country and working to support those affected by them.

1) CCF, its work, scope, and read about actual cases of Muslim entrapment: https://www.civilfreedoms.org/
2)  Post 9/11 the United States passed the USA Patriot Act: https://www.justice.gov/archive/ll/highlights.htm
3) How the court can use "secret evidence" against Muslims: https://www.justice.gov/jm/criminal-resource-manual-2054-synopsis-classified-information-procedures-act-cipa
4) Support the CCF by lobbying your representatives to pass the Entrapment and Governmental Overreach Relief Act (EGO): http://www.civilfreedoms.org/?p=26318
5) Documentary on the Sami Al Arian case and its effects on his family: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EaGQ1fn9_Cs&feature=youtu.be&mc_cid=f72caa9b05&mc_eid=9cb265aff7
6) Mistaken identity and freedom after 15 years: http://www.yassinaref.com/index.php
7) Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
8) Email: [email protected]
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10) IG: @moomyingwhilemuslimpodcast

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FACE is helping us spiritually and physically cleanse our worship spaces of the crimes of hidden marriages, physical, sexual, and financial abuse that sometimes occurs by leadership. Although our minority Muslim community plays ostrich, MWM is not about that game. We want our masajid to recruit the right people to guide our families, and stop protecting leadership at the expense of those affected by abuse--the ones abused, which could include our children and families. Brush the sand off your backs and tune in!

Links:
1) Read the full reports of those accused on FACE and find out how to support their very important work:  https://facetogether.org/
2)  Get more information in mandatory reporting laws in your state: https://criminal.findlaw.com/criminal-charges/mandatory-reporting-laws-child-abuse-and-neglect.html
3) Website: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
4) FB: Mommying While Muslim
5) IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast
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This episode is NOT meant to be heard by children unless our mom audience feels they're ready for it. If you're a survivor of any sexual trauma, as a child or as an adult, you may not be ready for it either, so gauge your ability to revisit the past. We are here for you either way. If you need resources to deal with PTSD due to a history of abuse, we have links for you below, and we are always just a DM/PM or email away.

This episode IS meant to prepare us to hear the hard truths about child sex abuse, such as our personal experiences with it, how pervasive it is, and also new things like how subversive it can be. Learn about grooming, disclosure, even forgivenesss, and how to be the safety net our kids need in the event that the worst should happen; may Allah SWT protect them all always. Ameen. We have made ourselves incredibly vulnerable in this episode because we trust our Muslim and non Muslim mom sisters to receive these hard truths in love and compassion, and to offer thosein turn to themselves, as well as to their children. We are not alone in this.

Sexual abuse doesn't happen because we are Americans and that's "this culture." NO! Sexual abuse doesn't monopolize any one country or society. Many cultures within and without the US have to deal with it, but we have the opportunity to dive deep into this difficult topic and figure out how to prevent and treat it. Mommying means rolling up our sleeves for the sake of the kids and our God-given duty to protect them at all costs.

Shariea is on the money when she says education is the best prevention, so that's where most of this conversation will be. Hugs for anyone who needs them after this one! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review this episode on your podcast app of choice, or engage on social media with us. We can't wait to find out if this was helpful to you or not.

Links:
1) Contact Shariea Shoatz directly to buy My Voice is MY Superpower:
2) Email: [email protected]
3) FB Shariea Shoatz
4) IG @shariea_shoatz
5) Find out more about Megan's Law and how you can access sex offender registries in your state: https://criminal.findlaw.com/criminal-charges/megan-s-law-resources-by-state.html
5) Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
6) Email: [email protected]
7) FB: Mommying While Muslim
8) IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast
9) Contact RAINN for 25 years of sexual abuse resources such as a 24/7 helpline: https://www.rainn.org/
10) Contact Naseeha for Muslim youth helplines: https://naseeha.org/
11) Contact Seema for Muslim mental health resources: https://seemamentalhealth.com/

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While holidays may look different for everyone, the spirit of the season is gratitude and family. Zaiba and Uzma discuss their "Thanksgiving" histories and how they became enlightened by motherhood, adulthood, and "getting woke" to all the hidden truths they didn't learn as American kids. How do we come to grips with our dark past to push a better way forward?
Pull up a chair to find out.
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Links:
1) To learn a more just view of American history the average school board will not approve, read A History of Us by Joy Hakim:   http://www.joyhakim.com/ (MWM has no financial interest in this series; this is what Uzma ACTUALLY uses to teach US History at home!)
2) Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
3) Email: [email protected]
4) FB: Mommying While Muslim
5) IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast

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Zaiba & Uzma, as big fans of FYI, want all moms to know about the amazing resources FYI makes available on teen device use, suicide, being a black Muslim teen, how to talk to our kids, and SO MUCH MORE. You don't need to have kids to benefit either! Share what you learn today and earn hasanah (reward) for it. All of our links should be SUPER EASY to memorize!
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Links:
1) The Family & Youth Institute: https://www.thefyi.org/--don't forget to check out the infographics and toolkits section, as well as the workshops you can bring to YOUR halaqa, masjid, community center, etc.
2) Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
3) Email: [email protected]
4) FB: Mommying While Muslim
5) IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast

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When are we being paranoid and when are we being stereotypical ourselves? Muslim-American moms have to be extra careful to be friendly enough, but also safety savvy in a way other moms don’t. The identity of “being stuck” or “ABCD” vs. the firmly planted identities of native-born Muslim-American children will be addressed as well as offensive vs. intentional curiosity.
Let’s talk about discrimination, hijab, Muslim identity, and how we plan to shape the paths our kids will tread in the future.

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On retreat this week with a special and recurring guest, Rubina Cohen, Zaiba and Uzma review the last 6 months of podcasting: what they’ve learned, what else is coming, and how they plan to improve to suit their Muslim American mom sisters.

Links

1) The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary, PhD

2) Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com

3) Email: [email protected]

4) FB: Mommying While Muslim 

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Zaiba and her husband take time to sit down and talk about the importance of being on the same page while raising children.   How they set goals for themselves, their children and learn their secret to raising kids that are not attached to their phones. 

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This week, Uzma's pre adolescent son, Usman, provides points for Muslim American moms to be successful and operate better on their day to day. See if you think what he says is just for Muslim American moms or not, and maybe you'll find a pleasant surprise.
There are plenty of revelations for some here, at least for those who have been raised with some "back home" style parenting, but most of this young man's sage advice is now common knowledge, and we hope to break cycles of negative parenting with better tools. We're all a work in progress. Even better is the great news Usman offers about his own experiences with discrimination at school, and we can only hope that every Muslim kid in this country feels the same way.
A nice pearl today is a quick guide for the Muslim American, or any, family, so make sure you listen to the end! Don't forget to rate and review this episode, or DM/PM on FB or IG.

Links:
1) Website: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
2) Email: [email protected]
3) FB: Mommying While Muslim
4) IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast

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Come unpack all the guilt Muslim moms feel and what we can do about it. We try to prove that everything we feel guilty about is made up, and remind ourselves about the Thought Model as well as, oh yeah, Allah's promise to us! Explore the limited resources we have to learn more about Muslim mom guilt from the professionals (why aren't more people studying this?!?!?), but mostly feel better about the choices we have to make on a daily basis for our families.

Links:
1) Definitions and clinical info: https://www.mindfulreturn.com/mom-guilt/
2) Information on Muslim mom guilt that is a unique resource for us: https://productivemuslim.com/guide-for-working-muslim-moms/
3) A layperson's perspective on mom guilt and deciding between work or being SAHM ( also one of the WORST articles we’ve ever read on the subject): https://muslimmatters.org/2010/06/16/my-dear-sister-submit-for-your-babys-sake/
4) Website: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
5) Email: [email protected]
6) FB: Mommying While Muslim
7) IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast

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1. Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com

2. Email: [email protected]

3. FB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim group

4. IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast

5. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w