Mommying While Muslim

Zaiba and Uzma explore the mom bully and how she is definitely one of the toxic people in our lives. They discuss how to identify bullying behavior some adults demonstrate, review instances of being bullied themselves, and how to avoid becoming one. The mom field is supposed to elevate all of us, not push anyone down! How can we work so hard to raise awesome humans and not strive to be the same ourselves?!?!? This is one you want to listen to until the end because there are a lot of pearls in it to attain our best Muslim mom selves.
Thanks to the wonderful listener who asked us to talk about this today. We welcome more ideas and concerns you want us to discuss.

Links:
1)  Rising above mean moms: https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/dorathy-gass/i-was-bullied-by-another-mom-so-i-put-on-a-smile-and-rose-above_a_23347952/
2) 7 Ways to deal with moms that bully other mothers: https://www.verywellfamily.com/ways-to-deal-with-mean-moms-that-bully-4125597
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After a singular incident, Zaiba and Uzma talk about what it feels like to be invisible despite showing up every day in a million big and small ways for our kids. They recount what it feels like to be "the one" as well as "the none" in the family. Maternal identity, being seen, being appreciated and the opposite of all those show up on today's episode. Review some more thought models and come feel better about our common pitfalls and how we get out of those negative spirals through prayer and reflection.

Links:
1) Nicole Johnson's article on several sites: https://justbetweenus.org/relationships/parenting-advice/the-invisible-mother/
2) Mothers' rights in Islam: https://justbetweenus.org/relationships/parenting-advice/the-invisible-mother/
3) Molly DeFrank's article about 4 kids and all the browsers was actually on "Scary Mommy": https://www.scarymommy.com/what-to-expect-four-kids/
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Tara Ijai  has been the Muslim poster child of combating Islamaphobia and all hate since the Women's March. Her journey to make the world a more loving place has been original and necessary, affecting how she lives as a Muslim American and how she raises her kids in this environment. Early on she made the front page of USA Today on 2/27/17 right under POTUS' picture! Her latest projects in El Paso are inspiring, as is this conversation about how to be true to oneself. Check out her website and get your own original Love Glasses. get 10% off with code "mommying," and take the Love Pledge to see the world through love.

Links:
1) Get your Love Glasses with code "mommying" for 10% off today: https://www.myloveglasses.com/
2) Subscribe to LG On YouTube, or just check out their special project in El Paso: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxkqUPZWNog1d08ZU2vrYdQ
3) FB: Love Glasses Revolution
4) FB: Love Rebels Unite
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Links:
1) Check out the MIST website to find the region closest to you to get started/join a team at your school: www.getmistified.com
2) Email for more info on MIST: [email protected]
3) Find out more about MWM and read our blog on "Voices": www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
4) Check us out on FB: Mommying While Muslim
5) Also on IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast
6) Email us questions or ideas you have for the show: [email protected]
7) Watch Netflix "Resurrection" to see how a famous international series STOLE the MIST logo! We were ROFL!

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How are we all doing the same thing, how are we different? We will talk about lunch prep, to snack or not to snack, "over" scheduling, bulletproof backpacks, and protractors, school dinner nights, and what back to school brings to our lives (and sometimes takes from it!). Join us to commiserate or to feel better about how you do things at home.

Links:
1) Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
2) Email: [email protected]
3) FB: Mommying While Muslim-check out Zaiba's beautiful lunch prep fridge and bike lock here!
4) IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast-check out Zaiba's beautiful lunch prep fridge and bike lock here!
5) Google "bulletproof backpack" to get a bunch of companies selling these--Zaiba thought about it, Uzma did not!

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In this episode of Mommying While Muslim, Zaiba goes on location to her parent’s house.  That’s where she sits down with her mother and mother-in-law to ask them provoking questions about mothering, Islam, and America.  Zaiba hears for the first time exactly why her mom converted from Christianity to Islam and why her mother-in-law’s first experience in the United States was so disappointing. 

Links: 

Website: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
Email: [email protected]
FB: Mommying While Muslim
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Susan Yasen Tirhi, PhD joins Zaiba and Uzma to discuss the multiple stressors facing our families today and the coping skills they may need to help build resiliency. We really encourage everyone to go through the links below as they're terrific resources in helping us understand how to better our community. This is a great listen for allies who want to support their Muslim friends, neighbors, and families.

Links:
1) Check out Susan's study abstract:
https://academiccommons.columbia.edu/doi/10.7916/d8-12gn-m557
2) Nabra Hassanen case:
https://wamu.org/story/19/03/28/virginia-man-sentenced-to-life-in-prison-in-murder-of-nabra-hassanen/
3) Microaggressions and Islamaophobia by Afshana Haque, PhD, LMFT:
https://www.meta.org/papers/microaggressions-and-islamophobia-experiences-of/29855055
4) Racial microaggression pictures to study:
https://www.buzzfeed.com/hnigatu/racial-microagressions-you-hear-on-a-daily-basis
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6) Email: [email protected]
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The 56th annual ISNA Convention is upon us---that's right, over FIFTY years!--providing crucial family programming as well as opportunities for individual development of faith, business, and personal growth. This is THE PLACE to go every Labor Day weekend, especially for those of us wanting to instill the value of Muslim American identity in our kids. They need to feel like they belong, as do we, and where better than at the single largest convention of Muslims on the continent?

Don't forget to register and attend as spots are still open for certain limited engagements. Ahem, "Trevor Noah," and Uncle Bernie in the house!!!! There are loads of free opportunities at the convention as well, so don't miss out.

Contact us if you ever want to get in touch with our speakers or have a question we can pass on for you!

Links:
1) Register for ISNA ASAP! https://isnacon.com/
2) FB: Islamic Society of North America
3) IG: @isnahq
4) Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com
5) Email: [email protected]
6) FB: Mommying While Muslim
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Ishaq Pathan of Islamic Network Group joins Uzma in discussing alarming statistics of Muslim students bullied for their religion in America. Find out about Islamaphobia networks and unique opportunities and programs ING as developed to combat them.

Links:

1. ING Know Your Neighbor Curriculum https://ing.org/kyn-curriculum-educators/#rights
   
   
2. CAIR Islamophobia and bullying study http://www.islamophobia.org/reports/200-civil-rights-report-2017-islamophobia-in-educational-institutions.html
   
   
3. Student Rights in School https://www.cair.com/your-legal-rights-as-a-student
   
   
4. Muslim Student Resource Handout on Bullying https://ing.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Student_Resources_Handout.pdf
   
   
5. Muslim Parent Resource Handout on Bullying https://ing.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Parental_Resources_Handout.pdf
   
   
6. INGYouth Program   https://ing.org/youth
   
   
7. ING Webinar on Supporting Children in Schoolhttps://ing.org/parent-webinar/
   
   
8. ING Bullying Prevention Guide   https://ing.org/bullying-prevention-guide/

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For all moms who care about our kids' learning, this is what you've been waiting for. Also, if you don't care about how our kids learn, please contact us because we've always wanted to meet a unicorn.
You're in for a treat to hear what Saira Siddiqui, M.Ed of Confessions of a Muslim Mom breaks down about traditional schooling, and the answer to educating our children to be "confident, compassionate, critically thinking changemakers." Totally stole that off her new course website (check it out below). We talk timelines, cultural norms and research, and their play on both secular and religious education. This may be the key to educating our children both in and out of the home, and to transforming our households.

Links:
1) "Unschooling Unveiled" a comprehensive how-to course sairasiddiqui.mykajabi.com/unschooling-unveiled
2) Unschooled by Kerri McDonald https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/unschooled-kerry-mcdonald/1129581165?ean=9781641600637#/ (support your local bookstores!)
3) FB: Confessions of a Muslim Mom
4) IG: @ confessionsofamuslimmom
5) Web: https://www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com and click on "Voices" for our blog
6) Email: [email protected]
7) FB: Mommying While Muslim
8) IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast

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2. Email: [email protected]

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5. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w