What does self-care mean to you? Scheduling a massage? Taking a lunchtime nap? Zoning out on your iPad at your hair appointment? This week, Stephanie and Melissa swap stories and feeeeeelings about self-care. Why is it so hard to do? Why do people shame you when you do make time for it? And how do we shed that guilt and just get the damn massage?

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Everyone can and should embrace their inner creative. Whether you’re a professional artist or you’re just trying to decorate your home, we all benefit from imagination and play sometimes. But sometimes it’s hardddddd. So what’s the solution? Meditating? Journaling? Taking a damn break? This week Stephanie and Melissa discuss how they developed their creative identities and share personal tips and tricks for getting that creativity faucet flowing.

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What is orange wine? Do you know what body means? How about legs? When you’re an adult, people usually expect you to know about things like crown molding, 401ks, osteoporosis and … wine. Today, Stephanie and Melissa welcome Lucia Palm (@lucialoveswine), certified sommelier and wine content creator and educator to ask her all the questions they've ever had about wine but have been too embarrassed to ask.

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The dreaded work party. It’s a party! There’s an open bar! But it’s also…work. How do you let loose and mingle freely when your boss is staring at you from behind the shrimp cocktail tower? This week Stephanie and Melissa discuss their Brooklyn 99 parties past and their struggles with striking the perfect professional balance at these events. Some takeaways: 1) No amount of free alcohol is worth getting fired. 2) Make a game plan before you go 3) Sometimes the answer is to simply sequester yourself in a corner with your friends

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This week we’re talking about S-E-X. What does owning *your* sexuality mean to you? Reading fairy smut? Wearing some really hot hot shorts and feeling good hot to go? Exploring BDSM? Sex in public? Or are you a little bit prude? All things go and all things welcome this week as Stephanie and Melissa have THE sex talk.

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It’s time for those summer vacations! This week, Stephanie and Melissa discuss their most memorable childhood family vacations — cruises, kids clubs, time-share presentations and all. Steph shares about her upcoming Italian adventure, and things get vulnerable when our hosts open up about their struggles to take time off and unplug. Should you answer those work e-mails when you're clocked out? Spoiler alert: Take the damn vacation (if you can). It’s good for your health.

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Figuring out who you are is tough enough — learning how to infuse that identity into your personal style is a whole different ~journey~. This week Stephanie and Melissa are joined by their shared stylist Ariel Tunnell to discuss their respective style journeys, swap shopping and dressing room tips and discuss Steph and Mel’s thoughts on the return of Y2K style. Can you guess who’s more of a “jeans and t-shirt” kinda girlie and who’s the Trend Queen?

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Making friends is harrrrrrrd! Stephanie and Melissa open up about just how difficult it can be to put yourself out there, especially the older you get. Stories about nightmare roommates and mom groups are swapped, cackles abound, and “How to Make Friends” tips from a bonafide friendship coach are put to the test during Nerd Time.

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Stephanie and Melissa face their guilty pleasures head-on and try to get better at releasing shame. Reality TV, chisme and “just f*cking resting” can trigger feelings of shame or guilt. How can they overcome it? And who said there had to be guilt in their pleasures in the first place? 

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The work of listening to yourself never ends …enter More Better; Stephanie Beatriz and Melissa Fumero introduce the podcast by discussing their identities and how they have stayed true to themselves and their friendship. On this inaugural episode with these off-screen besties, we go on a journey through Stephanie and Melissa’s own experiences with listening to themselves and that internal “tug” when you know something is right. Cups of coffee count: 1

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