Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Today we're chatting with Dr. Julie Carpenter about AI and its role in our relationships.

Dr. Julie Carpenter is a social scientist who studies how people relate to AI in its many forms, and how these interactions inform evolving ideas about self, identity, agency, and connection. Her research investigates the stories people construct around artificial beings and how those narratives influence the design and deployment of real-world AI. She is an external research fellow with the Ethics + Emerging Sciences Group at California Polytechnic State University and the author of The Naked Android: Synthetic Socialness and the Human Gaze, which unpacks how culture influences our expectations of robots, and why that matters.

Find more about Dr. Julie Carpenter on her website https://jgcarpenter.com/

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Today we're discussing our drive to seek security in relationships, especially as economic uncertainty increases, and how sometimes, that can turn around and bite us. We'll be talking about why we seek security in relationships, some paradoxes of security, and as always, some tools to help better understand your own behavior around seeking security in your relationships.

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Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Today we're fielding another question from one of our Supercast subscribers. We'll be discussing how to handle your metamour not wanting to meet you or be a part of your life.

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Today we're talking about emotional intelligence, self-sabotage, and being objective about our thoughts and emotions. Have you ever had a thought that won't go away for a long time, especially a negative one about yourself? Sometimes our insecurities take advantage of us and encourage us to engage in self-sabotaging behavior. We're going to talk today about how to practice emotional regulation, self-sabotaging behavior, and more!

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We're revisiting agreements, but this time with ourselves, not others. We're going to be talking about agreements, self agreements, how they differ from boundaries, and ways to generate self agreements so that you can start exploring what you expect from yourself in relationships versus what you expect from others.

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This week we're bringing back a remastered episode about the ghosts of relationships past...and getting into a good relationship after being in a bad one. Do you have trouble trusting a good relationship? Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop and things to turn bad? You might be suffering from relationship PTSD, which can inhibit your ability to enjoy a good, healthy relationship. Particularly if you have a history of past abusive, manipulative, controlling, or coercive, you can have trouble being present and open with a current partner.

We're going to be diving into how relationship trauma can influence our present relationships, healthy behaviors that can seem destabilizing after a poor relationship, and some actionable ways you can help yourself heal and receive the love that's currently in front of you.

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Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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This week, we're answering a question from one of our subscribers: how do I introduce my polyamorous partner to my monogamous parents?

We'll be discussing ways to approach coming out to family, share some tips on how to make social situations run smoothly, and ways to handle potential conflict or big emotions.

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Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Today, we're discussing why we struggle to put the communication and relationship lessons we learn into practice. Current generations are more therapy-literate than ever, but that doesn't mean our relationships are healthier. What happens when everyone knows the psychological buzzwords but hasn't done the deeper work of integration and change? We're diving into the reasons why learning how to do relationships better isn’t always enough, talk about the research available on the topic, and of course, finally give you some practical tools to bridge the gap between insight and real change.

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Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Welcome back to our series on control! This week, we're talking about control from the perspective of the person who wants to have the control or power in the relationship. There are a multitude of reasons why someone might want to control another person, which we're going to explore in this episode. We'll also discuss the science of control, and talk about a few ways one can move away from controlling behavior and towards a more loving and equitable relationship.

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Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Welcome to part one of our deep dive into control in relationships! Every relationship has power dynamics, but when they get out of control it can be devastating. In this episode, we'll be discussing the experience of loss of control in a relationship, why it might happen, and what to do if you find yourself on this end of the control spectrum.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.