Annette Oltmans describes her marriage to a covert emotionally abusive man and the subsequent abuse by her friends in a couples' group when they refused to believe her and instead ostracized her and embraced her husband. Annette was able to set boundaries in her marriage and her husband got support and is no longer abusive. She has never received an apology or acknowledgement from her support group. 

Annette is the founder of The Mend Project which seeks to educate, equip, and restore all those impacted by Original and Double Abuse®. They train first responders, churches, and organizations to recognize abuse. The website is https://themendproject.com/.