Download Episode Download Episode Imagine that you've been seeing this really great guy. He's smart, sweet, funny, and just what you've imagined your ideal mate to be. You almost can't believe how perfect he is… until you make it to the bedroom. No butterflies, no goosebumps, nothing… Whether it's his seeming lack of experience, his size, or underwhelming technique Things fall completely flat for you. This guy who's so good on paper (and in person) just can't seem to fire you up in the bedroom. WHAT DO YOU DO?! Well, here to help us grow past situations such as these, let me introduce to you today's guest. Kimi Levadge is a Florida based Natural and Medicinal sex health coach. She is a married mother with a degree from Florida Atlantic University and the University of Phoenix. Kimi has over 10 years of experience in blogging and educating the masses on sex health, sex- related topics and product reviews in the sex health realm. Kimi's goal is to show the world that being sexually responsible doesn't have to mean being boring. Check her out at www.vforvadge.com Timeline of the show:

• Intro of Kimi
• Why is sex still taboo to talk about?
• How to find your ground in the sex education field
• Is sexual compatibility worth working on?
• How long should you work at sexual compatibility before moving on?
• Why is sexual chemistry important in a relationship?
• How can you create chemistry that wasn't there initially?

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Hello from Bali, Indonesia!

As you may or may not know, the last month has been a whirlwind and I haven't been able to put out this series in a timely manner! MY APOLOGIES. However, it's here now and I hope you enjoy. Being in Bali reminded me that I needed to keep you guys aware of the importance of maintaining proper health in every aspect: medical, mental, social, etc. In this second episode with Edward Williams of Health BAMN, we continue our discussion about holistic health, being yourself, getting your mind right for real change, psychological trauma, and more. A lot of the information we discussed were brought up in the new Netflix documentary, What the Health. Look out for the blog post regarding my thoughts on that! Until then, enjoy! Key Take Aways:

• When you attempt to appeal to everyone, you have to dilute your message and in return, you lose the core group you intend to reach
• Don't be afraid to talk about our differences

Timeline of the show:

• :20 Recap of last episode
• 1:47 Being true to yourself
• 8:53 How your mindset is the foundation of change in every aspect of life
• 10:16 Excuse SZA in the background, there was a storm in my city that triggered my electronics to go haywire… even distracted Edward! Great album by the way. Get it using the link in the resource guide
• 18:34 Principles of Nutrition (taken from Edward's, Nutrition Manifesto)
• 19:00 Edward discuss "natural weight" for people of color
• 22:50 Fitness VS Fatness
• 25:40 Edward drops a major gem!
• 27:38 Plant based nutrition
• 32:55 Stress eating

Resources mentioned this episode:

SZA, CTRL

Salt, Sugar, Fat

Resources from last episode:

Medical Apartheid: The Dark History of Medical Experimentation on Black Americans from Colonial Times to the Present by Harriet Washington

The Spook Who Sat by the Door (Movie)

Music: Blackman by Stevie Wonder To learn more about Edward or to contact him, click this link Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at [email protected]

In this episode with Edward Williams of Health BAMN, we discuss normalizing unhealthy habits, transgenerational trauma, and so much more that affect the physical and mental health of people of color. I really enjoyed Edward and he shared so much useful information and resources, I am sure you will enjoy the episode. They will only get better from here! Key Take aways:

• "Preventable diseases don't run in our family. They are not inherited. The habits, the conditions, and our environment play a part impressing upon you how to eat and live" –Edward
• Dealing with the trauma of your experience is a part of the healing process.
• Culture evolves
• The hustle doesn't stop on the street level. The hustle takes place way more on the academic level, the higher medical field, and pharmaceutical levels.

Timeline of the show:

• 1:25 Edward introduces himself and explains the mission behind HBAMN
• 3:43 How we normalize unhealthy habits
• 7:00 Edward educates us about Gullah Geechee culture. Learn more here
• 8:42 Unhealthy cultural habits
• 13:25 Hope & Future casting, hear more here
• 16:00 How transgenerational trauma affect men's health (Sorry for the mad chirping birds!!)
• 23:35 The treatment that creates problems
• 25:40 Edward drops a major gem!
• 26:36 Learning the system to destroy the system
• 34:10 The attention complex
• 37:26 Edward leaves us with ANOTHER major gem!

Resources mentioned: Medical Apartheid: The Dark History of Medical Experimentation on Black Americans from Colonial Times to the Present by Harriet Washington

The Spook Who Sat by the Door (Movie)

Music: Blackman by Stevie Wonder Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at [email protected]

Download Episode "Throw that ish on a chart on the wall… and connect the dots!" Find out what Travis is talking about in the second half of When Guys Go Ghost… Key Takeaways:

• How can you tell when someone is dominant or passive?
• Men can tell how
• Men "want it" but men want to be in the position to "earn" it.
• Never allow someone who makes you feel insecure or humiliated back into your life, no matter how positive you try to make the relationship out to be.
• Those who are willing to go ghost on someone, something inside of them is destroyed to where they lack the capacity to feel empathy for others, have any decency or feel the guilt of hurting someone else.
• It takes nothing to communicate your needs with others
• "You walk around effectively heartbroken but, you are afraid to admit at. It is a special open-ended kind of pain like a disease with no name."
• There's never a good explanation for a person to go ghost
• Play to win!
• Closure doesn't require another person

Timeline of the show:

• :22 Recap of the last episode
• 1:15 Men's instincts
• 3:37 Can you ever forgive and restore a relationship with someone who's gone ghost on you?
• 5:45 Hope drops some gems
• 8:02 Effective communication
• 12:00 Quote from Tim Kreider's essay "The Anti-Kreider Club" in the book, We Learn Nothing.
• 16:15 Travis get Biblical but, drops a gem.
• 17:11 Do you believe the guy was into the writer?
• 17:50 Kissing
• 22:50 How to reach Travis
• 23:15 Was there anything the writer could have done differently to have the outcome be different?
• 26:00 Lesson Learned
• 27:34 Travis ministers to us. LOL
• 28:07 Travis' final thoughts
• 29:03 Where there any red flags that she may have missed?
• 30:00 We get distracted… OF COURSE!
• 33:25 Hope's final thoughts
• 35:49 Travis' SECOND final thought!
• 36:30 Hope wanted the last word. Lol
• 36:54 Travis tries to start a whole NEW topic: The Ladder Theory (look out for it on another show!)

Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at [email protected] Resources Music: Bad Religion by Frank Ocean We Learn Nothing, by Tim Kreider

Download Episode We've all experienced having someone go ghost on us or we've been the who's done the ghosting. Take a listen to how Travis shares a male's perspective on the idea and reason most guys go ghost. Key Take aways:

• When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
• According to Travis, men can be labeled as an intellectual whore or a cuddle b*tch
• There is no woman that a man will be friends with and won't potentially have sex with
• Sometimes he's just not that into you, romantically. Understand that and move on.
• Regardless of age, people will continue to play the game of self interest
• You cannot force chemistry
• If a man is not where he wants to be financially or career-wise, he will not fully invest himself into a relationship.
• There's never a good explanation for a person to go ghost
• If a guy is into you, he will show it and you will have no doubts
• Don't assume a guy will possess the qualities you have or desire

Timeline of the show:

• :20 Introduction of Travis
• 1:40 Hope shares listener's submission
• 5:30 Travis shares his thoughts on the listener's story
• 7:35 Travis shares an interesting theory of intellectual whore and cuddle b*tches
• 10:31 Hope gets Travis back on track
• 13:10 Travis discusses his story regarding "going ghost"
• 16:50 Hope shares her story about ghosting
• 20:03 Technology creates entitlement and anxiety
• 20:45 Travis and Hope discuss possible reasons guys will go ghost
• 30:22 Hope attempts to get Travis back on track AGAIN. LOL
• 32:15 Should the writer have gone on that second date
• 32:55 Travis drops some gems
• 33:45 Travis and Hope discuss soul mates
• 35:30 AGAIN Hope tries to get Travis back on topic. FAIL… Until next time!

Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at [email protected] Music: Bad Religion by Frank Ocean

Download Episode Hey guys, I know its been a while but, the ladies of #GirlTalk are here to wrap up this conversation about side chicks! This episode is fairly short but, its entertaining and full of gems! If you need a refresher take a listen to the first #GirlTalk episode here. If you'd like to read the writers email to the show, check it out here. Key Take aways:

• Guys are not as naïve as we believe
• What are some ways you fight monotonous routines in your relationship?
• When you're in a relationship that isn't as good as it used to be, understand that you have to look at
• There is a level a maturity real long term relationships require
• Why is "doing homework" such a major responsibility for women rather than trusting men to be honest.
• Are you and your mate private or open on social media?
• Is there a difference between being private on social media, or just hiding a mate to an extent?
• Women have to learn to define relationships, or set boundaries, to keep from being hurt… or at least having the conversation to be on the same page
• What are some of the signs that something is off in a relationship?

Timeline of the show:

• 1:56 Astin nerves go the best of her… sorry for the tapping
• 2:08 Dannielle poses a question
• 4:07 Ashtin drops some gems
• 5:06 Did once a side chick do her homework?
• 10:48 If you're not dating exclusively, then there is no such thing as a side chick.
• 13:21 Niki drops some gems and gives the guys a great tip
• 16:32 The women talk about if it's a good idea to go through your man's personal information: texts, email, etc.
• 20:00 The ladies provide last minute advice to anyone who's been in a situation like once a side chick…

Music: Brandy: Best Friend Instrumental Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at [email protected] This episode of #GirlTalk is sponsored by Cheers Sports Bar & Grill.

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In this first episode of #GirlTalk, the ladies discuss their feelings about the Male's Perspective. Listen as we bury this "side chick" conversation [bctt tweet="What you accept is what you should expect" username="hope_in_her"] Key Take aways: • Always collect data, and come with FACTS as TLynn explained • Do you think it's ok to lash out at the other woman even though she owes you no loyalty? • Sometimes we give our men the benefit of the doubt because we choose to especially if he treated us better than previous guys • We choose to no force our guys to take responsibility • We often lash out that the women because we feel intimidated or feel as though we've dedicated time to our mates before they were "on" • FYI: Scorpio = automatic PI Skills! -TLynn • Pay attention to signs!! • Sometimes we are so blinded by love, we tend to apologize for the guy's wrongdoing! • When men cheat, it's not always about looks… [bctt tweet="We teach people how to treat us" username="hope_in_her"] Timeline of the show: • :48 Introductions of the ladies • 1:08 The girls discuss their feelings about #AMalesPerspective • 2:40 Dannielle shares her story • 4:55 TLynn discusses her experience • 6:02 Hope shares her story • 13:56 Niki shares her experience • 15:35 why do we continue to lash out at the other women and not the guy who put us in the situation • 17:00 Niki gets real • 21:30 We teach people how to treat us… • 22:40 Why do we have to compare ourselves to the other women • 23:35 Niki keeps dropping these gems… • 24:45 How do you get to the point of even learning about what another woman is willing to do? • 26:25 Some men don't realize that women are flirting with them [bctt tweet="We give men the benefit of the doubt because of our own high expectations." username="hope_in_her"] Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at [email protected] Music Provided by: Brandy, Best Friend Instrumental https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5MShBcTIJRs

The Girl Talk Podcast is sponsored by Cheers Sports Bar & Grill

[bctt tweet="Just be done with the situation completely. " username="hope_in_her"] Key Take aways:

• Shouldn't the woman be made aware of what her significant other has done and have the choice of deciding how to take the relationship with all the information available?
• Jay believes that once the "other woman" learns of the main partner, she should only confront the man then walk away from the situation. Do you agree?
• Cornell- 2 things will happen when the main girl find out: She will leave, they will work it out.
• What's wrong with keeping the girl code?
• Men, being accountable for your actions is the best route. If you continue to lie, you will make it worst.
• The consensus of the group was that based on the information provided, this guy was a jerk.
• Even though women like the letter writer deserves answers, understand that it doesn't mean women will get the answers. They have to learn to move forward without the explanation, apology, acknowledgment, etc.
• Do YOUR RESEARCH

[bctt tweet="Dating is unpredictable" username="hope_in_her"] Timeline of the show:

• :25 Last episode recap
• :52 Is it ever ok for the "side chick" to reach out to the main girl?
• 1:38 Hope shares her personal story
• 8:37 Cornell's idea of a side chick
• 9:43 The guys have a revelation about "once a side chick."
• 10:22 Cornell just let us have it… my poor ears!
• 12:39 Do you believe the guy really wanted to be with the girl back home
• 13:52 Break
• 14:40 How should men hold themselves accountable in side chick situations?
• 16:54 Do the other woman, who was unknowingly the side chick, deserve an answer
• 19:18 The guys provide ways for women in this situation to move forward
• 22:57 Jay's bottom line
• 26:00 Hope's closing message
• 27:15 Jay always has to have the final word… lol

[bctt tweet="If you are not married, stop with the labels and go into new relationships that there could be a possibility that there is someone else." username="hope_in_her"] Have questions, stories, or want to make a comment? Email us at [email protected] Music:

Download Episode If you haven't read the listener's story, click here In the first episode of A Males Perspective: Once a Side Chick, the guys provide us with a little bit of insight on the topic. [bctt tweet="Managing multiple women gets old" username="hope_in_her"] Key Takeaways:

• For Jay's sake, keep your story short and concise
• In the case of once a side chick, do you think that sometimes men just get caught up in the euphoria of meeting a new woman, that they can never seem to find the best time to share that they are already in a relationship?
• Do you believe in a situation like this, the writer simply didn't do her homework?
• Do women sometimes put themselves in a "side chick" situation when her idea of dating is different from the guy's?
• Communication is important, however, when a man is an upfront with you, accept that and resist the urge to turn it into something more
• Stop "going with the flow" Ask QUESTIONS!

[bctt tweet="There is still a great deal of grown men with teenage-like mentalities." username="hope_in_her"] Timeline of the show:

• :45 Hope reads a letter submitted by a MLM listener about side chicks
• 5:50 Meet the guys
• 6:14 The guys share their thoughts about side chicks
• 9:11 Do men glorify the idea of side chicks?
• 16:22 Denzel with the bottom line- Jay, rebuts with his bottom line
• 17:20 Why do some men choose to put women in "side chick" arrangements unknowingly?
• 24:00 Do men ever choose the other woman over their initial partners?
• 31:07 The guys share their "side chick" experiences and what kept them from choosing her to be in a long-term relationship

[bctt tweet="There is no side chick if there isn't a main chick. " username="hope_in_her"] Music: Method Man ft Mary J. Blige I'll Be There for You/You Are All I Need to Get By Instrumental http://www.hipstrumentals.com/2011/11/throwback-thursdays-method-man-all-i-need-instrumental/method-man-ft-mary-j-blige-ill-be-there-for-you-you-are-all-i-need-to-get-by-razor-sharp-instrumental/

In this first installment of the Celebration of Love Series, Briana and Jamarious talk about their journey as a newlywed couple. Both Jay and Bri drop a lot of valuable gems in this episode so, enjoy the episode! Also, listen for Charlie to make his guest appearance. Look out for Jay as he and his boys will host a monthly show answering questions that you all send into the show.

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