When both partners have ADHD, relationships can be full of fun, spontaneity, creativity & a deep sense of “you just get me.” 

But two ADHD brains can also mean double the executive dysfunction, emotional dysregulation, RSD, impulsivity & forgotten life admin.

In this episode, I’m exploring what happens when ADHD meets ADHD in a relationship & why having the same diagnosis doesn’t mean having the same brain.

We’ll talk about:

• Why RSD + RSD can turn a conversation about dirty dishes into a full-blown relationship argument
• What happens when two emotionally dysregulated brains trigger each other
• Executive dysfunction, unequal mental loads and the dreaded “I thought YOU were doing it”
• How completely different ADHD profiles can clash
• Money, impulsivity, sex & intimacy 
• The genuinely GOOD parts of being with someone whose brain works a little like yours
• 8 practical tools to help you communicate, regulate, stay connected & build systems that actually work for both of you

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When we talk about ADHD, we spend a lot of time talking about dopamine... but what if we've been overlooking another brain chemical that could make a real difference?

In this episode, we're exploring oxytocin. Often called the connection chemical or the love drug,  oxytocin plays an important role in helping us feel safe & connected. It also works closely alongside dopamine, making it especially relevant for ADHD brains.

We'll unpack what oxytocin is, why it matters & simple, practical ways you can increase it in everyday life. From hugs & pets to voice notes, nature walks & meaningful conversations, you'll discover why connection isn't just a nice idea... it may actually help support your ADHD brain.

In this episode you'll learn:

• How oxytocin and dopamine work together in the ADHD brain
• Why connection can support emotional regulation, relationships, motivation & impulse control
• The surprising difference between texting & hearing someone's voice
• Why walking with a friend might be one of the best things you can do for your brain
• Simple, ADHD-friendly ways to increase oxytocin every day

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Why is it that we can be calm, focused & capable in a crisis, but feel completely paralysed by a simple phone call?

In this episode, I share the story of breaking down alone on a pitch-black country road & how I handled it like a f*cking boss. 

In this episode, we cover:

• Why ADHD brains can work better in a crisis
• The role of dopamine, norepinephrine & stimulation
• Why clear, urgent problems can feel easier than vague everyday tasks
• How relying on panic & last-minute pressure can lead to burnout
• Why coping well in the moment does not mean your body is not stressed
• How to borrow from “crisis mode” without creating an actual crisis

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*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 

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ADHD is often described as a problem with focus, organisation & hyperactivity, but that leaves out a huge part of the picture.

In this episode, we are exploring five things doctors can still get wrong about adult ADHD, including:

• Why emotional dysregulation is a major part of ADHD
• Why success does not rule out a diagnosis
• How ADHD in women can hide behind anxiety, depression & competence
• The impact hormones can have on symptoms & medication
• Why ADHD is not an inability to pay attention

We also look at why lived experience matters, how outdated assumptions can lead to people being dismissed & what a fuller understanding of ADHD can look like.

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*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 

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Where’s the line between being authentically yourself and oversharing because… Hi we have ADHD!

In this episode, I’m unpacking why so many ADHDers share deeply, quickly & sometimes before we’ve checked whether we actually want to. 

We’ll explore:

• Why ADHD can make us crave fast connection
• How impulsivity, dysregulation, shame & masking can fuel oversharing
• The difference between authenticity & urgency
• Why privacy & boundaries do not mean you’re being fake or inauthentic
• Questions to help reflect on what you choose to share

You can be open, honest and completely yourself without giving everyone immediate access to every part of you.

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*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD

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*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 

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ADHD can show up in the bedroom in ways we don’t always talk about.

For some ADHDers, it might look like a high sex drive, chasing novelty, impulsive decisions, risky behaviour, or seeking dopamine through sex and attention.

For others, it might look like low libido, getting bored, feeling disconnected, sensory overwhelm, distraction, or struggling to stay present.

In this episode, we’re unpacking:

• Hypersexuality and hyposexuality
• Why novelty, dopamine and “the chase” can feel so powerful
• How impulsivity can show up around all things sex
• Distraction, sensory needs & struggling to stay present
• Low libido, pressure, resentment & emotional disconnection
• Why intimacy is about so much more than sex
• How awareness, communication & support can help us create more choice

This is a shame-free, vulnerable conversation about understanding the ADHD patterns that can show up in the bedroom. 

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*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 

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Anxiety is incredibly common for adults with ADHD & in this episode we are unpacking the messy, layered relationship between ADHD & anxiety.

We cover:

• Why ADHD can create the perfect conditions for anxiety to thrive
• How ADHD symptoms & anxiety symptoms can look almost identical
• Why anxiety may be a coping mechanism your brain developed to keep you safe
• The difference between ADHD-driven anxiety & a separate anxiety disorder
• Why so many women are diagnosed with anxiety before ADHD
• What can actually help, from brain dumps to emotional regulation tools & ADHD-informed support

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt like they’re constantly bracing for something to go wrong, overthinking everything or swimming against a current they couldn’t explain.

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*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 

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Ever felt hurt because someone didn’t reply the “right” way, remember the thing, or show up how you hoped?

In this episode, we’re talking about the manual - the invisible rule book we carry around for how other people should behave so we can feel loved, supported, or okay.

We’ll explore:

• What “the manual” is
 • Why ADHD brains can turn unmet expectations into rejection stories
 • The difference between making a request and trying to control someone
 • How to take back the emotional remote for your life
 • Why boundaries are not the same as manuals

This one is an absolute game changer for your relationships AND your emotional life! 

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*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD

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*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 

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In this episode, we’re unpacking why friendships can feel so hard for ADHDers, from forgetting to reply & losing track of time, to rejection sensitivity, masking, emotional dysregulation & the dreaded doom spiral.

We’ll explore:

• Why caring about someone & initiating contact are not the same skill
• How ADHD can make small friendship wobbles feel like full-blown rejection
• Why your brain might turn one painful moment into “they don’t care about me”
• The role of RSD, emotional dysregulation & masking in friendship struggles
• Why not every friendship needs to be saved, but some may be worth repairing
• Simple scripts for reconnecting, repairing & being honest without over-explaining

This episode is not about becoming a perfect friend. It’s about understanding your brain, checking the story before you act from it & remembering that one tiny honest message can reopen a door you thought was closed.

Also check out episode #23 ADHD & friendships 

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*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 

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Today I’m sharing some of the “weird” things I do that actually support my ADHD brain.

Because sometimes the things that look a little random from the outside are actually clever little accommodations in disguise.

I’m talking about:

• Why I delay-send emails instead of trusting my brain has remembered everything
• Wearing activewear under my “real people clothes”
• Changing up my work environment for novelty, comfort & focus
• Letting myself task-switch without turning it into a moral failing
• Doing brain dumps when my mind feels like 47 browser tabs are open

This episode is a permission slip to stop judging the things that help you function & start seeing them for what they really are:

ADHD-friendly support strategies.

Weird? Maybe.
Helpful? Absolutely.

In this episode I mention the ETSY store I created with my friend Logan: NDHQ - come check it out.

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*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)

*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD

*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List

*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena

*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community 

*Come hang out with me on Instagram!