“Be the bigger person.” Sounds mature. Sounds evolved. Sounds… exhausting.

In this episode of Girls With Opinions, we’re unpacking why we actually don’t love the concept of being the bigger person — and how it often turns into code for swallowing your needs, silencing your truth, and keeping the peace at your own expense.

We talk about the pressure (especially on women) to stay calm, forgiving, and accommodating no matter what, and how that expectation can quietly lead to self-abandonment. We explore the difference between true emotional maturity and performative “niceness,” and why setting boundaries or speaking up doesn’t make you petty, dramatic, or immature.

This episode is part rant, part reframe, and a reminder that choosing yourself doesn’t mean you’re choosing conflict.

💬 In this episode:

• Why “being the bigger person” often benefits everyone but you
• How the concept can turn into people-pleasing in disguise
• The emotional cost of constantly putting yourself last
• The difference between growth and self-sacrifice
• When walking away is the mature choice

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• Permission to stop equating silence with strength
• Language to prioritize your needs without guilt
• A reframe of what emotional maturity actually looks like
• Validation that you don’t owe anyone your self-betrayal

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