Jess discusses emotional vulnerability, sexual shame, strategies for discussing sexual needs, why some people cheat and the Madonna/whore dichotomy with Toronto-based sex therapist, Kat Kova. Kat also helps Jess to open up about her greatest sexual fear.

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Overcome Sexual Fear, Open Up and Share Deeper Intimacy

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You're listening to the sacs with dr jess podcast sacks and relationship advice. You can us tonight. Hey hey hey this is just a rally your friendly neighborhood sexologist and i am joined today by individual couple and sex therapist toronto-based cat cova. Thank you for being here. Thank you for having me. Now your leisure your sex therapist. What drew you to the world of sex therapy. Yes so. I'm your friendly neighborhood sex there. and it's so funny i actually people don't really believe me when i say this but i wanted to be a sex therapist. From the age of ten i i was so in love with a doctor sue johanneson on the sunday night sex show and what i found to be so interesting about her was that she just delivered education and in an entertaining way and she seemed to really be meeting the need that that didn't seem to be met anywhere else that i was exposed to and so for better or worse yeah that's kind kind of how i got into it and i always really wanted to develop into someone that i felt like was missing in my life who i wanted to talk to when i was a little kid so that's kind of part of my story so sue johannesen had a nationally syndicated television show in canada. It used to be on sunday night so she. She was sort of our canadian version of dr ruth. She was a little bit more subdued than dr ruth right a little bit less of a caricature you say i i found her to be outrageous. I mean have you seen her on conan o'brien. Yes she's very funny. She likes drops a dildo to her. I don't remember that she's about the eighty or so. I mean i thought she was eighty back when she was on the show in the eighties so i i can't imagine but she was really great at what she did and she really did it. Just deliver the goods matter of fact of course people will look back and say oh but she said this or she said that yes. It was twenty thirty years ago. Some things have changed but she was a trailblazer in the field so you followed in her footsteps. Did you go straight and steady sexuality right away or is it a path that kind of led back to to where you are today yeah. It's definitely something that i was led back to you because they didn't tell anyone at the age of hand. I wanted to be a sex therapist. I thought they would really look let me look. I was very strange and people still do by the way because it's very unorthodox particularly in my community which is the serbian community and it was something that i really decided on when i was about twenty two and i was alone in tokyo jio working there and decided i really wanna do something that has a lot of purpose in my life. When i was in tokyo is working in a job that i didn't really like take a year off from school so it was between my b._a. In psychology and then i decided to do a certificate and sexuality studies at york university versity and went on to do my...