A big part of my work is helping children express their ideas. By putting words into those feelings they can see them better and make choices. Sometimes, it is the children the ones that put the words and structure into my ideas. In this case, it was a six years old girl who told me exactly what she is feeling when she is shouting at her dad.

This is not a technique or strategy, but I find that sharing this idea with children (and parents) put a great perspective into the situation and help young people and adults see the anger with different eyes.

I hope it also helps you and your children.

Most of us find ourselves sharing examples or people that inspire us. Sports personalities, engineers, brave pilots, etc. However, we tend to forget those personalities that are closer to our children and that have the strongest possibility to influence them.

In this episode I share with you the Did-you-know scale. An idea that, to me, makes so much sense and allows me to help my daughters and young clients learn about resilience.

More and more we see young people being obsessed with their weight and body image. They want the perfect shape and the six-pack. Obviously social media is a hugely important part of this but it is not the beginning and end of everything. What can do we? how do we talk with them about weight, body image and, most importantly, self-esteem.

This was a difficult episode to record for me. It is my personal experience of what happened during the summer, when I went through a very difficult situation. It wasn't life or death, but emotionally it was very painful.

I wish it hadn't happened, but as it happened I learnt to make something about it. Use the experience to learn (for myself) about resilience, but also to help my daughters learn about it as well.

Resilience is not about the mistakes we make, it's about what choices we make afterwards.

I hope you get something useful of this experience. I certainly did.

Sometimes, we have tried everything and the negative behaviour keeps occurring. We try to keep calm and eventually, arguments happen. To make things worse, it seems the children keep pushing us further and further.

What do we do? how do we disrupt this pattern?

In this episode I share with you an idea that I call "the nuclear option". I don't advice anybody to create it, but if things have gone wrong, here is something you can do instead of kiss, make up and wait for the next argument to happen. This idea is about disrupting that pattern. It's not easy and it's not specially nice to do (or at least, I find it difficult and uncomfortable) but it works.

What do you do when your child is throwing the biggest tantrum on earth? What can you do in the heat of the moment, when they are just not attending to reason? This is the one million dollar question. The answer is obvious but very few people seem to want to accept it: not much. There is not a lot you can do in that moment and most likely, whatever you do it will make things worse. So, how do we go about it? In this video I want to share with you the very simple, yet effective strategy of Before - During - After to deal with those situations.

What do you do when you children just refuse to do what you ask them? or any small thing is cause for a full blown fight? when you have two minutes to do something and they decide to go on the opposite direction? As parents, we tend to think they are pushing us, but they are not. We also say, they are just seeking attention, and that is true. The important part is to understand, why are they seeking attention? and specially, that kind of attention. In this video I explain how and why children go from good attention to bad attention and what you can do about it.

Seeing our kids suffer is one of the most painful experiences for a parent. When it is a physical thing, we take them to the doctors, when it is fear about something we can't understand, we find ourselves out of our depth. In this video, I want to share with you a simple, fun and effective technique to help our young kids let go of those fears.

How do I get my child to focus on his studies? she/He doesn't seem to put his effort towards anything! This is one of the most frustrating things for parents. Young people giving up or pretending they don't care... but they do, they just don't know how to go about it. In this video I want to share with you the five ingredients of the magic formula for study motivation.

“That’s too far in the future” “it’s too early for them to understand” “they don’t need to know about this yet”. All these excuses and a lot more mean that we are postponing critical conversations with our children. In most of the cases, the real reason is that we feel ill-prepared to have a conversation we don’t know how to direct. The grim reality is that children a exposed to drugs (40% of kids have been offered drugs) and while schools are doing a good job educating them, parents also can help. In this episode I share a personal experience with my own daughter, when the topic came around (she was 6 at the time) and how I managed the situation. I provide full detail of the four strategies i used, so you can adapt them or use the for other conversations.

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