Some days you just hit the wall. The noise, the need, the relentlessness of it. You love your kids and you are completely done.

This episode is for you.

I'm joined by Zazi, a speech and language therapist, child development expert, MMA fighter, and mum who gets it. Zazi has built a community of parents who are done pretending they've got it all together, and she brings the kind of practical, no-guilt wisdom that actually helps.

We go deep on why overwhelm isn't a character flaw. It's a nervous system response. Why your child melting down after school isn't bad behaviour. Why so many women are reaching their 30s and 40s and finally understanding their own brains for the first time. And what you can actually do when you're at the end of yourself and your child still needs you.

We cover:

The 8 senses and why the three you've never heard of are driving your overwhelm and your child's meltdowns

Interoception, proprioception, and the vestibular system explained simply and why they matter more than emotions for nervous system regulation

Postpartum rage, sensory overload, and the mental health struggles that don't look like depression or anxiety

ADHD in women, why it gets missed, what diagnosis can offer, and what you don't need a diagnosis to give yourself

Neurodivergent parenting strategies that work whether or not anyone has a formal label

Why your child isn't being naughty.

Every behaviour is communication, including the meltdown at the checkout

Screen time, sensory regulation, and what to actually replace screens with

The "blame your systems, not yourself" reframe that will stay with you

What to do in the moments when you're completely over it and your child still needs you

This one is for you if:

You find yourself ragey more than sad

You're touched out, noise-sensitive, and visually overwhelmed by the state of your house

You've wondered whether you might be neurodivergent and you're not sure what to do with thatYou're holding it together on the outside and quietly burning on the inside

You just need someone to say: this is hard, you're not failing, and here's something that might actually help

"Every behaviour is communication.""Blame your systems, not yourself.""You've got this, even when you quite clearly haven't."

Find Zazi:🌐 zazi.co.nz📱 @zaziplays on Instagram🎙️ You've Got This podcast

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