Welcome to Part LVIII of our Brain Drain trilogy's finale about how to undo the damage of harmful influences and brainwashing.

Brandi had to be made aware of what she had been desensitized to in order to then see and receive what was created and meant for her. Identity can be really shaken when you place it in relationships and other false places. Brandi shares some ways in which her captor desensitized her to being objectified and derailed her role as a woman. Don't hang out with people who try to belittle you for who you are and what you like. Be around who will build you up in who you're purposed to be.

Shawn discusses the role as a man in a relationship with a woman and how he should act in a group of other men. Brandi discusses having a relationship with God and also debunks filling someone else's mold instead of God's. She shares how she has claimed her freedom in this area through God.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

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Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

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Welcome to Part LVII of our Brain Drain trilogy's finale about how to undo the damage of harmful influences and brainwashing.

Whoever you include in your healing journey should know God to be able to support you in the ways you need. Shawn shares how he's modeled the real way a man should treat and respect a woman. Brandi discusses how the "Fairytale" ending is real, but not in such an exaggerated way. Relationships are a process and how we go about them makes a world of difference. Settling is the counterfeit action of choosing to wait for your God given match.

Brandi debunks a couple of bitter sentiments about nice/good guys. She also relates this to one of the many destructive phrasings her captor used. Choose your influences wisely and beware of negative self-fulfilling prophecies. Don't over generalize the opposite gender off of hurtful ex's. Let go of the toxic people no matter how long you've been with them and choose what God has for you.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part LVI of our Brain Drain trilogy's finale about how to undo the damage of harmful influences and brainwashing.

Healing from his counterfeit relationship heavily aided in readying Shawn for Brandi. Hear about his healing process. Choose "healthy" pain over the pain of entrapment. God will help you through that decision. Brandi describes a visionary experience that God showed her during her healing and Shawn shares how they did their part and opened for God to do the rest in that situation and others.

Hear ways in which you can have closure from physical locations where trauma took place and have time redeemed. But, make sure you do so with God's guidance and use the buddy system. God has a time set for you to do those things. Brandi shares an example of what could go wrong for her if she didn't wait for God's direction first.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part LV of our Brain Drain trilogy's finale about how to undo the damage of harmful influences and brainwashing.

Shawn and Brandi share how they worked with God to heal some of Brandi’s wounds. Healing is not always comfortable, so rise above the challenge to receive what you're meant to have in your life. Trauma doesn't all happen at once and in most cases, healing doesn't happen all at once. God has perfect timing and a place for everything. We have to have patience and grace for ourselves. Brandi relates this to her story with her captor and others. She felt like her 20's were wasted and stolen…but God redeems time.

Hear about how Brandi hasn't held grudges and how God prepares the way for us to move forward. Shawn discusses his major counterfeit relationship that wrecked him.

Please let us know if this episode helped you! You can contact us and check us out through our social media platforms from our linktr.ee site here. Or you can contact us directly through the Anchor app or by email at [email protected] If you would like to donate to our podcast and ministry, you can do so easily through our DonorBox site (more of the money gets to us that way) or through PayPal here

-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part LIV of our Brain Drain trilogy's finale about how to undo the damage of harmful influences and brainwashing.

Take claim and control over your responses to situations. We are not obligated to react in anger or claim a victim mindset. Don't hurt someone because they hurt you. Ask yourself why you react the way that you do to then find out how to respond and find closure instead. Address your wounds…don't run away. Seeking out comfort until you don't feel pain is dangerous for many reasons.

You learn your value by seeking God and negating the negative things you've held onto with Him. Make it a goal to become the best version of yourself that God has created you to be and make genuine effort towards it today.

Shawn mentions some of the books that have helped him and Brandi: 1. "Keep Your Love On" by Danny Silk. 2. "Switch On Your Brain" by Dr. Caroline Leaf 3. "Boundaries" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. 4. "Healing the Soul of A Woman" by Joyce Meyer.

Please let us know if this episode helped you! You can contact us and check us out through our social media platforms from our linktr.ee site here. Or you can contact us directly through the Anchor app or by email at [email protected] If you would like to donate to our podcast and ministry, you can do so easily through our DonorBox site (more of the money gets to us that way) or through PayPal here

-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part LIII of our Brain Drain trilogy's finale about how to undo the damage of harmful influences and brainwashing.

Beware of overreaching responsibility for other people's choices. Shawn shares how he's worked through that in the past with his siblings. Sometimes you just have to let people feel their emotions and just be there to support.

Analyze and see what truly steals your peace and work outwardly to redirect that. Don't speak or claim negative things over yourself. Reestablish truth. Brandi describes an approach to be proactive in reclaiming truth.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part LII of our Brain Drain trilogy's finale about how to undo the damage of harmful influences and brainwashing.

Brandi expresses how you have the right to set the boundary of not being obligated to argue. You can tell them that you both will talk when you're both calm and not lashing out with emotion. She also warns that people will purposely attempt to manipulate you out of your boundaries while others will indirectly do so. Her captor did everything to break down every boundary she had. Set boundary lines against spending time with an abusive person and beware of passive aggressive behavior.

Don't let other people's insecurities become your own. Some people are actually just insensitive and emotionally dense. You will get quicker on your feet with more practice of setting boundaries. Move through peace…response vs reaction. And, beware of inverted relationships.

Please let us know if this episode helped you! You can contact us and check us out through our social media platforms from our linktr.ee site here. Or you can contact us directly through the Anchor app or by email at [email protected] If you would like to donate to our podcast and ministry, you can do so easily through our DonorBox site (more of the money gets to us that way) or through PayPal here

-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part LI of our Brain Drain trilogy's finale about how to undo the damage of harmful influences and brainwashing.

Brandi had to learn how to respond to an apology. She has always believed in forgiveness, but hadn't experienced the etiquette and reception of the apology. It's also important that we are all able to admit mistakes. Shawn and Brandi stood together as accountability partners to start setting proper boundaries with others. Don't allow the fear of failure or rejection keep you from setting proper boundaries.

Shawn discusses how the process of setting boundaries can be and the need of knowing what boundary rights you actually have.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part L of our Brain Drain trilogy's finale about how to undo the damage of harmful influences and brainwashing.

Brandi explains (through personal experience) the slippery slope of not being in the practice of thinking for yourself, how that will affect other things, and the danger of blending in. Shawn and Brandi mention how the "Boundaries" book helped them. Brandi explains how both her and Shawn can strongly discern emotion and intent, along with how that affected her (especially in not knowing what it was until much later on).

You have to learn how to separate your emotions from others emotions. You're not responsible for them choosing not to change…you're responsible for being the role God has for you in their lives.

Please let us know if this episode helped you! You can contact us and check us out through our social media platforms from our linktr.ee site here. Or you can contact us directly through the Anchor app or by email at [email protected] If you would like to donate to our podcast and ministry, you can do so easily through our DonorBox site (more of the money gets to us that way) or through PayPal here

-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part XLIX of our Brain Drain trilogy's finale about how to undo the damage of harmful influences and brainwashing.

It's world changing to get and be able to receive words of affirmation. Make it a goal to be atmosphere shifting for the betterment of others. When you're single, have a girls/boys night…but it's a different story when you're married. Recognize and respect changes in dynamics. You and those around you should practice appreciation of each other.

Shawn shares about how much stress Brandi was going through before and partially during their engagement period…she felt so powerless and downtrodden under the weight of others and Shawn felt the same way because some things he couldn't just fix/save her from. He reinforced and supported her to make her own decisions.

Please let us know if this episode helped you! You can contact us and check us out through our social media platforms from our linktr.ee site here. Or you can contact us directly through the Anchor app or by email at [email protected] If you would like to donate to our podcast and ministry, you can do so easily through our DonorBox site (more of the money gets to us that way) or through PayPal here

-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA