It’s the final episode of the year so it is the perfect time to be talking about fresh starts and goal planning.

Join Ela and Mario as they discuss new year’s resolutions and why they aren’t always the best way to enter a new year.

Rather than adding these extra stress to your life, Ela suggests choosing a word which will shape your upcoming year. Listen as Ela explains how to make use of this methodology in daily life.

Are you ready to shape your 2020 with a word?

In this episode we welcome back Bonnie Weiss for Part 2 of her interview with Ela.

If you haven’t listened to Part 1, we strongly suggest go back and do listen to it first, as this second half of the interview dives deeper into how IFS works and how it focuses on our higher Self, and how it is used as a healing method through its intuitive connection with spirituality. 

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ABOUT BONNIE

Bonnie has been teaching classes and workshops on inner-critic, self-esteem, and IFS.

She is the author of: Illustrated Workbook For Freedom from Your Inner Critic, and Self-Therapy Workbook.

She currently has a private practice in Mill Valley, San Francisco, and  works with individuals, couples. Feel free to get in touch with her directly at [email protected]

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Bonnie Weiss

Bonnie’s book: Self-Therapy Workbook: An Exercise Book For The IFS Process

Online courses offered by Bonnie Weiss & Jay Earley

The IFS Institute

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We have heard Internal Family Systems (IFS) mentioned a lot in the podcast over the past few months. In this episode Ela is joined by guest Bonnie Weiss, a psychotherapist, teacher, supervisor, and trainer. She is a licensed clinical social worker in California and New York, and has been practicing since 1974.

In this interview with Bonnie we are introduced to IFS therapy. Bonnie explains how this extraordinary therapy technique works.

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ABOUT BONNIE

Bonnie has been teaching classes and workshops on inner-critic, self-esteem, and IFS.

She is the author of: Illustrated Workbook For Freedom from Your Inner Critic, and Self-Therapy Workbook.

She currently has a private practice in Mill Valley, San Francisco, and  works with individuals, couples. Feel free to get in touch with her directly at [email protected]

Links

Bonnie Weiss

Bonnie’s book: Self-Therapy Workbook: An Exercise Book For The IFS Process

Online courses offered by Bonnie Weiss & Jay Earley

The IFS Institute

Do you also find it difficult to say no?

In this episode, Ela and Mario discuss why saying not a selfish thing. In fact, it can be a form of self-care that save us from feelings of guilt and regret later on.

Listen as Ela explains how different issues in our lives impact our ability to say no, and why we need to learn how to say no more often.

Curious? Then hit the play button.

In this episode, we are joined again by Barbara Carrellas.

Barbara is an author, artist and a thought leader in the fields of sex, gender and spirit. She works as a life coach, sex educator, university lecturer, and motivational speaker. Barbara wrote, directed and produced films and educational audio series. She’s also the author of: Urban Tantra, and Ecstasy Is Necessary.

The focus of this second half of the interview is educating teenagers about sex, and learn the difference between ‘allowance’ and ‘permission’ and how boundaries should be introduced between partners.

Barbara also shares with us the biggest complaint that her students have when it comes to their sex lives. Can you guess what this might be? 

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Barbara Carrellas

Urban Tantra

Betty Martin - The Wheel of Consent (YouTube video)

Scarleteen

Cheri Huber

In this episode, Ela interviews Barbara Carrellas about her fascinating work in sex education. 

Barbara is an author, artist and a thought leader in the fields of sex, gender and spirit. She works as a life coach, sex educator, university lecturer, and motivational speaker. Barbara wrote, directed and produced films and educational audio series. She’s also the author of: Urban Tantra, and Ecstasy Is Necessary.

Listen as Barbara discusses how she got into this work, how she helps people around gender issues, and why she believes in mixing sexuality with spirituality.

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Barbara Carrellas

Urban Tantra

Betty Martin - The Wheel of Consent (YouTube video)

In this episode Ela and Mario continue the discussion on how emotions are neither good or bad, but the way we act on them is.

Ela shares what she calls the "ABC of Emotions" - three crucial facts about emotions that can make a huge difference in your life and relationships.

At the end of the session, she carries out a powerful exercise to break some of the patterns that trigger you under different circumstances.

Do ever you find yourself thinking that sharing your problems with others is might be a burden? Or that if you share how you truly feel about things, you'll be vulnerable and appear weak?

Well, then this episode is for you as it focuses on emotional myths.

Listen as Ela explains why and how to transform these thoughts.

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Running on Empty, Dr Jonice Webb

Seinfeld - The Opposite

Clive Holmes

"Identify It But Don’t Identify With It."

This powerful quote is one of Ela's mentors: Buddhist scholar and meditation teacher Clive Holmes. It refers to our emotions and suggest a way of expressing our emotions without being ruled by them.

Curious? Then tune in to fine out!

Do you feel guilty when expressing your needs? Did you ever shy away from sharing how you genuinely feel? If so, you are not alone! 

Listen as Ela and Mario talk about how to express needs and emotions in a healthy way - even if they are so-called 'negative' emotions, like jealousy. 

This episode will help you overcome the habit of censoring your needs and emotions, so don't miss out!

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Running on Empty, Dr Jonice Webb