SHOW NOTES:

• The point is to live with imperfection.

• Free of mistakes, we’re free of critique and ridicule is false

• Perfectionism leads to huge stress

• It’s a fictitious expectation (dining, travel, relationships, etc.)

• We think it protects us, but it ruins us

• It’s based on the fear of being imperfect—and human!!

• Engage in vulnerable conversations and actitivies

• Accept results of a task that are “OK”

• My wife’s formula for long-term marriages

• Perfectionism assumes control you don’t have

• Why I don’t guarantee my results

• Strong esteem nullifies perfectionism

• Self-compassion, the same sensitivity you’d offer others

• My “therapy” of trains and models

• Small “chunks” of change, not mammoth ones

• At extremes we have OCD

• Experience rather than orchestrate

• Ironically, caused by not feeling worthy or good about yourself

• The critical distinction between efficacy and self-worth