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Play Hard To Get (and other bad relationship advice)


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Play hard to get. 

If you’re in the world of dating, or were at some point in your life — you’ve definitely heard the relationship advice that tells you to play hard to get.

Don’t look too interested. 

Don’t call for at least 3 days. 

Make sure they don’t know how much you like them. 

Don’t text back right away. 

But is this relationship advice any good?

Play Hard To Get

There’s a reason why this is common relationship advice. We want to play the game of relationships, and make ourselves feel like we’re in control rather than feeling like someone is in control of us.

But there are two major problems that the “play hard to get” mentality creates in relationships. 

Today on the podcast, I’m explaining both of those problems and why this is actually BAD relationship advice, and what you should do instead. Don’t be fooled by the play hard to get game…because you’re going to end up losing in the end.

Tune in to Episode 71 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below!

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Love + Relationships Podcast Notes:

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For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out:

  • Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?
  • Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy
  • Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume
  • Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It
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    DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today!

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