Please Me! A Sexuality Podcast

In this powerful and deeply honest episode, Eve sits down with Xanet Pailet — former healthcare attorney turned sex and intimacy coach, bestselling author, and retreat leader. After leaving a 20+ year marriage that had become largely sexless, Xanet began a transformative journey of healing sexual shame, trauma, and emotional disconnection.

At age 50, she realized that desire doesn’t disappear because of aging or hormones — it fades when emotional safety erodes, communication shuts down, and the body stops feeling invited into the relationship.

Emotional safety as the foundation of sexual intimacy

Why repair is critical in long-term relationships

The impact of childhood shame and medical trauma on desire

Healing sexual shutdown through tantra and embodied practices

Expanding the definition of sex beyond penetration

Navigating erectile dysfunction with compassion and creativity

Mutual masturbation and alternative intimacy practices

How to start difficult conversations about sex

Touching for your own pleasure to build erotic connection

Intimacy Equation Quiz
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Website & Retreats:
 https://passionateintimacyretreats.com

Books:

Living an Orgasmic Life

The Sex & Intimacy Repair Kit

Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Bookshop.org.

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In this powerful and deeply honest episode of Please Me!, host Eve welcomes Brent Dowlen, relationship and personal development coach, podcast host, and creator behind multiple shows including Driven To Thrive Broadcast and Dad Hat Shenanigans.

Together, they unpack the rarely discussed realities of men’s sexuality, sexual health, including performance anxiety, shame, stress, and identity — and how these factors deeply impact intimacy, relationships, and mental health.

Brent shares candid personal experiences with erectile dysfunction caused by stress and exhaustion, shedding light on how strongly many men tie sexual performance to masculinity and self-worth. The conversation explores how fear, shame, and societal expectations can quickly turn sex from a source of connection into a source of anxiety — and what men (and their partners) can do to interrupt that cycle.

This episode also dives into foundational habits for long-term sexual health, including sleep, nutrition, hydration, exercise, stress management, and honest self-assessment. Eve and Brent address the men’s mental health and loneliness epidemic, the outdated “playbook” men are still handed, and why vulnerability is often encouraged in theory but punished in practice.

The episode concludes with a realistic and educational role-play conversation, modeling how couples can communicate desires, boundaries, fantasies, and consent — proving that healthy sexual communication can be awkward, playful, respectful, and deeply connecting.

Men’s sexual performance anxiety and identity

Erectile dysfunction, stress, and exhaustion

Shame and fear surrounding sexual health issues

When men should seek support for sexual health concerns

Sleep, hydration, nutrition, and cardiovascular health for sexual wellness

Testosterone, exercise, and healthy fats

Men’s mental health crisis and loneliness epidemic

Why traditional therapy often misses men

Masculinity, vulnerability, and societal expectations

Initiating intimacy and feeling desired as a man

Power dynamics, submission, and stress relief in the bedroom

How to talk to your partner about fantasies and boundaries

Consent, communication, and curiosity in long-term relationships

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Website 
https://purposedrivenmen.com

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In Episode 4 of Season 7, host Eve welcomes back Sam Itshaki, creator of Mr. Get Bigger Now and CEO of the legendary Dr. Joel Kaplan Company, for his second appearance on Please Me! A Sexuality Podcast

This candid, educational conversation explores sexual wellness tools designed to support blood flow, sensitivity, endurance, and confidence — for all genders.

Building on his Season 6 appearance, Sam returns to share the latest data, devices, and innovations in sexual health, including pumps for men and women, endurance training, and the science behind arousal, aging, and prevention.

How blood flow directly impacts sexual pleasure, sensitivity, and function

Why sexual wellness is preventative care, not just a solution after problems arise

The science behind penis pumps, extenders, and female vacuum devices

How regular pumping may support:

Increased sensitivity

Improved natural lubrication

Enhanced erectile quality

Vaginal and vulvar tissue health

The connection between aging, atrophy, and sexual function in both men and women

How women experience arousal and engorgement — and why it matters for pleasure

A deep dive into penile endurance training and edging practices

How men can dramatically increase stamina and control through guided training

Why lasting longer isn’t a “problem to fix” — it’s a trainable skill

How improved endurance can open the door to deeper intimacy, novelty, and fantasy

A playful, fan-favorite role play segment exploring how to introduce new tools into a relationship

Sam Itshaki first joined Please Me! in Season 6 for a powerful two-part deep dive into male enhancement, sexual confidence, and the foundations of blood-flow-based sexual wellness. These fan-favorite episodes laid the groundwork for today’s conversation and are a great place to start if you’re new to Sam’s work.

Part 1:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6HFc6AVk1JMpIg3EZBfDnz?si=W5AZ4es3RZWJteUo7SqpHQ

Part 2:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6nWGLezGEQW9KqLYfJkyrv?si=SlAXCixtTOu-NaGx25GnPA

Together, these episodes explore the origins of Mr. Get Bigger Now, early research on pumping and endurance training, and how men can reclaim agency over their sexual performance and pleasure.

Website:
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In this episode of Please Me, we’re joined by Kayla Moore, certified sex therapist, pleasure coach, and sovereign guide for women warriors rising, for a powerful conversation about reclaiming pleasure, healing sexual conditioning & sexuality, and restoring the sacred feminine.

Kayla explores how patriarchal systems, religion, and cultural norms have shaped our relationship to sex, desire, and intimacy—and why pleasure is not limited to sex, but is deeply connected to nervous system safety, embodiment, and emotional connection. Together, we discuss divine feminine and divine masculine energies, the importance of healing in community, and how slowing down intimacy can create deeper, more fulfilling relationships.

This episode also features a live role-play modeling healthy communication around desire, boundaries, pacing, and emotional safety—offering practical language listeners can use in their own relationships.

Pleasure as a pathway to healing and empowerment

The sacred feminine and sacred masculine within all people

How patriarchy impacts sexuality and intimate relationships

Why emotional safety is essential for intimacy and desire

Healing sexual desire through community and connection

How to communicate needs, boundaries, and pace in relationships

Podcast: Connected Pleasure Podcast
https://open.spotify.com/show/0ErT6bJvm5RyMErljjhQGX

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Season 7 of Please Me launches with a deeply embodied and transformative conversation exploring tantra, sexual energy, emotional release, and orgasmic healing.

In this powerful episode, Eve welcomes Emma Galland, a renowned sex educator and Tantra coach, for an expansive discussion on how sexuality functions as a portal to self-realization, creativity, and liberation.

Together, they explore how orgasms are not merely physical events, but nervous-system experiences capable of releasing grief, anger, fear, joy, and shame. Emma breaks down concepts such as cry orgasms, anger orgasms, joy orgasms, and location-specific orgasms, unpacking the neuroscience behind pleasure, sensation, and emotional expression.

This episode dives deep into:

Tantra as a daily self-cultivation and embodiment practice

Sexuality as life force energy and creative power

How emotional orgasms support trauma healing

Why presence—not performance—creates mind-blowing sex

How men can cultivate sexual mastery and emotional capacity

Releasing sexual shame as a pathway to freedom and confidence

Boundaries, consent, and handling unwanted sexual attention

Tantra vs. conventional sex: intention vs. performance

Masturbation as a spiritual, nervous-system regulation practice

Why pleasure expands confidence, creativity, and manifestation

This conversation is raw, educational, and deeply liberating—perfect for anyone ready to reclaim pleasure and close the orgasm gap.

Website:
https://tantricawakenings.com

(Explore Tantra teachings, guided practices, and resources for embodied intimacy.)

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This episode features a pre-recorded live webinar from SDC.com, a global platform focused on ethically non-monogamous dating and sexual education. In Date Smart, Play Safe: Boundaries That Turn You On, Eve Hall explores how communication, consent, sexuality and sexual safety can be reframed as essential—and even erotic—parts of modern intimacy.

Designed for individuals and couples within the lifestyle community, the session emphasizes that boundaries and desire are not opposing forces. Instead, clear communication around needs, limits, and preferences can deepen attraction, build trust, and enhance sexual connection.

Eve breaks down practical strategies for expressing yeses and nos in ways that preserve desire and respect, and offers guidance on handling rejection with emotional maturity and clarity. A key focus of the episode is the idea that consent is not a disruption to intimacy, but a foundation that allows for greater freedom, curiosity, and pleasure.

The conversation also includes education on STI awareness and testing, with attention to oral transmission risks and the importance of ongoing sexual health responsibility in ethically non-monogamous relationships. Additional discussion highlights how fantasies, kinks, and erotic interests can be communicated openly without pressure or shame, strengthening relational transparency.

Throughout the webinar, Eve reframes safer sex as an empowering practice—positioning communication, consent, and clarity as forms of erotic connection that enhance both trust and arousal. The episode also touches on broader themes of body confidence, sexual empowerment, and community culture within ENM spaces.

A referenced segment from a related discussion with Dr. Elliot Justin expands on men’s sexual health, noting the connection between nocturnal erections and cardiovascular function. The conversation highlights emerging smart technology that tracks erection quality during sleep, with research suggesting that fewer than three nocturnal erections per night may correlate with increased cardiovascular risk.

Overall, this episode blends education, relationship tools, and sexual health awareness into a practical guide for navigating modern intimacy with confidence and care.

What You’ll Learn

• How to communicate sexual boundaries without reducing desire

• Why consent can enhance attraction and intimacy

• Strategies for handling rejection respectfully in dating and ENM spaces

• The importance of STI awareness and oral transmission education

• How to discuss fantasies, kinks, and desires without pressure

• Why safer sex practices strengthen trust and connection

• The role of communication in ethically non-monogamous relationships

• How body confidence supports sexual empowerment

• Insights into men’s sexual health and nocturnal erections

• The link between erectile function and cardiovascular health

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

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In this episode of Please Me! Podcast, Eve Hall delivers a comprehensive, sex-positive, and medically informed discussion on sexual health, pleasure, and prevention across all genders. The episode bridges clinical insight with practical education, helping listeners understand how physical health, hormones, and daily habits directly shape sexual function and satisfaction.

A central theme of the episode is the connection between sexual performance and overall vascular and cardiovascular health. Eve explains how conditions such as erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness can often serve as early indicators of underlying blood flow or endothelial dysfunction, highlighting the importance of early awareness and holistic care.

The conversation also explores a range of evidence-informed approaches to improving sexual wellness, including acoustic wave therapy for tissue and blood flow support, as well as mechanical tools such as penis pumps and traction devices. These are discussed in the context of safe, informed use and long-term sexual health rather than short-term performance fixes.

Eve emphasizes the role of masturbation and self-exploration as foundational practices for sexual health, noting how masturbation supports pelvic awareness, arousal understanding, and orgasmic response. She also connects ejaculation frequency to prostate health and underscores the importance of pleasure literacy for all genders.

For female sexual health, the episode addresses clitoral blood flow, lubrication, hormonal influences (including testosterone, estrogen, progesterone, and DHEA), and how factors like sleep, nutrition, hydration, and movement contribute to arousal and comfort. The importance of extended foreplay and adequate arousal time is highlighted as essential for reducing discomfort and improving pleasure outcomes.

The episode also explores the orgasm gap in heterosexual relationships and reinforces communication as a key tool in bridging disparities in pleasure. Eve encourages open dialogue about needs, boundaries, and desires as a foundation for healthy sexual connection.

On the prevention side, the episode covers STI awareness, testing protocols (including oral and anal screening), informed consent, and modern prevention strategies such as Doxy-PEP. Additional topics include sexual health preparedness tools (“bug-out bags”), and education around common infections such as yeast infections, UTIs, herpes, and HPV, including vaccination and antiviral treatment options.

Overall, this episode serves as a grounded, educational guide to understanding sexual health as an integrated part of whole-body wellbeing.

What You’ll Learn

• How sexual health reflects cardiovascular and vascular health

• Why erectile dysfunction and vaginal dryness can be early warning signs

• The role of acoustic wave therapy in sexual wellness

• Safe use of penis pumps and traction devices

• Why masturbation supports sexual health and self-awareness

• How hormones influence libido, arousal, and lubrication

• The importance of foreplay and adequate arousal time

• How nutrition, sleep, and movement affect sexual function

• Understanding and addressing the orgasm gap

• STI prevention, testing, and informed consent practices

• What Doxy-PEP is and how post-exposure prevention works

• Sexual health preparedness and safer sex strategies

• Education on herpes, HPV, yeast infections, and UTIs

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

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In this special episode of the What’s Your Brand Story Podcast, host Dhylles Victoria sits down with Eve, creator of Please Me!, for a deeply personal and expansive conversation about the story behind the brand and the lived experiences that shaped its mission.

The discussion explores Eve’s journey from childhood sexual trauma to sexual empowerment, and how that lived experience became the foundation for a global movement centered on sexual health, education, and liberation. She reflects on how healing is not only personal, but also deeply connected to breaking cultural silence around sex, pleasure, and the body.

A major focus of the episode is the importance of sexual health care as an essential part of overall wellbeing. Eve and Dhylles discuss the orgasm gap and the broader concept of orgasm equality, highlighting how lack of education, communication, and anatomical understanding contributes to persistent disparities in pleasure.

The conversation also addresses often-overlooked sexual health concerns, including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, incontinence, and pelvic floor dysfunction, emphasizing the need for more open dialogue and accessible education for all genders.

Additional topics include the role of sexual shame in shaping intimacy and identity, and how healing from trauma can involve rebuilding trust with the body, reframing pleasure, and reclaiming autonomy. Eve also discusses the importance of tools such as sex toys and vibrators in expanding definitions of sex and supporting individual exploration.

Ultimately, this episode highlights how silence around sexuality can perpetuate harm, while open, informed, and compassionate conversation can create pathways toward healing, empowerment, and deeper connection.

What You’ll Learn

• Eve’s journey from sexual trauma to empowerment and advocacy

• Why sexual health care is a critical part of overall wellbeing

• What the orgasm gap is and how orgasm equality can be supported

• Why most women require clitoral stimulation for orgasm

• Common but under-discussed sexual health conditions (ED, PE, incontinence, pelvic floor dysfunction)

• How sexual shame impacts intimacy and healing

• The role of sex toys and vibrators in sexual wellness

• Why open conversations about sex support healing and education

• How trauma recovery connects to embodied sexual confidence

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

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This episode is a special re-release of the most-watched Please Me! Podcast episode of 2025—an award-winning conversation honored with the Latin Podcast Award for Best LGBTQ+ Podcast. Its message remains as relevant and impactful today as ever, which is why it is being shared again for continued reflection and listening.

In this powerful episode, Eve reflects on LGBTQ+ advocacy, the importance of visibility, and the role of community in driving meaningful social change. Drawing from her experience attending World Pride in Washington, D.C. alongside the National Association of Women Business Owners (NAWBO) 50th Anniversary Conference, she explores how moments of celebration and policy-focused advocacy intersect to deepen conversations around representation, accountability, and collective responsibility.

The episode highlights the ongoing resilience, creativity, and leadership within LGBTQ+ communities while also acknowledging the real and present challenges they continue to face in social and legislative spaces. Through this lens, Eve emphasizes the importance of staying engaged, informed, and supportive of marginalized voices.

A central focus of the episode is honoring trans and non-binary individuals, with a dedicated message of recognition and solidarity. The conversation underscores the necessity of visibility, protection, and amplification of their lived experiences, both within the LGBTQ+ community and in broader society.

Ultimately, this re-release serves as both a celebration of progress and a reminder of the ongoing work needed to ensure equity, safety, and dignity for all LGBTQ+ people.

What You’ll Learn

• Why LGBTQ+ visibility and advocacy remain essential

• How World Pride and policy advocacy intersect in meaningful ways

• The importance of community engagement and collective action

• Current social and legislative challenges facing LGBTQ+ individuals

• The role of media and storytelling in representation

• Why trans and non-binary visibility must be prioritized

• How celebration and activism can coexist in meaningful dialogue

• The continued importance of allyship and support

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

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