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TL;DR - Pleasure, Spanking & Masculinity with King Noire

King Noire, an award-winning porn performer, activist, and Master Fetish Trainer, joins Jess & Brandon from Sex Down South to unpack pleasure, pansexuality, masculinity, and the politics of porn.

Spanking with intention: Start slow, communicate often, and never assume your partner’s limits. Explore sting + sensuality with toys like the We-Vibe Touch X or We-Vibe Sync 2.

Ethical porn matters: Through Royal Fetish Films, King and Jasmine produce performer-centered content with fair pay, real chemistry, and co-created scenes—pleasure without exploitation.

Redefining masculinity: King challenges toxic masculinity and invites men to explore full-body pleasure, from rimming to surrender, without shame.

Pleasure is political: Ditch scripts, centre consent, and reclaim your body’s truth. Want more? Listen to the full podcast and dive into posts on anal play, decolonizing desire, and kinky psychology with Luna Matatas & Marla Renée Stewart.

Pleasure, Spanking & Masculinity: A Conversation with King Noire

King Noire is an accomplished and award-winning writer, porn performer, artist, Master Fetish Trainer, MC, and global activist using the proceeds of his album Music Is My Weapon™ to build a school, freshwater well, and medical clinic in West Africa. He raises consciousness around kink safety for people of color, provides lectures on the decolonization of sexuality, and offers sex education to audiences ranging from college students to medical providers.

Check out King Noire's website here, and follow him on his social media accounts - Instagram and Twitter.

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Redefining Masculinity, Spanking with Intention & Ethical Porn

The inimitable King Noire shares his perspective of pleasure, pansexuality, performance and much more in this candid conversation with Jess & Brandon. King Noire — an award-winning performer, master fetish trainer, music artist, and educator joined us for an unfiltered conversation live from Sex Down South in Atlanta. We explored everything from pansexual performance and impact play to somnophilia, ethical porn, and raising sons with care and intention.

What is a Master Fetish Trainer?

King and his partner Jet Setting Jasmine coined the term to reflect their work supporting folks as they discover and embody their fetishes safely. Whether you’re learning to flog, exploring choking and breath play, or simply figuring out what turns you on, their work is grounded in safety, education, and consent.

And if you’re new to spanking? King offers this tip: Start slow and sensual. Build intensity over time, alternate sensations, and never assume your partner wants to be hit hard just because they say they’re into impact. Communication is king. And so is practice.