Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

For the 154th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Ian Kerner for a long-term relationship sex rut reboot.

Dr. Ian Kerner is a nationally recognized sex therapist and author of the smash hit She Comes First and the recently released So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. He also coined the term "cliteracy" and is a Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom—a sexual detective helping individuals and couples solve the mystery of why they're not f*cking like they wish they were.

For more Ian Kerner:

• Order Ian's book So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex
• Follow Ian on Twitter @IanKerner
• Check out Ian's website iankerner.com

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For the 153rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Joey Tuccio, president and CEO of Roadmap Writers, for the final episode in our three-part series on pet loss.

Have you ever lost a beloved pet? It’s the worst. Scientifically, it can be as hard to grieve a pet as a parent or a partner. I lost my beloved dog, Georgia, in early December, and it was so hard for me to process — that experience inspired this series. (If you missed part one with Cherie Doyen, listen here, and part two with Beth Bigler, listen here.)

Joey Tuccio is heavily involved with animal rescue efforts, including saving abused dogs from Skid Row. Of course, we talk about pet loss and navigating the grief, but we also share how to get involved and make dogs' lives better, even if you can't take a dog into your home at the moment.

For more Joey Tuccio:

• Follow Joey on Instagram @joey.tuccio
• Follow Joey on Twitter @joey_tuccio
• Check out the Roadmap Writers website roadmapwriters.com

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For the 152nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Beth Bigler, pet loss grief counselor and founder of Honoring Our Animals, for part two in a three-part series on pet loss.

Have you ever lost a beloved pet? It’s the worst. Scientifically, it can be as hard to grieve a pet as a parent or a partner. I lost my beloved dog, Georgia, in early December, and it was so hard for me to process — that experience inspired this series. (If you missed part one with Cherie Doyen, listen here.)

One of the things that really helped me shortly after Georgia passed away was discovering an Instagram account, @honoringouranimals. I got so much reassurance and validation just from following the account, so I knew I wanted to interview its creator, Beth Bigler, for this series on pet loss. And she did not disappoint.

Beth is a double-certified pet loss grief counselor, certified end-of-life animal companion doula, and pet chaplain. She works with individuals and families before, during, and after the loss of their beloved animal companion. We had a super in-depth conversation. It was not a counseling session, but Beth is clearly really good at her job, and just talking to her for this interview helped me get over a big hump in my Georgia grief. I hope it helps you too.

We discuss:

• What does pet loss counseling actually entail?
• The definition of disenfranchised grief
• Beth’s #1 euthanasia tip
• How to talk to your kids about pet loss
• How to know if you’re ready for a new pet
• The spiritual questions that death can bring up
• Navigating the lexicon of pet grief, including the Rainbow Bridge
• How to be a good ally to others experiencing pet loss
• How you can keep your deceased pet alive in your life

For more Beth Bigler:

• Follow Beth on Instagram @honoringouranimals
• Check out the Honoring Our Animals website honoringouranimals.com

(Pictured with Beth is her soul cat, Arnie.)

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For the 151st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cherie Doyen of Quantum Therapeutix for part one in a three-part series on pet loss.

Have you ever lost a beloved pet? It’s the worst. Scientifically, it can be as hard to grieve a pet as a parent or a partner. I lost my beloved dog, Georgia, in early December, and it was so hard for me to process — that experience inspired this series.

Our first guest is Cherie Doyen, one of my best friend’s mom and a professional healer. In this conversation, Cherie explains a bit about her work healing complex trauma. We also talk about grieving our beloved dogs — my Georgia and her Nina — our dogs as protectors and the best friends we could ever have, pets mourning other pets, being visited by your dog's spirit, how hard euthanasia is for pet owners, and the fraught experience of getting another pet (or "calling in your next guide," as Cherie says.)

For more Cherie Doyen:

• Follow Cherie on Instagram @cheriedoyen
• Buy Cherie's book The Chronicles of Tigua
• Buy Cherie's book Junebug
• Check out the Quantum Therapeutix website quantumtherapeutix.com

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For the 150th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak speaks to Ashley Madison's Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable, to discuss the company's 2024 trend forecast. TL;DR: Non-monogamy is on the rise, but it's playing out differently from generation to generation.

Tune in to learn how Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X, and Boomers are approaching polyamory, open relationships, and affairs with their unique generational flare. And how gender equality factors into the changes. Plus, can an affair ever save a marriage?

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For the 149th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak speaks to Ashley Madison's Communications Director, Isabella Mise, who coauthored "The Good Wife Study" on female infidelity for the final installation in our three-part series on why women cheat.

For part one, we heard from an Ashley Madison member going by the alias of "Nikki" to kick off the series. Part two was a conversation with Ashley Madison's Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable. (This series also featured former co-host Sofiya Alexandra.) You're gonna want to check your presumptions at the door for this one!

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Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

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• Factor’s ready-to-eat meal delivery takes the stress out of meal planning and sets you up for success in the new year. Head to factormeals.com/private50 and use code private50 to get 50% off.
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For the 148th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak speaks to Ashley Madison's Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable, to continue our three-part series on why women cheat.

Last week, we heard from an Ashley Madison member going by the alias of "Nikki" to kick off the series. Next week, for the final installation, you'll hear from Ashley Madison Communications Director Isabella Mise, who coauthored "The Good Wife Study" on female infidelity. (This series also features former co-host Sofiya Alexandra.) You're gonna want to check your presumptions at the door for this one!

Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow

Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

• Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
• STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.
• Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.
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For the 147th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak speaks to an Ashley Madison member going by the alias of "Nikki" to kick off a deep dive into why women cheat.

Next week, for part 2, you'll hear from Ashley Madison's Chief Strategy Officer, Paul Keable. Part 3 is with Ashley Madison Communications Director Isabella Mise, who coauthored "The Good Wife Study" on female infidelity. (This series also features former co-host Sofiya Alexandra.) You're gonna want to check your presumptions at the door for this one!

Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow

Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

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For the 146th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Orna Donath, an Israeli sociologist, author, and feminist activist who wrote the book Regretting Motherhood based on her research.

We talk about ambivalence vs. regret, the difference in how the genders are socialized around parenthood, the external pressures women face to become mothers, how she conducted her study, and more.

For more Orna Donath:

• Buy Orna's book Regretting Motherhood: A Study

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Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

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• Lume is a whole-body deodorant for pits, privates, and beyond. Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code PPU at lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod
• STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.
• Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.
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For the 145th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hallie Lieberman, author of Buzz: The Stimulating History of the Sex Toy, to talk us through the highlight reel of sex toy history. Hallie literally has a Ph.D. in sex toys, so she's the perfect guide.

We discuss how sex toys were illegal in Texas until 2008 (and scary indicators that sex-related laws are regressing!), the Kinsey Institute, Japanese shunga, Anthony Comstock and his terrible legacy of sexual suppression, Betty Dodson and how she linked masturbation to women's liberation, the incredible story of Gosnell Duncan, and more. Hallie also shares what she learned from writing "Women Explain Why They Buy Male Sex Dolls" for Buzzfeed's Sneaky Links series and her predictions for the intersection of sex toys and politics in the future. Plus, we swap gigolo stories.

For more Hallie Lieberman:

• Listen to Hallie's Joy Boy podcast about Gosnell Duncan
• Check out Hallie's website hallielieberman.com
• Follow Hallie on Twitter @hallielieberman
• Follow Hallie on Instagram @hallielieberman

Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshow

Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:

• Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
• Factor’s ready-to-eat meal delivery takes the stress out of meal planning and sets you up for success in the new year. Head to factormeals.com/private50 and use code private50 to get 50% off.
• STDCheck.com is the leader in reliable and affordable lab-based STD testing. Just go to ppupod.com, click STDCheck, and use code Private to get $10 off your next STI test.
• Explore yourself and say yes to self-pleasure with Lovehoney. Save 15% off your next favorite toy from Lovehoney when you go to ppupod.com, click Lovehoney, and enter code Private at checkout.
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