In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Somatic Sex Coach Danie Bergstrom where we explore what it really means to initiate intimacy with confidence—especially for queer women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) folks navigating trauma, social conditioning, and disconnection from desire.

Throughout the conversation, Danie shares her personal journey of coming out after leaving a 7-year marriage with a man—a turning point that led her to discover somatic work and reconnect with her body after years of dissociation. From that work, she began supporting others who feel stuck, unsure how to move from awareness to embodied change.

Danie offers insight into how somatics can gently rewire our relationship with pleasure and intimacy. Along the way, we talk about nonverbal consent, how to initiate without anxiety, and why lesbian sex doesn't follow a single script. She also explains why "Where do you feel that in your body?" isn't always the best place to start—and what to ask instead.

If you've ever struggled with initiating sex, felt unsure how to communicate boundaries, or wanted a deeper connection with your body—this episode offers practical tools and permission to start small.

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