Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Elle Chase (@theellechase), certified life coach, sexologist, sexuality educator, author, and one of the most respected voices in the body acceptance and body neutrality movement. Together, they unpack how body image affects intimacy, relationships, and the ability to feel sexy in your own skin.

In this episode, we dive into:

• The difference between body love and body neutrality

• Baby steps to start feeling sexy when you don’t love your body

• How body image influences desire and long-term passion

• Building connection through touch, intimacy, and skin hunger

• Why self-compassion and communication matter more than confidence

• How to reframe sex as connection, not performance

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Laura Desirée — absolute stranger, intimacy coordinator and pleasure educator — for an unforgettable conversation about how sex, grief, and shame shape our identities.

In this episode, we dive into:

• What intimacy coordinators actually do on film sets and why they make sex scenes better, not worse

• Why Hollywood has failed at portraying female pleasure and how it should look instead

• The messy overlap of grief and sex and how pleasure can become healing

• The role of kink in teaching care, communication, and boundaries

• Laura’s experience as an identical twin and how sex became her path to self-discovery

• Owning shame, embracing vulnerability, and why our “messiest” moments can make us closer to others

• A hilariously human story of intimacy, trust, and… running out of toilet paper

Laura’s raw honesty and fearless approach to sex and pleasure will make you rethink how you see intimacy, on screen and in your own life.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Gabriella Scaringe, founder of Cherri, to explore sexuality and vulvas in the real world — pubic hair trends, labia diversity, harmful language we’ve internalized, and how better design (hello, wide-gusset underwear and swim) can change how we feel in our bodies. We get specific about what actually shows up in everyday life (the “bulge,” the “lip slip”), why that’s normal, and how to shop for pieces that fit and feel good.

What we cover:

• Pubic hair culture now vs. then: why the bush is back, personal preferences (including during oral), and how “cleanliness” isn’t about being hairless.

• Language that harms: the “pastrami vulva” era, innie/outie shame, and how those jokes warp body image.

• Vulva diversity 101: long inner labia are common; symmetry isn’t the standard; vulvas are supposed to be visible sometimes under clothes.

• The “bulge” discourse: when someone called out a “bulge” in a swimsuit pic and Gabriella’s clap-back — it was her vulva. Why visibility ≠ indecency.

• What “lip slip” really means and how design solves for it (without erasing your shape).

• Gusset realities: the industry’s average ~2.5" gusset vs. Cherri’s wider cuts (e.g., a 4" gusset on an XS G-string) and why width, placement, and size-inclusive fit matter.

• Behind the brand: insights from Cherri’s 5,000+-person survey of vulva owners, fit testing across sizes, and why styles take time to release.

• Hygiene myths we’re done with: hair does not equal dirty; vulvas have scent; how to care without over-stripping your skin.

• Body neutrality vs. “love your body”: moving from harm to comfort first, confidence as a practice, and giving yourself permission to pick what feels good.

• Shopping smarter: what to look for in undies and swim (gusset width, rise, fabric, coverage options) and letting comfort lead.

• Our own stories: growing up through the era of hairless ideals, changing tastes, and why embracing “real” bodies feels so freeing.

  
  

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back with another deep dive into the world of dating, this time with award-winning sex educator and ghostwriter Connie Collins (@thefirstdatediaries). We explore the state of relationships today and reveal what keeps people stuck in situationships and unhappy. It’s often not about your dating profile or messaging speed, but deeper issues like fear of vulnerability and emotional shutdowns.

We cover:

- Understanding sexuality and how to discover what you truly want in relationships.

- Recognizing emotional availability and its impact on your dating experience.

- The loneliness of pretending you're okay with casual dating when you’re not

- The concept of “pussy economics” and why your access is valuable

- Real red flags we ignore and green flags we mistake for red flags.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed for another season and she’s kicking things off with adult film icon Small Hands (Aaron Thompson). From monogamy and marriage to aftercare and emotional intimacy on set, Aaron shares what it's really like to live a life of performance — and what happens when the cameras stop rolling. We get deep on female pleasure, working with Owen Gray, porn myths, and how to separate real connection from performative sex. If you’ve ever wondered what love looks like when sex is your job, this one’s for you.

In this episode, we talk about:

• how porn shaped Aaron’s real-life relationships

• what it's like to be monogamous while working in the adult industry

• the emotional aftermath of performing sex on camera

• whether it's really possible to have sex without catching feelings

• how to separate intimacy from performance

• Aaron’s recent divorce and what it taught him

• his take on aftercare and why it's necessary in porn

• how he advocates for female pleasure in a male-driven industry

• what it's like working with Owen Gray and the hype around him

• his thoughts on what sex acts are overrated vs underrated

• what porn gets right and wrong about real desire

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Beth Sparksfire — the Queen of Hacienda, New York’s legendary sex-positive community and party scene.

Together, we dive deep into how to be a thoughtful, respectful, and unforgettable sex party guest. Whether you’re a first-timer or looking to level up, Beth shares the real dos and don'ts from her years curating erotic experiences.

We cover:

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Birna Gustafsson, sex educator with a master's in public health and host of Explicit Studies, to talk about the sea of sexual misinformation we’re constantly swimming in—and how to get better at spotting it.

Together, they bust myths that still circulate widely online (even in sex-positive spaces) and explore how shame, purity culture, and bad science shape our sexual health beliefs.

Expect to learn:

Birna also shares how she's helping train nurses and midwives to better support patients with inclusive, evidence-based sex education. Plus: her favorite sex ed resources, books, and where to go if you're ready to learn the truth.

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In this very juicy and educational episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jamie Joy, a queer, trans certified sex educator and full-blown fisting aficionado. We dive deep (literally and figuratively) into the world of fisting, from how to prep and practice it safely to the surprising aftercare and emotional intensity it can carry.

We also discuss:

You can check out more of Jamie's work here!

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Thea Rose, host of Seggs Talk Radio and founder of a new STI testing startup, to talk about what it really takes to build a sex-positive business—from scratch, with heart, and without losing your mind.

Thea opens up about her messy, honest path as a multi-hyphenate creator, how she juggles podcasting, launching companies, and staying grounded through burnout, ADHD, OnlyFans, and entrepreneurship in a taboo space. If you've ever wondered what it actually takes to build something sustainable in the sexual wellness world—this one's for you.

We get into:

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Allie Hoffman, founder of Catch The Feels—a viral in-person dating experience helping people ditch dating apps and reconnect with their bodies, emotions, and intuition.

We dive deep into Allie’s groundbreaking “four systems of knowing” and how we can use the body, emotions, thoughts, and inner truth to date with more clarity and self-trust. Allie opens up about falling for poly men while being deeply monogamous, breaking her pattern of choosing emotionally unavailable partners, and how her body often speaks louder than her mind when it comes to sex and relationships.

We also discuss:

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