Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jeff Perla, host of Oh Dear I’m Queer, for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy.

We discuss:

• Morning hookups, blowjob confessions, and the idea of “nut clarity”
• Seeing Jeff's nudes & live reactions
• Snapchat vs. Instagram, hookup apps, and why Jeff made hoe cards while Alexa makes hoe friendship bracelets
• Bold ways of flirting IRL
• Fire Island and Hamptons stories, including Jeff’s secret hookup with “Chad,” a DL late-blooming bi guy
• Sex toys, magic wands, vibrating cock rings, and why toys aren’t just for women
• Gay hookup culture, Grindr chats, and whether there’s really a “top shortage”
• Therapy insights: Jeff wants to settle down and went to therapy to see if he's the problem
• Bi men in gay spaces, biphobia, and the fear of being “left for a woman”
• Girls’ gays vs. gays’ gays, and the tension over women in gay bars
• Eating disorders, body image, intermittent fasting, and gay pool party pressures
• Open relationships, monogamy fears, and rules like “our bed is our bed”
• Family dynamics, supportive siblings, grandma’s vibrator advice, and parents learning about OnlyFans
• What makes a “pretty dick,” hygiene, cut vs. uncut, and why enthusiasm matters most in oral sex
• Grindr bios, faceless profiles, and navigating hookup app etiquette

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Ali Weiss, New York native, host of Tales of Taboo and unapologetic oversharer, for a raw conversation about rejection, vulnerability, and why we’re all obsessed with the forbidden.

A funny, honest, and deeply relatable episode on being human, craving connection, and owning your messy truth, why rejection stings less when you know yourself, and how vulnerability can be both a calling and a curse. Ali opens up about running her anonymous confessions podcast, burnout, parasocial relationships, and why taboos like sex work and drug dealing deserve compassion instead of judgment.

Other topics we cover:

• The complicated relationship with oversharing and boundaries

• Why rejection isn’t the end of the world, and how to approach people IRL

• The obsession with being a “clean girl” vs embracing messiness

• Why taboo fascinates us and how it secretly connects us all

• Friendships that go deeper than relationships

• Learning to accept yourself so you can handle rejection and find real connection

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed with Vee, co-host of Girls Gone Deep and almost-certified somatic sex and relationship coach, for a juicy conversation all about sexual fantasies.

We cover:

• Why fantasies are so important for a fulfilling sex life

• The difference between fantasies you should keep in your head vs. the ones you might want to bring to life

• Vee’s wildest fulfilled fantasies (from MFM threesomes to DVPs and even public play at Broadway)

• What it’s really like to plan a gangbang (and why you might not want to force it)

• How shame around our bodies, vulvas, and desires can hold us back — and how to push through it

• Fantasies that should stay fantasies (monster-fucking, Khaleesi worship scenes, etc.)

• The role of community and how to find people who will help make your fantasies a reality

• Fantasies that grow out of childhood wounds, trauma, or praise/degradation kinks

• How to actually ask for what you want and deal with rejection

• Tools for couples and individuals to explore fantasies safely (even if they never leave your imagination)

It’s raw, personal, and full of both funny and vulnerable stories — from getting DVPed on a cruise to being worshipped by multiple partners at once. If you’ve ever wondered where fantasies come from, how to share them without shame, or how to make them happen in real life, this is your guide.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified sexologist and Wonderlust founder Natassia Miller for a deep dive into one of the most common struggles in relationships: mismatched desire.

We break down why sex can get boring in long-term relationships, why the honeymoon phase always fades, and how to actually reignite passion with your partner. From exploring fantasies to reducing the mental load, this episode is a roadmap for couples who feel like they’re not having enough sex — or not the kind of sex they really want.

We talk about:

• Why desire always shifts after the honeymoon phase
• The role of new relationship energy and why it fades
• How mismatched desire shows up in nearly every couple
• Why foreplay is more than just sex — it’s in the daily details
• The importance of “I statements” vs. blaming your partner
• How mental load kills desire, especially for women
• The power of non-sexual touch and small moments of intimacy
• Why women get bored faster in monogamy — and what to do about it
• How to bring up bad or boring sex without crushing your partner’s ego
• The role of masturbation in keeping connection alive
• Introducing novelty, fantasy and kink safely with your partner
• Tools like intimacy card decks to make sexual communication easier
• When to see a professional and how one session can change everything

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Elle Chase (@theellechase), certified life coach, sexologist, sexuality educator, author, and one of the most respected voices in the body acceptance and body neutrality movement. Together, they unpack how body image affects intimacy, relationships, and the ability to feel sexy in your own skin.

In this episode, we dive into:

• The difference between body love and body neutrality

• Baby steps to start feeling sexy when you don’t love your body

• How body image influences desire and long-term passion

• Building connection through touch, intimacy, and skin hunger

• Why self-compassion and communication matter more than confidence

• How to reframe sex as connection, not performance

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Laura Desirée — absolute stranger, intimacy coordinator and pleasure educator — for an unforgettable conversation about how sex, grief, and shame shape our identities.

In this episode, we dive into:

• What intimacy coordinators actually do on film sets and why they make sex scenes better, not worse

• Why Hollywood has failed at portraying female pleasure and how it should look instead

• The messy overlap of grief and sex and how pleasure can become healing

• The role of kink in teaching care, communication, and boundaries

• Laura’s experience as an identical twin and how sex became her path to self-discovery

• Owning shame, embracing vulnerability, and why our “messiest” moments can make us closer to others

• A hilariously human story of intimacy, trust, and… running out of toilet paper

Laura’s raw honesty and fearless approach to sex and pleasure will make you rethink how you see intimacy, on screen and in your own life.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Gabriella Scaringe, founder of Cherri, to explore sexuality and vulvas in the real world — pubic hair trends, labia diversity, harmful language we’ve internalized, and how better design (hello, wide-gusset underwear and swim) can change how we feel in our bodies. We get specific about what actually shows up in everyday life (the “bulge,” the “lip slip”), why that’s normal, and how to shop for pieces that fit and feel good.

What we cover:

• Pubic hair culture now vs. then: why the bush is back, personal preferences (including during oral), and how “cleanliness” isn’t about being hairless.

• Language that harms: the “pastrami vulva” era, innie/outie shame, and how those jokes warp body image.

• Vulva diversity 101: long inner labia are common; symmetry isn’t the standard; vulvas are supposed to be visible sometimes under clothes.

• The “bulge” discourse: when someone called out a “bulge” in a swimsuit pic and Gabriella’s clap-back — it was her vulva. Why visibility ≠ indecency.

• What “lip slip” really means and how design solves for it (without erasing your shape).

• Gusset realities: the industry’s average ~2.5" gusset vs. Cherri’s wider cuts (e.g., a 4" gusset on an XS G-string) and why width, placement, and size-inclusive fit matter.

• Behind the brand: insights from Cherri’s 5,000+-person survey of vulva owners, fit testing across sizes, and why styles take time to release.

• Hygiene myths we’re done with: hair does not equal dirty; vulvas have scent; how to care without over-stripping your skin.

• Body neutrality vs. “love your body”: moving from harm to comfort first, confidence as a practice, and giving yourself permission to pick what feels good.

• Shopping smarter: what to look for in undies and swim (gusset width, rise, fabric, coverage options) and letting comfort lead.

• Our own stories: growing up through the era of hairless ideals, changing tastes, and why embracing “real” bodies feels so freeing.

  
  

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back with another deep dive into the world of dating, this time with award-winning sex educator and ghostwriter Connie Collins (@thefirstdatediaries). We explore the state of relationships today and reveal what keeps people stuck in situationships and unhappy. It’s often not about your dating profile or messaging speed, but deeper issues like fear of vulnerability and emotional shutdowns.

We cover:

- Understanding sexuality and how to discover what you truly want in relationships.

- Recognizing emotional availability and its impact on your dating experience.

- The loneliness of pretending you're okay with casual dating when you’re not

- The concept of “pussy economics” and why your access is valuable

- Real red flags we ignore and green flags we mistake for red flags.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed for another season and she’s kicking things off with adult film icon Small Hands (Aaron Thompson). From monogamy and marriage to aftercare and emotional intimacy on set, Aaron shares what it's really like to live a life of performance — and what happens when the cameras stop rolling. We get deep on female pleasure, working with Owen Gray, porn myths, and how to separate real connection from performative sex. If you’ve ever wondered what love looks like when sex is your job, this one’s for you.

In this episode, we talk about:

• how porn shaped Aaron’s real-life relationships

• what it's like to be monogamous while working in the adult industry

• the emotional aftermath of performing sex on camera

• whether it's really possible to have sex without catching feelings

• how to separate intimacy from performance

• Aaron’s recent divorce and what it taught him

• his take on aftercare and why it's necessary in porn

• how he advocates for female pleasure in a male-driven industry

• what it's like working with Owen Gray and the hype around him

• his thoughts on what sex acts are overrated vs underrated

• what porn gets right and wrong about real desire

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Beth Sparksfire — the Queen of Hacienda, New York’s legendary sex-positive community and party scene.

Together, we dive deep into how to be a thoughtful, respectful, and unforgettable sex party guest. Whether you’re a first-timer or looking to level up, Beth shares the real dos and don'ts from her years curating erotic experiences.

We cover:

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