Sexologist Alexa Andre (@⁠sexwithalexa⁠)⁠ sits on the couch with Robyn Silber⁠ — a former Google software engineer who slept with 70 men in 10 months and then realized she’s asexual. Robyn opens up about her “slut era,” sexual health, discovering demisexuality, navigating autism and dating, and why she’s now working to help lonely men build real connection.

We talk about:

• Dating younger men and having 70 sexual partners in her first 10 months in NYC

• Sexual health: chlamydia, BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and learning to advocate for herself

• Why only ~5 of 70 partners made her orgasm and how she wasn’t asking for pleasure

• The difference between physical attraction and real sexual desire

• How asexuality doesn’t mean low libido or lack of masturbation

• Her current relationship: emotional connection, sensuality, and slow intimacy

• Why everyone should have a “slut era” and what to keep in mind

• Her idea to launch an online support group for men who aren’t getting laid

• The male loneliness crisis and how empathy can rebuild connection

• Why men should focus on friendship, hobbies, and social skills before dating

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Haley Jakobson, author of Old Enough, bisexual Dream Girl, and OCD Princess, to talk about friendship, therapy, OCD, and sex. Haley opens up about how her OCD has shaped her relationships, sexuality, creative life and how vulnerability and repair have transformed her friendships and intimacy.

We discuss:

• The importance of friendship and why it can be even more transformative than romantic love

• Learning to fight and repair conflict with friends instead of avoiding it

• Friendship breakups, grief, and when to let go vs. when to repair

• How attachment styles (anxious vs. avoidant) affect friendships and conflict

• The parallels between romantic and platonic relationship skills

• Navigating OCD, intrusive thoughts, and relationship anxiety

• Sexual shame, low libido, and reconnecting with desire during recovery

• The impact of COVID on libido, self-pleasure, and intimacy

• How OCD and anxiety affect sexual intimacy and self-image

• Learning to find satisfaction without pressure to perform sexually

• Haley’s upcoming novel Cave Girl and the story behind its title

  
  

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Nina Divina, Mama Muse and founder of Haus of Muse, for a powerful and playful conversation about confidence, burlesque, sensuality, and how to be the main character in your sex life.

We talk about:

• What “cunt is an energy” really means and how to embody it

• Overcoming body image struggles and learning to love your reflection

• How to be the main character in your sex life and in everyday life

• The power of adopting a persona to boost confidence

• Why teasing is the most underrated form of foreplay

• Teasing vs. flirting — and how anticipation makes everything hotter

• Building sexual confidence through self-love and self-touch

• Reconnecting with your sensuality after losing it

• The importance of breathing, eye contact, and connection before sex

• How “fake it till you make it” and “delulu is the solulu” actually work

• Stretching, sensual movement, and small daily rituals to feel sexy again

• Why confidence, play, and teasing make sex better for everyone

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Jeff Perla, host of Oh Dear I’m Queer, for a candid, funny, and unfiltered conversation about queer sex, dating, and intimacy.

We discuss:

• Morning hookups, blowjob confessions, and the idea of “nut clarity”
• Seeing Jeff's nudes & live reactions
• Snapchat vs. Instagram, hookup apps, and why Jeff made hoe cards while Alexa makes hoe friendship bracelets
• Bold ways of flirting IRL
• Fire Island and Hamptons stories, including Jeff’s secret hookup with “Chad,” a DL late-blooming bi guy
• Sex toys, magic wands, vibrating cock rings, and why toys aren’t just for women
• Gay hookup culture, Grindr chats, and whether there’s really a “top shortage”
• Therapy insights: Jeff wants to settle down and went to therapy to see if he's the problem
• Bi men in gay spaces, biphobia, and the fear of being “left for a woman”
• Girls’ gays vs. gays’ gays, and the tension over women in gay bars
• Eating disorders, body image, intermittent fasting, and gay pool party pressures
• Open relationships, monogamy fears, and rules like “our bed is our bed”
• Family dynamics, supportive siblings, grandma’s vibrator advice, and parents learning about OnlyFans
• What makes a “pretty dick,” hygiene, cut vs. uncut, and why enthusiasm matters most in oral sex
• Grindr bios, faceless profiles, and navigating hookup app etiquette

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Ali Weiss, New York native, host of Tales of Taboo and unapologetic oversharer, for a raw conversation about rejection, vulnerability, and why we’re all obsessed with the forbidden.

A funny, honest, and deeply relatable episode on being human, craving connection, and owning your messy truth, why rejection stings less when you know yourself, and how vulnerability can be both a calling and a curse. Ali opens up about running her anonymous confessions podcast, burnout, parasocial relationships, and why taboos like sex work and drug dealing deserve compassion instead of judgment.

Other topics we cover:

• The complicated relationship with oversharing and boundaries

• Why rejection isn’t the end of the world, and how to approach people IRL

• The obsession with being a “clean girl” vs embracing messiness

• Why taboo fascinates us and how it secretly connects us all

• Friendships that go deeper than relationships

• Learning to accept yourself so you can handle rejection and find real connection

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back in bed with Vee, co-host of Girls Gone Deep and almost-certified somatic sex and relationship coach, for a juicy conversation all about sexual fantasies.

We cover:

• Why fantasies are so important for a fulfilling sex life

• The difference between fantasies you should keep in your head vs. the ones you might want to bring to life

• Vee’s wildest fulfilled fantasies (from MFM threesomes to DVPs and even public play at Broadway)

• What it’s really like to plan a gangbang (and why you might not want to force it)

• How shame around our bodies, vulvas, and desires can hold us back — and how to push through it

• Fantasies that should stay fantasies (monster-fucking, Khaleesi worship scenes, etc.)

• The role of community and how to find people who will help make your fantasies a reality

• Fantasies that grow out of childhood wounds, trauma, or praise/degradation kinks

• How to actually ask for what you want and deal with rejection

• Tools for couples and individuals to explore fantasies safely (even if they never leave your imagination)

It’s raw, personal, and full of both funny and vulnerable stories — from getting DVPed on a cruise to being worshipped by multiple partners at once. If you’ve ever wondered where fantasies come from, how to share them without shame, or how to make them happen in real life, this is your guide.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified sexologist and Wonderlust founder Natassia Miller for a deep dive into one of the most common struggles in relationships: mismatched desire.

We break down why sex can get boring in long-term relationships, why the honeymoon phase always fades, and how to actually reignite passion with your partner. From exploring fantasies to reducing the mental load, this episode is a roadmap for couples who feel like they’re not having enough sex — or not the kind of sex they really want.

We talk about:

• Why desire always shifts after the honeymoon phase
• The role of new relationship energy and why it fades
• How mismatched desire shows up in nearly every couple
• Why foreplay is more than just sex — it’s in the daily details
• The importance of “I statements” vs. blaming your partner
• How mental load kills desire, especially for women
• The power of non-sexual touch and small moments of intimacy
• Why women get bored faster in monogamy — and what to do about it
• How to bring up bad or boring sex without crushing your partner’s ego
• The role of masturbation in keeping connection alive
• Introducing novelty, fantasy and kink safely with your partner
• Tools like intimacy card decks to make sexual communication easier
• When to see a professional and how one session can change everything

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Elle Chase (@theellechase), certified life coach, sexologist, sexuality educator, author, and one of the most respected voices in the body acceptance and body neutrality movement. Together, they unpack how body image affects intimacy, relationships, and the ability to feel sexy in your own skin.

In this episode, we dive into:

• The difference between body love and body neutrality

• Baby steps to start feeling sexy when you don’t love your body

• How body image influences desire and long-term passion

• Building connection through touch, intimacy, and skin hunger

• Why self-compassion and communication matter more than confidence

• How to reframe sex as connection, not performance

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Laura Desirée — absolute stranger, intimacy coordinator and pleasure educator — for an unforgettable conversation about how sex, grief, and shame shape our identities.

In this episode, we dive into:

• What intimacy coordinators actually do on film sets and why they make sex scenes better, not worse

• Why Hollywood has failed at portraying female pleasure and how it should look instead

• The messy overlap of grief and sex and how pleasure can become healing

• The role of kink in teaching care, communication, and boundaries

• Laura’s experience as an identical twin and how sex became her path to self-discovery

• Owning shame, embracing vulnerability, and why our “messiest” moments can make us closer to others

• A hilariously human story of intimacy, trust, and… running out of toilet paper

Laura’s raw honesty and fearless approach to sex and pleasure will make you rethink how you see intimacy, on screen and in your own life.

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Gabriella Scaringe, founder of Cherri, to explore sexuality and vulvas in the real world — pubic hair trends, labia diversity, harmful language we’ve internalized, and how better design (hello, wide-gusset underwear and swim) can change how we feel in our bodies. We get specific about what actually shows up in everyday life (the “bulge,” the “lip slip”), why that’s normal, and how to shop for pieces that fit and feel good.

What we cover:

• Pubic hair culture now vs. then: why the bush is back, personal preferences (including during oral), and how “cleanliness” isn’t about being hairless.

• Language that harms: the “pastrami vulva” era, innie/outie shame, and how those jokes warp body image.

• Vulva diversity 101: long inner labia are common; symmetry isn’t the standard; vulvas are supposed to be visible sometimes under clothes.

• The “bulge” discourse: when someone called out a “bulge” in a swimsuit pic and Gabriella’s clap-back — it was her vulva. Why visibility ≠ indecency.

• What “lip slip” really means and how design solves for it (without erasing your shape).

• Gusset realities: the industry’s average ~2.5" gusset vs. Cherri’s wider cuts (e.g., a 4" gusset on an XS G-string) and why width, placement, and size-inclusive fit matter.

• Behind the brand: insights from Cherri’s 5,000+-person survey of vulva owners, fit testing across sizes, and why styles take time to release.

• Hygiene myths we’re done with: hair does not equal dirty; vulvas have scent; how to care without over-stripping your skin.

• Body neutrality vs. “love your body”: moving from harm to comfort first, confidence as a practice, and giving yourself permission to pick what feels good.

• Shopping smarter: what to look for in undies and swim (gusset width, rise, fabric, coverage options) and letting comfort lead.

• Our own stories: growing up through the era of hairless ideals, changing tastes, and why embracing “real” bodies feels so freeing.

  
  

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