In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores what it means to have a healthy sexual relationship. She introduces the six principles of sexual health as identified by the World Health Organization: consent, non-exploitation, honesty, shared values, safety, and pleasure. Jessa delves into each principle, explaining its importance and providing insights on how couples can apply these concepts to strengthen their intimate relationships. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on these principles and consider areas where they can improve to enhance their sexual health and relationship satisfaction.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:48 Defining a Healthy Sexual Relationship

01:56 Principle 1: Consent

04:40 Principle 2: Non-Exploitation

07:01 Principle 3: Honesty

08:25 Principle 4: Shared Values

09:47 Principle 5: Safety

11:08 Principle 6: Pleasure

13:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

13:28 Closing Remarks and Call to Action

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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Lauren Elise Rogers, a certified holistic sexuality educator and intimacy coach. They discuss the journey from a sex-negative upbringing to crafting a fulfilling and values-aligned sex life. Lauren shares her personal story of overcoming restrictive beliefs rooted in a conservative religious background, through education, therapy, and self-discovery. They explore the concept of sexual scripts and the importance of integrating positive sexual beliefs and values into one's life. The discussion touches on the impact of societal and cultural narratives on sexuality, the role of media, and the significance of writing one's own sexual values mission statement. The episode aims to inspire listeners to rethink and reclaim their sexual identities.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:48 Guest Introduction: Lauren Elise Rogers

02:02 Lauren's Background and Upbringing

03:47 Marriage and Personal Struggles

05:01 Turning Point and Seeking Help

07:33 Rebuilding and New Beginnings

10:48 Professional Journey and Current Work

13:08 Exploring Sexual Scripts and Beliefs

16:20 Exploring Sexual Scripts and Improv

17:32 Revisiting Sexual Beliefs and Values

19:17 Crafting a Sexual Values Mission Statement

21:33 Integrating Sexuality into Everyday Life

25:00 The Role of Erotic Literature

29:14 Connecting and Resources

30:35 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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Bio:

Lauren Elise Rogers is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach, celebrated for her warm and approachable style. Her holistic and embodied approach to education and coaching is deeply rooted in her own pain-to-purpose journey. Lauren brings an empathetic and non-judgmental approach, offering practical tools that empower her clients to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection. She is known for creating shame-free spaces, where she invites individuals and couples to navigate complex topics like long-term partnerships, consensual non-monogamy, life transitions, purity culture and LGBTQIA+ issues.

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In this episode of Better Sex, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, listeners are guided through the complexities behind the lack of sexual intimacy in relationships. Zimmerman discusses the factors that contribute to this issue, such as changes in brain chemistry, desire discrepancies, emotional connection, and life stressors. She provides insight into common feelings, like shame and inadequacy, and offers practical strategies for couples to improve their intimate lives. Emphasis is placed on the importance of addressing relationship problems, rediscovering emotional connection, adapting to changes, and open communication without blame. Professional help is recommended for persistent issues, with advice on seeking certified sex therapists. The episode aims to reassure couples that they are not alone and provide actionable steps to enhance their sexual and emotional bonds.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:57 Understanding the Lack of Sex in Relationships

01:41 Normalizing Sexual Struggles

03:12 Addressing Desire Discrepancies

04:13 Identifying Relationship Strengths

06:13 Common Reasons for Reduced Sexual Activity

13:06 Rebuilding Emotional and Physical Connection

19:43 Seeking Professional Help

21:16 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes author Tash Doherty to discuss her work on a spicy coming-of-age novel and a sex writing journal. Doherty shares her goal of helping people explore their sexuality and desires through writing while confronting shame. The conversation delves into her personal experiences, creative process, and the impact of sharing intimate stories publicly. The episode also highlights an upcoming Kickstarter for Doherty's journal, aiming to guide individuals in their sexual exploration. Listeners are encouraged to visit her blog and join the project. Overall, the discussion offers insights into the power of writing to deepen one's understanding of sexuality and reduce shame.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:50 Guest Introduction: Tash Doherty

01:41 Tash's Journey in Writing

02:50 Exploring Personal Experiences in Writing

04:30 Challenges and Vulnerabilities in Writing

07:33 The Impact of Writing on Personal Growth

13:23 The Benefits of Sex Journaling

21:38 Kickstarter and Final Thoughts

23:17 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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Bio:

Tash Doherty is a British-Irish-American writer and author. She is the creator of Misseducated, a blog, and podcast on a mission to help the world be shamelessly sexy. She started writing her first novel, These Perfectly Careless Things, when she was 14 years old and self-published the book in September 2023 (finally achieving her childhood dream). These Perfectly Careless Things is a spicy, coming-of-age Young Adult novel set in London. Tash has also gone viral on TikTok for over-sharing her birth control experience.

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Tash graduated from the Wharton School, University of Pennsylvania, where she studied Business Analytics and Management. In other lives, she worked in analytics at Postmates and Vox Media and still does corporate consulting to pay them pesky bills. She lives in Mexico City.

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Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

Why do women fake orgasm — and what does it really mean for the relationship? In this video, we dive deep into the real reasons women pretend to climax, from avoiding conflict and protecting their partner’s ego to feeling pressure to “perform.” You’ll learn what’s actually happening beneath the surface, why faking it can create emotional distance, and how couples can rebuild honesty, safety, and genuine pleasure in bed.

If you’ve ever wondered:

Why do women fake orgasm even when they love their partner?

What does it say about desire, communication, or compatibility?

How can couples start having real, connected sex again?

This conversation will help you understand the dynamics at play — and how to shift from performance to true intimacy.

Listen now to explore the psychology behind why women fake orgasm, and how both partners can move toward honesty, ease, and real satisfaction.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:56 Why Women Fake Orgasms

03:09 The Cost of Faking Orgasms

04:21 How to Address Faking Orgasms with Your Partner

04:55 A Real-Life Example

06:44 Encouragement for Open Communication

07:46 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

Should You Take HRT? | Hormone Replacement, Menopause & Perimenopause Explained

Are you navigating perimenopause or menopause and wondering, “should I take HRT?” In this video, Dr. Sarah Daccarett and I break down hormone replacement therapy (HRT), how it works, risks, benefits, and who might be a good candidate. We also explore the hormonal shifts during perimenopause and menopause, and ways to manage symptoms naturally (or with medical support).

Topics covered include:

What HRT is and how it replaces lost estrogen and progesterone

Typical symptoms of perimenopause and menopause (hot flashes, low libido, mood swings, vaginal dryness)

Pros and cons of taking hormone replacement therapy

Different HRT options: bioidentical vs. synthetic, delivery methods (pills, patches, creams)

Underlying health factors to consider (heart health, cancer risk, bone density)

Signs that HRT may be helpful — and when to avoid it

Complementary strategies: diet, lifestyle, herbal supports, stress reduction

How to talk to your doctor about HRT and make an informed decision

If you're asking, “Is it safe? Will it help me feel like myself again?” — this is the conversation for you.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:51 Guest Introduction: Dr. Sarah Dakkar on Hormone Balance

01:32 Dr. Dakkar's Journey into Hormone Therapy

02:11 Understanding Hormone Imbalances

03:24 Challenges and Misconceptions in Hormone Therapy

05:14 Common Hormone Imbalances and Their Effects

12:21 Environmental and Lifestyle Factors

18:15 Sexual Health and Hormone Imbalances

20:37 The Role of Estrogen in Women's Health

21:56 Challenges Women Face with Medical Professionals

23:04 Effective Hormone Replacement Therapy

25:41 Understanding Individualized Treatment

29:41 Risks and Benefits of HRT

34:45 Product Information and Accessibility

37:03 Conclusion and Resources

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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

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Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

Can a Sexless Marriage Be Happy? | Understanding Low Desire, Intimacy, and Relationship Satisfaction

Can a marriage without sex still be a happy one? In this episode, we explore what it really means to be in a sexless marriage—from couples who are mutually content without sex to those where one partner feels lonely, rejected, or frustrated.

We’ll look at the common reasons for a sexless marriage, including conflict, emotional distance, mismatched libidos, sexual dysfunction, trauma, menopause, and avoidance patterns that quietly erode connection over time. You’ll learn practical steps to rebuild intimacy, overcome sexual avoidance, and start creating a healthy, fulfilling sexual relationship again.

And for those facing a partner who’s unwilling to address the issue, we’ll talk about what it means to choose happiness, fulfillment, and self-respect—whether or not the sexual dynamic ever changes.

If you’ve ever wondered whether love can last without sex—or how to bring desire back when it’s faded—this conversation is for you.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:58 Can You Be Happy in a Sexless Marriage?

01:47 Understanding the Causes of a Sexless Marriage

02:27 Addressing Sexual Avoidance and Rebuilding Intimacy

05:26 When One Partner is Unwilling to Work on the Relationship

06:03 Making the Final Decision

07:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Dr. Winnifred Cutler to discuss her extensive research on pheromones and their impact on human sexuality. Dr. Cutler, a passionate researcher, shares her journey from psychology graduate student to becoming a leading expert in the field of pheromones. The conversation covers the history of pheromones, the different types, and their effects on human attraction, fertility, and romantic behavior. Dr. Cutler also highlights her development of pheromone products and shares testimonials of their impactful use. Tune in to learn about pheromones' scientific basis and their potential to enhance intimate relationships.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:53 Guest Introduction: Dr. Winnifred Cutler

01:53 Dr. Cutler's Journey into Pheromone Research

03:33 Understanding Pheromones

04:54 Types of Pheromones

07:17 Sex Attractant Pheromones

10:57 Developing Pheromone Products

13:32 Testing and Results

18:59 Pheromones for Men

21:37 Chemical Compounds and Romantic Gestures

21:56 Tracking Sexual Behaviors

24:04 Testimonials and Effects of Pheromones

26:32 Natural Production of Pheromones

29:50 Pheromones and Same-Sex Attraction

30:58 Global Reach and Customer Insights

33:57 Impact of Pheromones in Academic Settings

38:48 Athena Institute and Women's Health

40:35 Conclusion and Podcast Information

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Bio:

Dr. Winnifred Cutler, B.S. in Psychology cum laude from Ursinus College in 1973, earned her Ph.D. in Biology from the University of Pennsylvania in 1979 followed by postdoctoral work in behavioral endocrinology at Stanford University. In 1985 she co-founded the Women's Wellness Program at the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania. She has published over 50 scientific papers, is co-inventor on 5 patents and author of eight books on women's health translated into 7 languages - including the 2020 (3rd) edition of Love Cycles: The Science of Intimacy chronicling both her discovery of Human Pheromones and development of successful formulas as well as her book, Hormones and Your Health: The Smart Woman's Guide to Hormonal and Alternative Therapies for Menopause with essential information for women over age 35 to achieve their 'personal-best' health.

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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the crucial role of experiential practice in improving intimate relationships. She underscores the importance of embodying the knowledge gained through communication, challenging myths about sex, and understanding desire. Drawing on her Intimacy With Ease Method, Zimmerman highlights the need for hands-on experiences to truly transform one's sex life. Listeners are provided with valuable resources and are encouraged to actively practice the concepts discussed to achieve meaningful change in their intimate lives.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

01:02 The Importance of Experiential Practice

01:21 The Intimacy with Ease Method

02:55 Practical Exercises and Analogies

03:39 The Giver Receiver Exercise

04:39 The Role of Experiential Learning in Sex Therapy

05:35 Resources and Conclusion

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Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass