In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Dr. Jacquie Del Rosario about the invasive impact of technology on relationships. They discuss how excessive screen time can weaken intimacy and emotional connections, and how couples can set boundaries to deepen their face-to-face interactions. Dr. Del Rosario shares insights on how technology has altered dating and wooing practices, the importance of intentional communication, and strategies for couples to reconnect. They also touch on the challenges of addressing a partner's technology use and the benefits of seeking professional help to maintain a healthy relationship.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:47 Impact of Technology on Relationships

04:04 Challenges of Modern Dating

07:44 Maintaining Connection in the Digital Age

13:16 Setting Boundaries for Better Intimacy

15:12 The Impact of Technology on Intimacy

15:38 Introduction to Jess and Her Services

16:06 Setting Boundaries with Technology

17:07 The Importance of Face-to-Face Communication

20:08 Using Conversation Cards to Reconnect

22:17 Leveraging Technology Positively

23:26 Addressing Technology Concerns with Your Partner

26:35 The Role of Professional Help in Relationships

29:00 Dr. Jacquie's Trauma Treatment Cohort

30:45 Conclusion and Contact Information

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Bio:

Dr. Jacquie’s meteoric rise into the relationship and marriage arena has

deemed her America's Marriage Coach™. Her magnetic appeal and

practical solutions to relatable issues captivates her audiences worldwide.

Dr. Jacquie’s mantra derives from the idea that the foundation of any society

starts within an individual’s home. For the past 20 years, Dr. Jacquie has

evangelized couples everywhere with her philosophy of the seven pillars of

compatibility. She has engineered a host of tools to cultivate healthy

relationships and marriage. These tools include: Curricula, The Marriage

University, Best Marriage Keys, and created the Compatibility Quiz. In

addition to this curricula, Dr. Jacquie hosts conferences and intensive

trainings that provide skill-based learning that induces a shift in

trajectories.

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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, legendary adult film actor Mitch Hartwell shares his unique insights on male sexual performance. Drawing from his two-decade career in the adult film industry and his expertise in neurolinguistic programming, Mitch discusses the psychological and physical strategies men can utilize to improve their sexual experiences, focusing on control, mindset, and overcoming common issues like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Mitch emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own anatomy, being strategic in the bedroom, and building self-confidence through incremental success. Listen in for expert advice, practical tips, and an in-depth conversation about navigating and enhancing intimate relationships.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:50 Guest Introduction: Mitch Hartwell

01:56 Mitch's Journey and Expertise

05:27 Understanding Male Performance

11:06 The Three Levels of Sexual Satisfaction

20:58 Belief Systems and Performance

25:31 Recognizing and Utilizing Tools for Change

26:08 The Dangers of 'I Hope' Thinking

26:54 Strategies for Erectile Dysfunction

27:25 Understanding Sensations and Performance Pathways

30:54 Psychological vs. Physical Erections

38:39 Strategies for Premature Ejaculation

39:07 The Five Minute Marker

40:15 Position Strategies for Lasting Longer

43:19 Building Confidence and Avoiding the Doom Loop

44:18 Conclusion and How to Reach Out

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Bio:

Erik Everhard (Mitch Hartwell) is a best-selling author, elite men’s coach, and former top-ranked adult film star who helps men get harder, last longer, and satisfy women faster — by increasing their “SQ” (sexual intelligence).

His methods combine tactical psychology, proven techniques, and strategic bedroom positioning — not theory. With over 5,000 real-world sexual encounters and a master-level certification in neuro-linguistic programming, Erik brings a rare, lived perspective that helps men eliminate limiting beliefs, master their performance, and lead with confidence in the bedroom.

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In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses a practical strategy for improving communication and collaboration in intimate relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding each other's perspectives and removing the pressure of making immediate decisions. By fostering empathy and seeking a win-win solution, couples can create a more harmonious decision-making process. The episode provides actionable steps on how partners can share their views and reach mutually beneficial outcomes.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:52 Communication Strategy for Couples

01:31 Understanding Each Other's Perspectives

02:33 Collaborative Decision Making

04:11 Seeking Win-Win Solutions

05:45 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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In this episode of Better Sex, host Jess Zimmerman, a sex therapist, speaks with Gabriela Rosa about overcoming difficult fertility challenges. Rosa shares her journey into the field of infertility, which started with a broad interest in nutrition and naturopathy, leading her to specialize in reproductive health. They discuss the impact of minor factors on fertility, the importance of acting pregnant now to get pregnant later, and the role of chronic stress. Rosa also explains her approach to working with patients, diagnosing issues, and collaborating with physicians globally. The episode emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing underlying health issues and the benefits of proactive care for enhancing fertility.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:50 Guest Introduction: Gabriela Rosa on Fertility Challenges

02:07 Gabriela's Journey into Fertility and Reproductive Health

07:00 Understanding Infertility Trends and Misconceptions

11:01 Act Pregnant Now to Get Pregnant Later

17:21 Lesser-Known Causes of Infertility

21:11 Understanding Homeostasis and Fertility Challenges

22:25 Healthcare Systems and Fertility Treatments

26:05 The Role of Stress in Fertility

30:49 Working with a Fertility Specialist

34:37 Virtual Fertility Clinic Operations

37:17 Getting in Touch and Additional Resources

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Bio:

Gabriela Rosa is a fertility specialist, reproductive health educator, Harvard University-awarded scholar, and an accomplished business leader and entrepreneur. She created the world’s first entirely virtual and holistic fertility clinic. As the founder and CEO of The Rosa Institute, which serves patients across every continent except Antarctica, Gabriela leads a team of holistic specialists.

Her treatment methodology is a recognized authority in the industry, identifying and addressing biochemical obstacles to help couples overcome infertility and recurrent miscarriage, even after previous reproductive challenges and failed treatments.

Through various programs, Gabriela and her team have educated over 140,000 couples in more than 110 countries. She is also the host of the TalkSex with Gabriela Rosa™ podcast.

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https://rosa.institute/FBYT

https://rosa.institute/FertilityChallenge

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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the concept of not apologizing too quickly in intimate relationships. She explains why immediate apologies can often miss the mark and how important it is to first listen and empathize with your partner's feelings and experiences before apologizing. Jessa elaborates on why understanding the emotional impact on your partner and providing a space for them to express their hurt is crucial for a sincere apology. She also explores different motivations people have for quick apologies and provides strategies to avoid misunderstandings in the future.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:44 The Importance of Not Apologizing Too Quickly

01:52 Understanding Your Partner's Experience

04:43 The Right Way to Apologize

06:06 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman is joined by Emily Rich, who shares her personal journey of questioning her sexuality and coming out later in life. Emily discusses the factors that disconnected her from her sexuality, her 'wake-up moment,' and the subsequent process of coming out to herself and others. The conversation explores the intersection of beliefs, upbringing, and self-discovery while highlighting the challenges and rewards of embracing one's true self. Emily also provides valuable resources and advice for those who may be on a similar path, emphasizing the importance of support and professional help. Tune in for an enlightening and supportive discussion that sheds light on the complexities of sexual identity.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:48 Emily Rich's Personal Story Begins

02:00 The Wake-Up Moment

03:52 Navigating Identity and Relationships

05:58 Childhood Influences and Survival Strategies

10:54 Therapy and Self-Discovery

13:23 Coming Out and Relationship Challenges

18:52 Impact on Family and Relationships

20:04 Recognizing and Accepting Yourself

20:09 Coming Out to Others

20:29 The Never-Ending Process of Coming Out

20:55 Support from Unexpected Places

22:10 Sexuality in a Heterosexual Marriage

22:36 Purity Culture and Its Impact

26:00 Realizing True Desire

28:38 Resources for Questioning Sexuality

32:45 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

34:34 Podcast Conclusion

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Bio:

Emily Rich is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and certified Medical Family Therapist based in Seattle, WA. For the last decade, she has supported individuals, couples, and families in healing from trauma, disordered eating, and relationship challenges.

Emily is especially passionate about body-based, nervous system-informed approaches, in part because of the impact they’ve had on her own life. Through addressing trauma and reconnecting with her body, she came to understand and embrace her queer identity in adulthood. Today, her personal and professional paths continue to inform one another as she supports others in their own healing and self-discovery.

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@emilyofftheclock

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In this episode of Better Sex, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman critiques the traditional sensate focus technique frequently recommended in sex therapy. She outlines her concerns about its sequential, goal-oriented nature, the problematic idea of doing things to a passive partner, and the lack of emphasis on pleasure. Jessa shares her alternative approach, which focuses on pleasure and connection through exercises where the receiving partner is in control, and highlights the importance of mutual desire and advocacy in intimate relationships.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:44 Critique of Sensate Focus

01:49 Problems with Sensate Focus

04:47 Alternative Approaches to Intimacy

07:07 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman is joined by sexual wellness coach Andre Lazarus to discuss rapid ejaculation, formerly known as premature ejaculation. They explore how this condition impacts intimate relationships and offer strategies for managing and extending sexual pleasure. The conversation delves into Andre's background, causes of rapid ejaculation, psychological and physical techniques to address it, and ways partners can support each other. They emphasize the importance of practice, communication, and self-awareness for improving sexual experiences. Andre also highlights the role of solo sex in training and stresses that achieving a fulfilling sex life is possible with the right mindset and tools.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:55 Guest Introduction: Andre Lazarus

03:10 Defining Rapid Ejaculation

09:47 Causes and Psychological Aspects

11:54 Strategies and Techniques

17:01 Solo Practice and Partner Support

25:03 Confidence and Intimacy

28:35 Conclusion and Resources

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Bio:

Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection.

He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre’s presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect.

Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity.

While Andre has also taught workshops introducing kink and alternative practices, he situates them within a broader conversation: how people of all backgrounds can embrace intimacy as part of their wellbeing. His message consistently comes back to honesty, communication, and self-awareness as the foundations for connection.

Today, Andre balances private coaching, workshops, and a men’s online course on sexual communication with growing media visibility, including the upcoming second season of Virgin Island.

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman addresses a fascinating question from a coaching call about whether couples receive the same information from the same course. She explains how different interpretations arise due to the brain's filtering and meaning-making processes. She emphasizes the importance of curiosity and communication in bridging these gaps in understanding, using this phenomenon as an opportunity to build empathy and rapport within relationships.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:30 Fascinating Coaching Call Question

01:32 Understanding Different Perspectives

02:27 Neuroscience of Perception

04:03 Interpreting and Challenging Thoughts

05:57 Building Empathy and Rapport

06:19 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman engages in a meaningful conversation with Vanessa Carlisle about reclaiming intimacy and pleasure after addiction and trauma. Vanessa discusses her personal and professional experience in navigating violence, trauma, and sex work. They explore the gaps in support for sexual recovery among trauma and addiction survivors, the cultural and systemic challenges in discussing sexuality, and the path to reconnecting with one's body and pleasure. Vanessa emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, sensory pleasure, and effective communication in intimate relationships. The episode also highlights the role of community and support networks in healing and thriving.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:49 Reclaiming Pleasure After Trauma

01:51 Personal and Professional Insights

03:51 Challenges in Recovery and Sexuality

05:53 Impact of Trauma on Sexual Behavior

07:05 Navigating Sobriety and Intimacy

09:09 Sex Work, Substance Use, and Trauma

13:18 Seeking Healing and Integration

18:16 Path to Self-Awareness and Connection

21:06 Taking It Slow: Understanding Your Pace

22:06 Communicating with Your Partner

24:52 Navigating Hookups and Relationships

27:52 The Importance of Self-Care

28:38 Exploring Themes in My Novel

30:27 Vision for a Connected World

36:31 Upcoming Events and Resources

38:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Bio:

Vanessa Carlisle, PhD, MFA (they/them), is an author, coach, and educator in the fields of gender, sexuality, and trauma. Dr. Carlisle’s lived experience includes over twenty-five years in sex work and fifteen years of advocacy for the sex-working community. As a survivor of both intimate partner and institutional violence, Dr. Carlisle now crafts programs that combat stigma and improve conditions for their communities, including trauma-informed self-defense training, somatic coaching, and end-of-life care services.

Along with many essays and articles, Dr. Carlisle authored the award-winning novel Take Me with You about a queer sex worker who must face her grief to be able to build the life she wants. Learn more about them at www.vanessacarlisle.com.

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