In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the challenges of setting quotas for sexual frequency in relationships. She shares insights from a recent coaching call, emphasizing that focusing on frequency can often lead to feelings of obligation and resentment, particularly for lower desire partners. Instead, Jessa advises couples to create flexible, pressure-free spaces to nurture desire and intimacy naturally.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:46 Welcome and Episode Overview

01:02 Discussing Reasonable Amounts of Sex

02:11 The Problem with Setting Quotas

04:05 Creating Flexibility in Intimacy

05:09 Avoiding Obligation and Duty

05:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

05:59 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement

06:47 Credits and Acknowledgements

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