One Thing I Love About You: A Quick Connection Exercise for Couples (and Anyone You Love)

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Looking for a quick, heartfelt way to connect? Whether you're feeling wildly in love, teetering on burnout, or simply curious about new ways to relate, this short-but-sweet activity is for you.

Inspired by The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay, which I co-authored with the incredible Marla Renee Stewart, this emotional-erotic exercise asks you to reflect on what you love, and say it out loud. You can try it with a partner, a friend, a family member, or even in the mirror with yourself.

TL;DR - “One Thing I Love About You” Connection Exercise

Deepen emotional intimacy in under five minutes with this deceptively simple phrase:

“One thing I love about your…”

Use it with your partner, your bestie, a family member, or turn it inward for a self-love boost.

Prompt ideas: your body, your voice, your aura, your character, your touch, how you treat me… make it your own.

Why it works: we assume people know we appreciate them, but naming it out loud builds trust, vulnerability & erotic energy.

For extra pleasure, pair words of affirmation with touch:

Try the We-Vibe Touch for warm, soft connection.

Or explore dual delight with the We-Vibe Nova 2 for deeper self or partnered play.

This practice is straight from The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay

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The "One Thing I Love About You" Exercise

Designed to promote connection, emotional intimacy, and erotic presence, this is one of my go-to tools on retreat and at home.

Emotional Connection Exercise for Couples: One Thing I Love...

You can work through these prompts one by one or rapid-fire style if you're short on time. The only "rule"? Say the full phrase: "One thing I love about your..."

One thing I love about your body...

One thing I love about your voice...

One thing I love about your energy/aura...

One thing I love about your touch...

One thing I love about your personality...

One thing I love about your character...

One thing I love about how you interact with others...

One thing I love about how you treat me...

One thing I love about your... (Make it your own!)

Want to take it to the next level? Try turning these prompts toward yourself. We know that self-compassion, not self-criticism, is associated with better mental health, emotional intimacy, and even sexual satisfaction.

If you’re not sure how to express what you love or what turns you on without feeling awkward, check out this post on dirty talk and how to shed the discomfort of expressing your desires.

Why This Matters

Emotional connection isn't just about romance. It's about seeing, hearing, and valuing someone, and being seen, heard, and valued in return. We often assume our partners know what we appreciate about them, but unspoken admiration isn't always felt.

When you name what you love, you open the door to vulnerability, gratitude, and maybe even a little erotic spark.

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