The Messy Parts

Rafat Ali Plays the Long Game: This Internet Pioneer Says You Should Stop Rushing Your Career


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Is your path too messy for success? In this episode of The Messy Parts, Maryam talks to Rafat Ali, founder of Skift and one of the most quietly influential figures in digital media. This feels like a personal conversation, Rafat opens up about the parts of his journey most people never hear: stuttering as a teenager, feeling like an outsider in America, breaking down during intense life changes, and rebuilding through resilience. Maryam guides Rafat through the unexpected threads that connect his life — curiosity, delayed gratification, instinct, and the belief that nonlinear careers often lead to the most meaningful destinations. From surviving the collapse of his industry to navigating the COVID shutdown and a banking crisis, Rafat offers real insight for anyone struggling with uncertainty.

Show Notes: 

✍️ Stammering to Storytelling: How Writing Became His Superpower 

The childhood stutter, expanding vocabulary, and discovering writing as expression.

🌍 From India to Indiana: Culture Shock, Baywatch & Belonging 

Rafat’s honest story of early loneliness, identity, and adjusting to America as a Muslim kid.

🎙️ Why Push Through? Rafat on Life Phases & the “Two-Year Rule” 

How he decides when to persist vs. pivot — a core framework for careers and reinvention.

💼 B2B Influence > Fame: Choosing a Niche and Owning a Sector 

Why Rafat sought influence over money—and how niching down fueled his career strategy.

🧭 Contrarian Thinking & Global Lens: Seeing What Others Miss 

How being an outsider shaped his instincts, travel philosophy, and entrepreneurship.

🔁 Career Compounding: Staying Put to Accelerate Growth 

His philosophy on long careers, loyal teams, and why job-hopping kills momentum.

🌐 Influence Over Money: Why Rafat Chose Impact, Not Income

Rafat reveals the driving force behind his entire career: the pursuit of influence—not wealth

👨‍👩‍👧 Family, Legacy & Belonging: The Emotional Skift India Forum 

The powerful story of bringing his mother to his Delhi conference and finally being “seen.”

💥 When Everything Breaks: COVID, SVB Collapse & Leading Through Panic

Inside the near-death business moments—money running out, tears, resilience, and action.

 🧠 Mental Health, Compartmentalizing & the Breakdown That Changed Him 

Rafat opens up about his recent mental health crisis, adopting a baby, and learning limits.




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