Ray Brown

How To Get What You Want podcast is about achieving your goals. How to set them in place. How to see where you are at right now. Money, health, career, life partner are popular things people try to achieve, but not always successful at getting there.

Online Dating: How to Lose a Guy in 5 seconds.  Where is Mr Right? That’s the question on the minds of millions of single women. Where does one go these days to find good guys or Mr Right? Honesty on the dating apps is hard to come by, but it’s there, you can’t give up and think negative.

Times have changed, well that depends on who you ask and what generation they are from, but for the most part, you are not going to find Mr Right at the local Grocery store. Those were the simple good old days. Nowadays, the place to be to see men is online dating apps.

Some of the most popular ones: Tinder, Bumble, Match all sort of are doing the same thing, giving you an index of men, according to your preferences or so-called ‘Shopping List.’ So what’s going on within these apps, and how come single women are still finding it hard to meet Mr Right?

I took the liberty to test out these apps in the hope to find my Ms Right. So there I was one night on my couch signing up for Tinder. Of course, their gonna make the guys pay and not the women! So after selecting a few photos, writing a brief summary about me, which I always find it really tricky, but I like honesty, so I laid out who I was and do what I do best, pen down a few words together that make sense in the heads of people that read it, hoping I’ll get an honest reaction. And then, I started swiping left, and right, and it soon began to feel like a meat market. The first thing that stood out to me was the way the women looked. So let’s start with that.

Profile Filters

One way to lose a guy fast is to have ‘Snapchat’ filters on your profile photo, when you’re 30+, 40+ or in fact any age. It’s cartoonish, and I don’t get what exactly women are trying to say here with filters on their face, of a tongue, rabbit ears, etc. I immediately felt a massive level of insecurity in those women, trying to find their partner for an LTR. There are times and places for these ‘Snap Filters,’ like for example with your kids, close friends on your personal Facebook account, and again, those Snap Filters are only shown to your close family and friends. Not to the world. But here we are, in the ‘Real World’ with a massive level of an identity crisis of women not wanting to show their real face on a dating app.

Close Up Photos

Super close up photos of your face. Again, I don’t know if women are having a hard time holding their large phones, or losing their coordination, or they just don’t check how they take selfies. But close photos of your eyeballs, or eyeball, nose or lips, or body parts only show me that you are having issues.  And I usually swipe left fast.

Multiple Girls In Pictures

Posting photos that have multiple girls in each picture. Last I checked, Men weren’t psychic, if they were, I wouldn’t be writing this article. I know women are thinking, let’s show men that we have friends, lots and lots of them, and show them that we are not lonely, and have an active social life. Come on ladies, just be you, don’t be insecure and keep it simple.  Post a photo of just yourself.

Texting

Texting till the end of time. Pen pals. Men are not looking for text mates. And women who are really wanting to take it slow, are telling men, we are not ready and still recovering from our past, so be patient with us! Sorry ladies,

Dating these days is hard. Doing it online, it’s another challenge. According to statistics, the first Sunday of the New Year is the highest day of sign-ups on Dating Apps! And the first Monday of the New Year is the highest rate of a divorce filing. Pretty interesting stuff, don’t you think!

This Podcast on Dating: Red Flags. I am joined by my guest Ginger to discuss the Red Flags of dating. The Frequent Flyers that have been on dating apps for a while. And all the new Fresh Meat that joins every year at around this time of the year!

This podcast, Learning to Let Go by Ray Brown, takes a look at how people through various high stress, high tension events in their lives conditioned themselves to shut down aspects of themselves due to fear, doubt or insecurity. Pain is a powerful emotion. So is forgiveness.

But you won’t know the latter until you’ve changed your energy, frequency and vibration.

Decoding Deja Vu podcast by Ray Brown. This is a podcast that has been a topic of interest for many people including myself.  I’ve been trying to do this for a while now, but things kept coming up!  But here it is now!  Leave your comments or questions below if you have any, otherwise, sit back and let your senses and imagination just take over!

Men and women are very different when dating; from their way of thinking to them process their thoughts. But, there is also a common denominator that connects them both. Their pursuit to not be alone.

These days, if you’re single, your most likely going to be on a dating app. Dating apps are a great way to meet a lot of people, that you usually would never give the time and day too. But, let’s put that aside for a moment and focus on why you are on a dating app.

This article, I focus on Men, and how they are maybe going about losing potential matches, due to their bad habits, sad past, insecurity, or lack of attention/knowledge to details towards a potential life-partner.

Like in my article, “How To Lose A Guy In 5 Secs,” where I focused on what women were doing, this article will focus on men. Yes, it does take two to tango.

Here is a bit of context into my research. I’ve spoken to over hundreds of women. Texted also, hundreds of women, and from these women, I also got the first-hand look into their experiences on these dating apps with men. And it wasn’t pleasant. So needless to say, I needed to reach out to my fellow men out there, and have a beer talk about, what the heck is going on in their heads.

So let’s break it down with what men are doing that they shouldn’t be on these dating apps:

Dating Tips & Advice For Men:

* Shirtless photos: Men, please keep your shirts on. Even if your dream is to be a male stripper, dating apps are not the way to impress women. That would be a fetish site.* Muscle car photos: Men, women have spoken out loudly about how this is an extreme turn off. Unless you’re looking for Gold Diggers, and they are looking for you, you’ll Match up great. Otherwise, lose the car photos from your profiles.* Pictures Of You Not In Them: Listen, women are not interested in looking at pictures of where you’ve travelled when your not in them. They can view them on Google search all day long.* Pictures with Animals: Men, women are freaking out when they see you up too close and personal with your dogs, cats or any animal. It’s rather strange, and I know women do it also, but it doesn’t mean you need to do it too. Some men are showing off animal kills, and so on, it’s just shocking.* Bathroom pictures: When I heard men doing that, I was shocked, as I always heard men making fun of women taking those pictures. I guess the shoe’s on the other foot this time. Guys, WTF, cut that out. Get out of the bathroom and don’t raise that one eyebrow. I know its tempting, you’re not “The Rock!”* No Profile Photo: This is a big one. Women do it too but come on guys. That’s no cool. Don’t be lazy, put a photo up; otherwise, no one will respond.* Stop texting Dick pics: Men, this is just stupid. What’s wrong with you guys! Your making the Good guys look bad. Some women are still recovering from those Dick pics, and have stopped giving out their numbers. If that’s not enough, you start asking for nudes from women you just met.* Ghosting: Men, so if you can’t send Dick pics, or hook up with a woman, or can’t get away with lying, you’re going to ghost them? That’s not right or cool on any level. Communicate honestly; it goes a long way!* No Profile Description: Men, women can’t read your minds. So write something, which is not stupid and more than a few words. It will go a long way to helping you meet your partner.

The list is long on the things men do on dating apps. I’m not an expert by any means,

Online Dating is tough these days!  Here are Dating Stories on people that are at first sight ready to run away (Runners); focus completely on physical attraction, have mental stimulating conversations, then ghosting people to being busy, busy, busy people… Ray Brown in this podcast shares the stories of dating on and around these topics.