Expectations play a vital role in shaping marriages. In part two of my conversation with Mark and Jill Savage, we explore how four expectations in marriage can set a couple up for success. Expectations will either bring two people closer together or create a rift between them. This is why it’s important to learn to manage expectations within marriage. As a marriage coach, I've had the privilege of excavating the intricacies of marriages that, at their core, are molded by the expectations we hold. The Savages and I share personal experiences from our marriage journeys of rebuilding after infidelity. Listen and learn how understanding and realigning expectations can greatly impact and enhance your marriage.

Key Takeaways: 

• See Conflict as a Catalyst for Growth:
  Conflict should be expected and embraced in a relationship. 
• Learn to Navigate Disappointments:
  Accept that disappointment is part of any partnership. 
• Continue Investing in Your Marriage:
  Just like any worthwhile endeavor, marriage requires ongoing education and investment. 

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

Download my "Ultimate Couple's Checklist": 5 Simple Steps for Building More Intimacy in Your Marriage

Learn More About Mark & Jill Savage's marriage resources

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Have you ever had suspicions that your spouse was being unfaithful? A listener, triggered by her friend's trauma with infidelity, is in a dilemma. She looked through her husband's phone and didn't like what she saw. We're discussing one of the toughest challenges any marriage can face: the breach of trust when unfaithfulness comes into play in this Q&A segment. 

Here's what we cover:

• Privacy vs. Suspicion

• Spotting the Red Flags:

• Empowering the Wounded Spouse

• Addressing the Infidelity Epidemic:

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

• Download my "Ultimate Couples Checklist" and bring that spark back into your marriage!

• 12 Signs Your Spouse is Having an Online Affair 

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When trust is broken in a marriage, many couples feel like marriage restoration is impossible and all hope is lost. However, Mark and Jill Savage’s journey reveals how marriages can heal and even thrive after infidelity. In this episode, they share their incredible testimony of a renewed marriage after a period marked by betrayal, depression, a mid-life crisis, and near-divorce. Their story offers incredible insights and encouragement for anyone who feels hopeless in their marriage.

Their marriage restoration story is nothing short of a miracle and an incredible testament to the restorative power of forgiveness and repentance. 

This was such a great conversation that I had to break it up into two parts! 

Listen to part one today and be encouraged that ANYTHING is possible to the one who believes.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

No More Perfect Podcast

Learn More About Mark & Jill’s Story & Services

Get Your Free Ultimate Couple’s Checklist 

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How do you reconnect emotionally in marriage when the feelings just aren't there? I’m answering this listener’s question on today’s episode. First, I just have to say how grateful I am for her transparency; I, too, have walked through seasons in my marriage where I felt disconnected. I’m sure many of you can relate to knowing the right actions to take but not feeling the emotions align with those actions. There were times when I simply didn’t want to do what I knew was right. Over the years, one thing I've learned is that actions often lead to feelings, not the other way around. This is called behavioral economics. Emotions are unpredictable, and they shouldn’t drive our decisions. Listen to find out how to respond to your spouse in love when you're not feeling the love. 

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

How Connected Are You Really? Take the Quiz and Find Out!

Ep. 80 - Feelings Aren't Forever

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In our 300th episode, we’re discussing the popular yet often misunderstood topic of "Marriage Goals" and how to live united in marriage. Social media paints a picture-perfect image of what marriage goals should look like – those idyllic photos on a beach or atop a mountain with captions like #MarriageGoals. But today, we’re venturing beyond the Instagram facade to explore how you can truly create the marriage of your dreams – one that’s deeper, united, and undivided.

The hashtag-ready pics may draw likes, but genuine marriage goals focus on unity and purpose, not perfection. You may wonder, "What are the true goals of a marriage?" I created an acronym for UNITY that will help you remember to pursue unity in embracing your marriage goals. Inspired by Ephesians 4, I am taking you on a journey to uncover the real meaning of marriage and how to reset your marriage to its intended goal. 

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

Get Your Ultimate Couple’s Checklist Here. 

ALSO SEE: 5 Marriage Goals for a New Year

 

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If you’ve ever felt like you’ve let yourself go or lost yourself in your marriage, this will encourage you. A listener is struggling with self-image and motivation after having three kids in five years. She feels that she has let herself go and seeks advice on how to rediscover herself and get back to feeling like her old self. Listen in for encouragement, practical steps, and a simple 4-week blueprint I share to help reignite her spark and sense of self-worth.

Episode Highlights:

Grace and Gratitude: Giving voice to what is going right

Mental Health Consideration: Could this be postpartum depression?

4-Week Blueprint to Finding Yourself Again: Including a simple morning routine, making time for self-care, prioritizing time spent with her husband, and reflecting on the four-week experience. 

 

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Entering into marriage is undoubtedly one of the most significant decisions you'll make in your life. But it comes with a cost. With the joys of the engagement season heightened by holidays like Christmas and Valentine's Day, many find themselves caught up in the excitement of wedding planning. However, while beautiful ceremonies and Instagram-worthy moments are cherished, the essence of a marriage lies in its longevity and health. This podcast episode details nine important questions to ask before you get married and emphasizes the importance of counting the cost before tying the knot, ensuring that you're prepared for a lifetime commitment, not just a memorable wedding day.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

Get Your FREE "7 Secrets to a Lasting Marriage" Audio Download Here. 

 

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We're addressing a listener's distressing experience of financial abuse within her marriage. Despite having a stable job and a good income, her husband refuses to pay household bills and indulges in personal expenditures. This has brought about financial strain and an emotional toll. Listen as we discuss the nature of financial abuse and what she can do to "fix" her situation.

Key Discussion Points:

• Understanding Financial Abuse: I elaborate on how financial abuse is a form of control, likened to physical, emotional, verbal, and other types of abuse.

• Potential Solutions: Best and worst-case scenarios are discussed, including the importance of courageous conversations with her husband and engaging a financial planner or counselor for intervention.

• Practical Steps: I outline actionable steps for our listener to protect her financial assets if her husband doesn't change.

• Legal Advice: I stress the importance of understanding her legal rights in marriage and documenting all financial decisions she makes.

Resources Mentioned:

• Episode 119: "Financial Peace in Your Marriage" with Austin Black

• Episode 137: "What is Financial Infidelity?" with Chad Willardson

• Get Your FREE Ultimate Couples Checklist: 5 Simple Steps to Build More Intimacy

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Being a peacemaker is one of the greatest qualities to have in a relationship. As the holiday season approaches, many of us are preparing to gather—whether with family, friends, or even by ourselves—and the pursuit of peace in our relationships becomes more relevant than ever. In this episode, we discuss the value of peacemaking in relationships and discuss the many differences between peacemaking and “peacefaking.”

Key Topics:

1. The Differences Between Peacemakers and Peacefakers
2. The Importance of Starting with Reconciliation in Mind
3. How Conflict Can Be a Tool for Growth
4. How Listening Impacts Your Influence

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

Learn About my online course: From Conflict to Connection 

Get your Free Conversation Starters to Bash Conflict 

 

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Have you ever felt like your spouse was a shell of a person and you couldn't emotionally connect to him/her? I'm addressing a pressing concern shared by a listener and many couples - the struggle of feeling emotionally disconnected in their marriage or relationship. Many in similar situations will resonate deeply with this discussion.

Episode Highlights:

• • Create a Safe Environment:

    I address the importance of creating a space where couples feel safe to share their emotions. Understanding a partner’s background and upbringing can offer insight into their emotional responses.

  • Meet Him Where He Is:

    Engaging in activities your spouse or partner enjoys can naturally open the door to deeper conversations and connection.

  • Lead with Vulnerability:

    By sharing your own struggles and vulnerabilities, you can encourage your spouse to do the same.

  • Affirm Small Steps:

    Acknowledging and affirming small instances of vulnerability can help build trust.

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Links and Resources:

• Take the "How Connected Are You Partner Quiz"

Tune in next week for another episode of relationship insights and advice!

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