Do you ever tell yourself, “I just want my kids to be happy” or “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”?

These are sneaky thoughts. They SOUND good, but often leave us feeling worse.

Listen in this week to find out how thoughts can be sneaky.

In this episode you'll learn:

- What makes a thought sneaky

- Examples of common sneaky thoughts

- How to know if a thought is sneaky and what to do about it

If you’re ready to OWN your anxiety, click the link below to schedule your FREE call. I’ll answer all of your questions about the How to Own Your Anxiety workshop!

https://calendly.com/kateorourkecoach/60min

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Love, Kate

You know that feeling when your kid is upset? It feels like your heart is being ripped out of your chest. You want to just fix it for them and you worry that you’ll say the wrong thing. Tune in to this episode to find out 5 ways to handle when your kid feels bad.

In this episode you'll learn:

- How to avoid trying to fix it for them

- How to not get upset yourself

- 5 ways to show up when your kid is upset that will help them get through it

If you’re ready to OWN your anxiety, click the link below to schedule your FREE call. I’ll answer all of your questions about the How to Own Your Anxiety workshop!

https://calendly.com/kateorourkecoach/60min

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Love, Kate

There is a lot of talk lately about our nervous systems, and for good reason. So let's talk about it!

In this episode you'll learn:

- What is the nervous system

- Why is it so important in dealing with stress and anxiety

- How do we regulate our nervous system and feel less stressed and burnt out

If you’re ready to OWN your anxiety, click the link below to schedule your FREE call. I’ll answer all of your questions about the How to Own Your Anxiety workshop!

https://calendly.com/kateorourkecoach/60min

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Love, Kate

Back to school, going from summer to fall, taking care of aging parents, starting a new job... we all experience transitions. And a lot of times, these transitions, even positive ones, feel super stressful and uncomfortable.

If you would like to feel less stressed during a transition, this episode is for you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- Why transitions feel so stressful

- How to change your thoughts to create better feelings

- 5 ways to handle transitions with less stress and anxiety

If you’re ready to OWN your anxiety, click the link below to schedule your FREE call. I’ll answer all of your questions about the How to Own Your Anxiety workshop!

https://calendly.com/kateorourkecoach/60min

Many of us believe that “good” mental health is being happy most of the time and not letting anything bother us. Actually, true mental health is being able to regulate your emotions (yes, all of them) in a way that is appropriate to the situation. This is called being emotionally flexible.

In this episode you’ll learn:

- Why we need to be emotionally flexible for ourselves AND for our kids

- The reasons many of us are NOT emotionally flexible

- 3 ways to become emotionally flexible

Also check out episode #35: How to Deal with Negative Emotions

If you’re ready to OWN your anxiety, click the link below to schedule your FREE call. I’ll answer all of your questions about the How to Own Your Anxiety workshop!

https://calendly.com/kateorourkecoach/60min

If you are loving the podcast, please share it with others!

And I would really appreciate a review of the podcast!

Thanks for being here.

Love, Kate

What if this happens…

What if I can’t do it…

What am I going to do if…

If you are a worrier like me, this episode is for you.

In this episode you’ll learn:

- The difference between healthy and unhealthy worry

- How worrying gives us a false sense of control

- 3 ways to stop worrying

If you’re ready to OWN your anxiety, click the link below to schedule your FREE call. I’ll answer all of your questions about the How to Own Your Anxiety workshop!

https://calendly.com/kateorourkecoach/60min

If you are loving the podcast, please share it with others!

And I would really appreciate a review of the podcast!

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Love, Kate

The Gottman’s are THE relationship gurus. They have decades of data that can predict if a couple will get divorced with over 90% accuracy.

In the book, the Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work, they share the results of their extensive research.

Among these principles is the idea of bids for connection. These bids can make or break a relationship. So, that’s what we are talking about today!

In this episode we talk about:

- The definition of a bid for connection and why they are vital to a healthy relationship

- How to turn towards bids for connection

- Recognizing and leaning in to bids for connection with your partner, your kids, and yourself

If you’re ready to OWN your anxiety, click the link below to schedule your FREE call. I’ll answer all of your questions about the How to Own Your Anxiety workshop!

https://calendly.com/kateorourkecoach/60min

If you are loving the podcast, please share it with others!

And I would really appreciate a review of the podcast!

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Love, Kate

“As moms, we’re big problem solvers,” says Kate O’Rourke, certified life coach and host of the Reclaim Your Life with Kate podcast, who joins Leslie on the show to discuss the increased rate of anxiety experienced by teens–particularly girls–in the wake of the pandemic. As a school psychologist, Kate is well versed in the issues anxious teens face as they return to school–including a major resistance to doing just that.

As a single mother of two, she also understands the tendency for mothers to feel guilty about their children’s anxiety issues and their often ill-advised attempts to solve the problem. Recognizing that anxiety is a natural and necessary response, she explains the difference between a “normal” level of anxiety in response to, say, tests and grades, versus something more debilitating.

As the ones who know their children best, parents should trust their instincts to tell them if something is off and whether it’s time to seek professional guidance for their kids. For their part, moms can practice modeling, validating the child’s feelings (something parents often fail to do when they think they’re being “supportive”), asking the child to gauge the severity of their perceived threat, and engaging in co-regulation. Teen girls, especially, are facing increasing pressure to be perfect, and parents should be honest about where those pressures are coming from.

Your teen may not necessarily respond right away and that’s OK, too. The point is to take self-inventory without any of the shame or guilt moms too often place on themselves.

I am so thrilled to share with you my conversation with Sharon Costanzo!

Sharon is a relationship coach and host of the Keep Talking Revolution Podcast.

She helps women work through issues in their marriage without feeling like a bully or a doormat with her pragmatic and compassionate approach to the challenges we all face in our most important relationships.

In this episode we talk about:

- the impact of mom guilt on your relationship

- how to get on the same page with your partner

- the importance of shared values and curiosity in your relationship

You can connect with Sharon on her podcast, Keep Talking Revolution

And check out Sharon’s free guide to get your needs met in your relationship, here!

And if you’re ready to OWN your anxiety, click the link below to schedule your FREE call. I’ll answer all of your questions about the How to Own Your Anxiety workshop!

https://calendly.com/kateorourkecoach/60min

If you are loving the podcast, please share it with others!

And I would really appreciate a review of the podcast!

Thanks for being here.

Love, Kate

You know when you have to make a decision, big or small, and you just spin and spin?

You think to yourself, what if I make the wrong decision?

Should I do this?

What if this happens?

Why can’t I just make the dang decision?

And then you just freeze.

It’s exhausting. It’s called, decision fatigue. And that’s what we are talking about today.

In this episode you’ll learn:

- what decision fatigue looks like

- why we have it

- FOUR ways to manage it and finally just make the decision

And if you’re ready to OWN your anxiety, click the link below to schedule your FREE call. I’ll answer all of your questions about the How to Own Your Anxiety workshop!

https://calendly.com/kateorourkecoach/60min

If you are loving the podcast, please share it with others!

And I would really appreciate a review of the podcast!

Thanks for being here.

Love, Kate