We all have our laundry lists of insecurities, self-doubts, and things we don't particularly like about ourselves. But when those self-judgments turn into full-on self-hate, that can open the floodgates for all kinds of numbing, self-sabotaging behaviors.

For Adam Miller, that manifested as drug addiction. Throughout his process of recovery, he learned that the best cure for self-sabotaging, addictive behaviors is learning how to like — and eventually love — himself again.

Adam will be the first to tell you that cultivating self-love takes time, and there's no one-size-fits-all approach to healing from years (or a lifetime!) of self-hate. But it's a journey that just keeps feeling better and better, and life on the other side … well, you can hear Adam describe in his own words exactly how that feels!

In this month's interview with a normal person, Kristen and Adam talk about how to recover from self-hate and all its insidious side effects. They got into…

• A few of the many self-sabotaging side effects you might be experiencing if you're struggling with self-hate.
• Adam's take on the correlation between a lack of self-love and addiction.
• Why the "cold turkey" approach to changing behavior isn't right for everyone (and might actually be counterproductive), and what to do instead.
• How to choose which self-improvement path is right for (Adam's method for this is slightly scandalous and so freeing!).
• Adam's advice, based on lots of personal experience, for how to start cultivating self-love in small ways right away.

After you've listened, leave a comment to let us know how Adam's story resonated with you.

MORE ABOUT ADAM MILLER

Throughout my life, I have always been the "advice friend." You know, the one that people come to for support, a shoulder to cry on, an ear to rant to, and one that can be trusted to listen with an unbiased point of view. A lifetime of being this person has shaped me into someone with a great intuition and an ability to understand why people do what they do, even if they cannot necessarily put their thoughts and feelings into words. It has become my passion, and what I believe to be my purpose in the world.

Currently, as a professional coach, I get to live that purpose daily. I get to use my own life experience as a person recovering from addiction and as a person who has struggled with self-hate, anxiety, and depression to support those navigating the issues those struggles can cause.

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