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What would change if we built a rule of life that actually fit our days and led us to Jesus? Join Jayce and James as they discuss what this could look like. 

We unpack “rule” as a trellis, not a cage—simple anchors that help prayer, work, family, and rest breathe. New Year energy is helpful, but the real move is choosing one priority and letting everything else take its proper place. That’s where fasting and asceticism come in. From Exodus 90’s cold showers and media fasts to the Daniel Fast’s clarity, we share the honest early struggle—headaches, hunger, fidgety evenings—and the surprising fruits: easier yeses to our kids, a renewed desire for the nightly examen, and a heart that listens without forcing.

Along the way, Jeff Cavins’ challenge hits home: if you have “priorities,” you don’t have a priority. Spouses and children matter immensely, yet the center cannot hold unless we order our lives to the will of the Lord. We explore how daily Mass becomes a fixed star, why saying no creates real freedom, and how fasting sharpens spiritual hearing. 

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Links and other stuff from the show:
Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters
Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected]
The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon
The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z
Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

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In this episode, Jayce and James sat down with Father Will Banowsky, judicial vicar and pastor, for a candid look at annulments, prenuptial investigations, and the habits that help couples keep vows. We explore cultural myths about marriage, unpack a Scripture mistranslation, and share concrete ways parishes can form and protect marriages.

• what a judicial vicar does and why it matters
• how annulments and appeals actually work
• why prenuptial investigations safeguard consent
• the role of parish marriage files and documentation
• a paperwork mix‑up that teaches big lessons
• praying for young couples facing cultural pressure
• indissolubility of marriage versus easy exit mindsets
• the impact of mistranslating biblical texts on divorce
• mentor couples as the backbone of marriage prep
• learning to be comfortable being uncomfortable
• “nothing worth having comes easy” applied to vocation

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Links and other stuff from the show:
Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters
Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected]
The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon
The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z
Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

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In this episode, Jayce and James talk with author Roxane Salonen about "What Would Monica Do?" and the hidden grief of parents whose children step away from the Church, turning shame into solidarity and sorrow into steady hope. Her story shifts the focus from fixing kids to surrendering, praying, and making home a haven where love speaks louder than debate.

• the friendship and shared heartache that sparked the book
• why the story became about parents’ conversion
• Saint Monica’s tears as intercession and model of hope
• moving from arguments to witness and presence
• home as haven: dinner, blessing, and steady love
• guarding boundaries and building a real support group
• naming shame, rejecting secrecy, choosing solidarity
• preparing the table and leaving the light on
• trusting God’s timing through long seasons of waiting

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Links and other stuff from the show:
Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters
Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected]
The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon
The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z
Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

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In this episode, Jayce and James continue exploring the FACT framework, trade birthday stories, garage rock tumblers, and sports mishaps before turning to the heart of FACT: why teachability might be the hardest and most vital trait for disciples and teams. We map the D1–D4 learning journey, name wounds and pride, and offer simple steps to receive correction with humility, curiosity, and courage.

• Family rhythms that make celebrations work
• Why teachability matters more as you get better
• D1–D4 model for competence and confidence
• How wounds distort feedback and trust
• Pause, curiosity, and naming emotions
• Detachment from outcomes and secure identity
• Team health when feedback is safe and direct
• Discipleship as lifelong apprenticeship to Jesus
• Two challenges: find a mentor, pray through past correction
• FACT audit for honest self-review

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Links and other stuff from the show:
Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters
Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected]
The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon
The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z
Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

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Jayce and James sat down with Peter Andrastek from Evangelical Catholic at the 2025 Discipleship Conference for the Archdiocese of Oklahoma City to draw a bright line between ministry and apostolate and then show how to form the laity to live mission where life actually happens. Peter from Evangelical Catholic helps us imagine parishes as workshops for friendship, holiness, and real-world witness.

Learn more about Peter and Evangelical Catholic here: https://evangelicalcatholic.org/ 

• ministry as public, structured service tied to holy orders
• apostolate as outward mission flowing from baptism and confirmation
• reducing mission to volunteering as a common trap
• mission ready friendship as a practical path for evangelization
• training versus lifelong formation and conversion
• lay co responsibility and the laity’s office in the world
• building parish imagination beyond programs
• start with faithful, available, teachable, normal people
• resources for forming laity in everyday mission

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Links and other stuff from the show:
Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters
Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected]
The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon
The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z
Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

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Jayce and James sat down with Dr. Karlo Broussard from Catholic Answers at the 2025 Discipleship Conference for the Archdiocese of Oklahoma City to share why conversions are surging in Tulsa and how credible witness, patient timing, and deeper dialogue are changing evangelization. Real stories, practical tactics, and a hopeful read on where the Spirit is moving.

• live from the discipleship conference floor
• Karlo’s Tulsa partnership and parish missions
• proclaiming why Jesus is Lord across the diocese
• training in evangelization, tips, and tactics
• conversion stories from pastors, evangelists, and families
• how to talk to loved ones far from God
• discernment and relationship with the Holy Spirit
• shifts from atheism debates to deeper Protestant dialogue
• credible Catholic witness and shared language
• cultural pressure prompting a search for truth

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Links and other stuff from the show:
Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters
Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected]
The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon
The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z
Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

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In this episode, Jayce and James explore how the FACT framework (Faithful, Available, Contagious, Teachable) serves as both a barometer for disciple readiness and a personal examination tool for those leading others toward Christ.

Have you ever wondered what truly makes someone ready to be a disciple-maker? This episode dives deep into the first half of the powerful FACT framework – Faithful and Available – that serves as both a barometer for discipleship readiness and a personal examination tool for spiritual growth.

• Faithfulness includes alignment with Church teaching, honest acknowledgment of struggles, and consistent striving toward holiness
• Being faithful requires humility and obedience rather than elevating personal opinions above Church teaching
• True availability doesn't mean an empty calendar but rather a heart oriented toward what truly matters
• Availability means being present in the moment, putting down phones, and prioritizing prayer despite competing demands
• Our availability or lack thereof reveals "who we are bowing to" - what we truly worship
• A "schedule conversion" may be necessary if we're too busy for prayer and silence
• Seeking counsel from trusted friends provides essential perspective on our blind spots
• Making even small adjustments can significantly align our lives more closely with Christ's call

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Links and other stuff from the show:
Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters
Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected]
The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon
The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z
Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

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In this episode, Jayce and James share real stories of bringing people into the Church with a question, like an agnostic who came for the music and said yes to OCIA after a gentle ask; a seeker who loves liturgy but hesitates because of family wounds; a friend wrestling with the Eucharist and the early Church. 

Along the way, they name what’s working—and why. Reverent worship that lets people pray without a sales pitch. Access to thoughtful sources like the Didache, the catechism, and the Church Fathers. A culture where the Holy Spirit leads and we follow with patience, courage, and love. Instead of trying to “win,” we learn to keep the door open, ask honest questions, and offer timely invitations.

If you’ve ever wondered how to walk with someone who’s curious but cautious, this episode offers a field guide. They also cover thresholds of conversion, practical tools like a simple “pick five” intercessory list, and how to speak without jargon so friends actually hear the good news. 

Lastly, they talk about when to be bold, when to be quiet, and how prayer reshapes hard conversations. The result is a hopeful picture of evangelization grounded in beauty, truth and real friendship.

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Links and other stuff from the show:
Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters
Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected]
The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon
The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z
Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

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In this episode, Jayce and James sit down with Chris Scaperlanda, a father, attorney and friend, to wrestle with Ross Douthat's New York Times article, "An Age of Extinction is Coming. Here's How to Survive," all about how technology dulls desire, rewires dating, and thins out community, then offer concrete ways to choose presence, prayer, and embodied friendship. They strive to offer a grounded, hopeful take on resisting the virtual treadmill and building a human life that lasts.

• why distraction deadens desire for God and others
• tech as bottleneck replacing real practices with simulations
• dating apps, risk, rejection, and thin relationships
• McLuhan, Pascal, and the medium shaping attention
• junk food analogy for addictive digital design
• practical resistance: books, sports, gardens, live music
• parenting guardrails and tech-free formation
• community as inhale and exhale, parish at the center
• prayer off the phone, rhythms that restore attention
• ending with “choose life” as a daily practice

Article: "An Age of Extinction is Coming. Here's How to Survive.": https://www.nytimes.com/2025/04/19/opinion/extinction-technology-culture.html

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Links and other stuff from the show:
Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters
Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected]
The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon
The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z
Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa

Text us and let us know what you think! Tap HERE

In this episode, Jayce and James explore how the FACT framework (Faithful, Available, Contagious, Teachable) serves as both a barometer for disciple readiness and a personal examination tool for those leading others toward Christ.

Have you ever wondered what truly makes someone ready to be a disciple-maker? This episode dives deep into the first half of the powerful FACT framework – Faithful and Available – that serves as both a barometer for discipleship readiness and a personal examination tool for spiritual growth.

• Faithfulness includes alignment with Church teaching, honest acknowledgment of struggles, and consistent striving toward holiness
• Being faithful requires humility and obedience rather than elevating personal opinions above Church teaching
• True availability doesn't mean an empty calendar but rather a heart oriented toward what truly matters
• Availability means being present in the moment, putting down phones, and prioritizing prayer despite competing demands
• Our availability or lack thereof reveals "who we are bowing to" - what we truly worship
• A "schedule conversion" may be necessary if we're too busy for prayer and silence
• Seeking counsel from trusted friends provides essential perspective on our blind spots
• Making even small adjustments can significantly align our lives more closely with Christ's call

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Links and other stuff from the show:
Pastoral Letter, "On the Unity of the Body and Soul:" archokc.org/pastoral-letters
Red Dirt Catholics Email Address: [email protected]
The Book "From Christendom to Apostolic Mission" (Digital and Print): Amazon
The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Daily Examen Prayer: https://bit.ly/309As8z
Lectio Divina How-To: https://bit.ly/3fp8UTa