Why do high performers seem to struggle with their personal relationships? Our guest today is Jason VanRuler, a licensed therapist and author of "Get Past Your Past." Jason provides eye-opening insights into why high performers often struggle with personal relationships. He explains that while high performers excel in business by applying certain success strategies, these same strategies can fail in personal relationships. Jason emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, identifying safe people, isolation vs. self-isolation, and the need for intentional and consistent relationships (and grieving the ones that no longer fit).

We discuss the concept of "max awareness" in therapy, where people are more aware of their issues but often fail to take actionable steps to improve their relationships.

Notable Timestamps:

• [00:02:42] Relationships for high performers.
• [00:06:40] The impact of self-isolation.
• [00:09:16] Seeking healing versus seeking comfort.
• [00:11:55] Three Levels of vulnerability.
• [00:15:02] Deep conversations at parties.
• [00:19:15] Evolving friendships in midlife.
• [00:28:34] Vulnerability in relationships.
• [00:29:17] Love shouldn't be a secret.
• [00:34:23] Redefining values for happiness.

Jason VanRuler Links:

• Instagram
• Get Past Your Past Book
• Website

Resources Mentioned:

• Schedule a free 1:1 Brainstorming Call
• Interested in starting a podcast? Schedule a free 15 minute call to discuss
• Surprisingly True Useful Fun Fact (STUFF) source

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Podcasting is great and all but it's NOT for everyone. Have you been on the fence about starting yours? Or started and got stuck or overwhelmed along the way? I put together 3 major reasons NOT to podcast so you can be clear either way and move ON or move FORWARD. 

Timestamps:

• 00:00:35 - The Appeal of Starting a Podcast
• 00:01:59 - Podcasting's Growth and Potential
• 00:02:53 - Surprisingly True Useful Fun Fact (The Good S.T.U.F.F)
• 00:04:28 - Why podcasting might be a DUMB idea
• 00:05:12 - Podcasting's Accessibility and Popularity
• 00:06:16 - The Importance of Consistency in Podcasting
• 00:09:16 - Personal Journey and Motivation for Podcasting
• 00:12:29 - Monetization Strategies for Podcasts
• 00:16:35 - Realistic Expectations for Podcast Monetization
• 00:19:09 - Using Podcast as a Marketing Tool
• 00:22:12 - Strategic Planning for Podcast Success
• 00:24:19 - Revamping and Offering Podcast Coaching
• 00:27:19 - Invitation to Join Podcast Coaching Program

Resources Mentioned:

• Schedule a free 1:1 Discovery Call
• Interested in starting a podcast? Schedule a free 15 minute call to discuss
• Surprisingly True Useful Fun Fact (STUFF) source
   

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Sheesh! As moms who are juggling our families, our selves, our businesses, and everything else under the sun, the state of motherhood is shifting in a new way. My guest, Dana Malstaff, founder of the big and beloved Boss Mom community, podcast, book, and business has a very unique perspective that will change everything for you.

Building a community of support (and joining communities that just feel like a big warm hug)  involves several key elements. Dana emphasizes the importance of facilitation, a shared vision of the future, and a sense of belonging within a community.

Notable Timestamps:

• [00:01:29] Importance of support systems.
• [00:15:38] Community and belonging among mothers.
• [00:20:31] Building Engaging Online Communities.
• [00:21:42] Rethinking female independence and motherhood.
• [00:25:33] The pursuit of money vs. self-development.
• [00:33:29] Unity in gender roles.
• [00:36:19] The desire to be useful. (this was WHOA!)
• [00:41:28] Evolving views on parenting.
• [00:44:39] Embracing aging with confidence.
• [00:47:23] Mom empowerment and entrepreneurship.
• [00:49:38] Lifestyle change and burnout.

Dana Malstaff and BossMom Links:

• Instagram
• Boss Mom+ Community
• Boss Mom Website

Resources Mentioned:

• Schedule a free 1:1 Discovery Call
• Interested in starting a podcast? Schedule a free 15 minute call to discuss
• Surprisingly True Useful Fun Fact (STUFF) source

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Social media for Gen X? More heart and humanity, less hacks and hustle? YES PLEASE! Chelsea Peitz is my guest today and she's flipping everything we know about social media on its head and creating a MUCH more productive space to connect and create meaningful relationships. I can't wait for you to hear this! She's SO refreshing and real. 

Timestamps:

[00:06:35] Social media challenges and fears.

[00:10:11] Navigating social media algorithms.

[00:12:52] Less contenting, more commenting.

[00:16:01] Building relationships on social media.

[00:20:42] Personal Branding in Social Media.

[00:25:25] Quality over quantity in content.

[00:29:43] Building Authentic Community

[00:31:56] The TRUST framework.

[00:34:23] The power of relatable storytelling.

[00:38:47] Knowing your content goals.

[00:42:07] Lifestyle change and self-care.

Chelsea Peitz Links:

• Instagram
• Website

Resources Mentioned:

• Schedule a free 1:1 Strategy Consult Call
• Surprisingly True Useful Fun Fact (STUFF) source

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Genius or ASD? In this episode of the Late Learner Podcast, Allison Hare and guest Cindy Robinson discuss being diagnosed later in life with ADHD and ASD. We explore topics like high masking, setting the record straight on why we shouldn't say high or low functioning, and as always, bringing a fresh perspective. We are challenging old paradigms and bringing practical advice for late learners navigating ADHD and ASD diagnoses later in life.

Timestamps:

• [00:03:09] Undiagnosed cases of autism spectrum.
• [00:05:30] High masking in neurodiversity.
• [00:08:42] Understanding neurotypes.
• [00:14:53] Masking and deficits identification.
• [00:17:04] Getting diagnosed with autism.
• [00:23:34] Identity and self-discovery.
• [00:26:17] Masking and feeling like a fraud.
• [00:30:48] Unmasking complexities in adulthood.
• [00:36:42] Intelligence and autism correlation.
• [00:37:25] Prioritizing internal functioning over productivity.
• [00:42:33] Accommodations for high masking individuals.
• [00:46:13] Embracing multi-dimensional thinking.
• [00:49:24] Embracing natural rhythms.
• [00:53:40] Evolution of creative expression.
• [00:57:20] Hyper fixation on human emotion.

Cindy Robinson's Links:

• Instagram - it's hilarious
• Website
• Bright Girl, Lacks Focus - Cindy's neurodivergent memoir

Resources Mentioned:

• Schedule a free 1:1 Strategy Consult Call
• Surprisingly True Useful Fun Fact (STUFF) source

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What do you do when you look in the mirror and gravity has stricken your once very youthful high and tight face? Not gonna lie - it’s a beeeyach. It can really mess with you. And it’s no secret that our society for centuries and centuries has put premium value on youth as a moral imperative to beauty. And wherever you may stand on plastic surgery, fillers, injections - it can also make a world of positive difference when done right and for the right reasons. So the question is - to cut or not to cut - and today, I got one of my favorite people ever on the podcast to unpack some of the beauty trends, understanding when it makes sense for surgery or less invasive options, what are some of the less effective trends that have really good marketing, how to find the right surgeon for you, and social commentary. Today’s guest is Dr. Louis DeJoseph, TRIPLE board certified award-winning renowned facial plastic surgeon based out of Atlanta. He is a Castle Connolly Top Doctor, voted Best Rhinoplasty Surgeon by Best Self, Best Facial Plastic Surgeon by Jezebel Magazine and featured in the Atlantan Magazine.

Notable Timestamps:

00:00:03 - Introduction to the Late Learner Podcast
00:00:25 - Today's Topic: Aging and Beauty Standards
00:00:46 - Societal Value on Youth and Beauty
00:01:07 - To Cut or Not to Cut: Plastic Surgery Decisions
00:01:28 - Demystifying Beauty Trends and Surgery
00:02:01 - Introducing Dr. Louis DeJoseph
00:02:44 - Fun Fact: Top Beauty Tips to Boost Mood
00:04:04 - The Importance of Specialization in Facial Surgery
00:05:55 - Dr. DeJoseph's Background and Passion for Facial Anatomy
00:07:30 - Natural Approaches in Facial Plastic Surgery
00:08:01 - Trends in Non-Invasive Treatments and Shift Back to Surgery
00:10:53 - Marketing Influence on Beauty Trends
00:12:17 - Dr. DeJoseph's Practice Evolution and Patient Observations
00:15:06 - The Zoom Boom in Plastic Surgery
00:17:15 - The Great Deflation: Dissolving Fillers
00:18:03 - The Longevity of Filler Results
00:21:31 - Choosing the Right Surgeon and Injector
00:24:12 - Managing Patient Expectations and Obsessions
00:27:17 - Dr. DeJoseph's Personal Interests and Fellowship Program
00:29:08 - Marketing Trends and Trickery in Plastic Surgery
00:32:02 - Learning More About Dr. DeJoseph and Premier Image

Dr. Louis DeJoseph's Links:

• Instagram - Premier Image
• Instagram
• Premier Image Cosmetic and Laser Surgery

Resources Mentioned:

• Schedule a free 1:1 Breakthrough Call
• Surprisingly True Useful Fun Fact (STUFF) source

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What are the skincare and beauty trends that are useful and effective and which ones are marketing gimmicks feeding into a $104B industry? Silicone patches, infrared masks, simplified skincare, what do you actually need? What does it look like to move away from anti-aging rhetoric and move towards pro-aging. The beauty industry has truly shaped our culture, our beauty standards, and in a lot of ways, has shaped our own self-worth. 

Today, we are taking a different approach and you are going to be SO blown away and will leave with a much more simplified approach with double board-certified dermatological surgeon, Dr. Mary Alice Mina of Baucom & Mina.

QUICK: Register for the  5 Simple Strategies to Build Your Personal Advisory Board on March 7, 2024: where you design your personal inner circle to be as high level as your professional circle. Grab your spot here!

Timestamps:

• [00:02:56] Pro-aging skincare trends.
• [00:04:22] Impact of image on confidence.
• [00:11:28] Aging and beauty standards.
• [00:14:42] Celebrities and plastic surgery.
• [00:18:20] Safety of Med Spas.
• [00:23:15] Board certification importance.
• [00:29:29] Skincare marketing trends.
• [00:33:20] Lip plumper mishap
• [00:35:31] Lip balm recommendations.
• [00:38:37] Alternative skincare methods.

Dr. Mary Alice Mina's Links:

• Instagram
• The Skin Real
• Atlanta Derm Surgery

Resources Mentioned:

• Register for the free 5 Strategies to Build Your Personal Advisory Board
• Schedule a free 1:1 Breakthrough Call
• Surprisingly True Useful Fun Fact (STUFF) source

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Everything we've been taught about relationships is totally outdated and can even create more unnecessary shame. Host Allison Hare shares relationship secrets that are not commonly known and discusses how they can work like magic. This episode is a powerful guidebook for those looking to revive their relationship or set a totally new standard for a rock-solid partnership.

Timestamps:
00:00:38 - Valentine's Day and relationship Expectations
00:01:10 - Relationship Struggles and Divorce
00:02:02 - Relationship Secrets and Advice
00:02:46 - Focus on Home Life Over Career
00:04:33 - Allison's Relationship Pride
00:05:07 - Sharing Relationship Insights
00:06:12 - Challenging Conventional Wisdom
00:07:15 - Cringe Culture Fun Fact
00:08:19 - Allison's Dating History
00:09:02 - Undercurrent of Unworthiness
00:09:44 - Marrying Chris: The Best Decision
00:10:07 - Five Non-Obvious Relationship Practices
00:10:39 - How Well You Fight Matters
00:13:16 - Positive Illusions in Relationships
00:15:26 - Prioritizing Your Partner's Needs
00:19:14 - Avoiding Public Trash Talk
00:20:51 - The Role of Sarcasm
00:23:41 - Bonus Relationship Tip
00:25:07 - Strengthening Home Life Foundation
00:26:01 - Invitation for a Free Exploratory Call
00:27:07 - Free Energy Boost Worksheet Offer

Resources mentioned:

• Surprisingly True Useful Fun Fact
• Fighting Well Research
• The Science Behind Happy Relationships

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Where are my fellow control freaks? 

Such an interesting and way more helpful perspective to rethink and redefine perfectionism. You know when you read a book and it’s so groundbreaking and helpful, you can’t help but tell all your friends, post about it? Well, I was the recipient of essentially being attacked on all sides that I needed to read this award-winning book, The Perfectionists’ Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler. Katherine is a seasoned psychotherapist and former in-house therapist for Google, with a BA in psychology from Berkeley and 2 masters from Columbia University and I’ve got her incredibly refreshing and game-changing approach broken down today. We talk about self-punishment vs. discipline. We talk about adaptive and maladaptive perfectionism and why restoration and resting feels like failure to perfectionists - and my favorite, control vs. power. I really am super excited for you to hear it and can't wait to hear what type of perfectionist are you!

Timestamps:

• [00:10:01] Redefining Perfectionism
• [00:13:14] Gender bias in language.
• [00:17:22] Perfectionism and power seeking.
• [00:23:10] Five types of perfectionism.
• [00:27:21] Parisian Perfectionists and Relationships.
• [00:31:26] Knowing your type of perfectionism and collaborating with others
• [00:34:10] Self-worth and self-esteem.
• [00:39:03] Rethinking self-punishment and discipline.
• [00:42:14] Emotional education and self-compassion.
• [00:50:07] Resisting rest and restoration
• [00:54:12] Restoring and emptying out.
• [00:58:37] The Power of Play.
• [01:02:07] Presence and Power.
• [01:07:37] Gray rocking technique

Katherine Morgan Schafler - Guest Links:

The Perfectionists Guide to Losing Control - A Path to Peace and Power

What kind of Perfectionist are you? Take the Quiz

Katherine Morgan Schafler - IG

References mentioned:

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Energetic time management, over capacity, toxic motherhood, rethinking, emotional intelligence, identity death, OH MY! Heather Chauvin, a leadership coach and strategic parenting expert is my guest today and we are giving you the tools you need and discussing shifting identities and the process of letting go and rebuilding. Heather shares her unique and unconventional style, along with simple and effective frameworks to help you and I find sustainability, profitability, and ease in both business and life. 

Timestamps:

[00:01:30] Shifting identities and rebuilding.

[00:04:28] Success as a feeling.

[00:13:46] Energetic time management.

[00:17:37] Changing emotional current.

[00:20:45] 10 minute habit on the feelings you want

[00:25:57] Contentment in the mundane.

[00:31:05] Pushing through self-doubt.

[00:34:46] Identity shifting and grieving.

[00:39:06] Emotional intelligence in relationships.

[00:44:14] Managing energy and decluttering.

[00:48:36] Free resources and quizzes.

Guest Links for Heather Chauvin:

• Instagram
• Facebook
• Freebies

References mentioned:

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• Launch Your Podcast in 8 weeks BETA - For more info, text PODCAST to 404.999.1418 or email [email protected] with PODCAST in the subject line
• Surprisingly True Useful Fun Fact Research

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