You are working on your marriage.  You reach out toward your spouse. . . only to feel rejected.

After that stops you in your tracks.  You start doubting yourself, your efforts, your plan. . . .

STOP.

What if your spouse was not really intending to reject you?

What if something else was going on?

What if I told you that almost always (I would say "always," but then someone would work hard to prove me wrong), it is not really an attempt to reject.

It is really an attempt to protect.

Not "protect you."  But "protect themselves."

What?  You say, "They don't need to protect themselves!"

But that doesn't mean they don't feel the need to protect themselves.

Perceptions.

They really get us in trouble.  You feel it as rejection.  It was meant for protection.  The problem is, your perception could throw you off, cause you to pull up, abandon your plan, and wallow in pain.

Or you could understand it from your spouse's perception. . . .

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