re.love® with Dr. Ezzie Spencer

Take a peek into the different types of dating apps that my clients are seeing great results with right now.

Hinge, Bumble, Coffee + Bagel, the League, Raya, eHarmony, Match.com, Plenty of Fish, the Pattern, Feeld -  

How to choose?!

In today's podcast episode, I use three categories to help guide you through the confusing landscape of online dating today:

1. Low Barrier to Entry
2. High(er) Barrier to Entry
3. Niche

I usually give individual recommendations to each of my clients because there is no one-size-fits-all.


In this episode, I walk you through the exact considerations that will help you to pick 

a) a category and 
b) an app to focus on.

… and I also share some of the real ingredients for success online.

Tune into today's episode, it is super specific and juicy! 

x Ezzie


Reach out on IG: @ezziespencer

Free quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:
www.ezziespencer.com

Details for the February 2022 re.love journey here:
www.ezziespencer.com/relove

* Postscript: after 5 beautiful years, flourishing self-love, many engagements and babies! - the re.love® program has drawn to a conclusion.

NEW BODY OF WORK:
www.ezziespencer.com

Music composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

"Heartbreak asks us not to look for an alternative path, because there is no alternative path. It is a deeper introduction to what we love and have loved, an inescapable and often beautiful question, something or someone who has been with us all along, asking us to be ready for the final letting go."  

-David Whyte, Consolations.

For a long time, I thought that Heartbreak was something to be avoided (I was so careful to guard against it again!), but it was actually through Heartbreak that my heart opened to greater love.

In today's episode, I share three ways to walk the path, to receive the gift of Heartbreak, to heal and to feel whole again. 

At the 12 minute mark, I lead a spontaneous mini healing process — just wait until you hear the birdsong. True healing magic.

Share this episode with a friend who may need solace right now.


x Ezzie


Reach out on IG: @ezziespencer

Free quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:
www.ezziespencer.com

Details for the February 2022 re.love journey here:
www.ezziespencer.com/relove

* Postscript: after 5 beautiful years, flourishing self-love, many engagements and babies! - the re.love® program has drawn to a conclusion.

NEW BODY OF WORK:
www.ezziespencer.com

Music composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

 I dated a narcissist, and it fundamentally changed my life.

…. but not in the way that you may think. 

It is possible to create healthy love after an experience like this,

Not despite what happened, but because of it.

In today's podcast episode, I walk through three ways that being in a toxic relationship changes you … and where to go from here.

(Critical point: it is not your fault if you have had this experience).

In the episode, I also share three paths that I see my clients who've had difficult relationship experiences take on their Heroine's Journey into Love (I'm familiar with all paths myself!) —

1. Woman One stays on the Island

2. Woman Two gets stuck in the Moat

3. Woman Three finds her way to the Garden of Love.

For a long time, the pathway of Woman # 3 felt elusive to me. What was different about her? What were her qualities? 

I break it down in today's episode, hoping it might give you hope.

Share this episode with a friend if you feel this may be helpful for her!

x Ezzie



Reach out on IG: @ezziespencer

Free quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:
www.ezziespencer.com

Details for the February 2022 re.love journey here:
www.ezziespencer.com/relove



REKINDLING HOPE AND JOY AFTER TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

When I came into re.love, I was grieving a 20 year pattern of toxic, unhealthy relationships with volatile, angry and emotionally unavailable men. I was grieving a very lonely and painful childhood. And most of all I was grieving the loss of myself. I was lonely, sad and angry and it felt like my heart was a hard rock in my chest. I was desperate for a change. And then the magic started.... I knew with every part of me that this program was meant for me and I had HOPE.

I started listening to the modules and following the re.love prescription to a tee. The more I dug into the program, the more magical it became. I felt brighter, lighter and INSPIRED. As I completed the re.love Heartwork, I completely surrendered to a journey of self love and expansion. My fears and unconscious beliefs of unworthiness began to dissolve.

Fast forward 12 weeks and today I feel ELATED, serene, and JOYFULLY CONNECTED to myself... it's like a deep burning flame of passion and love at the root of my very being. I embrace and embody the divine and delicious feminine within me. And finally, I am at home in my skin for the first time EVER. My unshakable foundation of abundant love for myself has finally created a clear pathway for me to attract the relationship of my dreams.

re.love is life changing and the best part is knowing this is just the beginning! Yes!!! 

BODY OF WORK:
www.ezziespencer.com

1:1 re.love:
www.ezzie.love

Check out the self-study program LOVEABLE here:
https://www.ezzie.love/loveable

Ezzie's IG: @ezziespencer

Free quiz, attraction elixir, love-notes and other resources here:
www.ezzie.love


Music composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Happy new year! Is it your year for love? Maybe there's someone already in your orbit. You like them. A lot?! You're allocating a lot of bandwidth to figuring out if they feel the same.

Are they up for the same thing? On the same timeline as you? 

How do you get clarity about where they are at?- without getting another tarot-card reading or committee'ing opinions of friends.



I've done my fair share of crowd-sourcing (and cosmic-sourcing!) answers but honestly, nothing has ever given more accurate feedback than the words/actions of the person in question.

So, in today's podcast episode, I give a simple script on how to pick up the phone to the hotline of truth — and simply ask.

But for this script to work, it is critical that you bring the right energy!

So, this podcast episode also includes —

+ A powerful affirmation to get you into the right energy (this will instantly re-route you back into clarity and confidence)
+ Insight into how you might be inadvertently abandoning your feminine (and how you can immediately restore this)
+ Guidance on how to predict and handle a difficult answer.
 

Even if you are not in this specific situation right now, there are so many nuggets in this episode, you will want to still listen in.

And if you use the script, affirmation and other tips in the ep — I'd love to hear how these work for you! x Ezzie

Reach out on IG: ezziespencer 

Free quiz, love-notes and other resources here:
www.ezziespencer.com 

Details for the February 2022 re.love journey here:
www.ezziespencer.com/relove

* Postscript: after 5 beautiful years, flourishing self-love, many engagements and babies! - the re.love® program has drawn to a conclusion.

NEW BODY OF WORK:
www.ezziespencer.com

Music composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Today's podcast episode is about supporting single friends … because holidays can be an Ouch reminder at the best of times.

This episode has many do's and don'ts — direct from my re.love clients who often receive "help" from well-meaning friends.

This episode is for you whether you are already in a relationship and are wondering how to best show up for a single girlfriend who is looking for love ...

... and it is also for you if you are single and want to guide your friends to better support you (or be an awesome love buddy yourself!).

Tips and scripts inside the episode.

x Ezzie


Reach out on IG: ezziespencer 

Free quiz, love-notes and other resources here:
www.ezziespencer.com 

Details for the February 2022 re.love journey here:
www.ezziespencer.com/relove

* Postscript: after 5 beautiful years, flourishing self-love, many engagements and babies! - the re.love® program has drawn to a conclusion.

NEW BODY OF WORK:
www.ezziespencer.com

Music composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

Not receiving an easy flow of romantic attention like you once did, feeling lonely, thinking you are hopeless at the apps, not feeling the “zing” or excitement with anyone you connect with, 

It is very common to go down the internalisation rabbit-hole, thinking there is something wrong with you, fixating on possible problems with your attachment style, or body, or age, thinking you might be too damaged by your past, or, or, or ….

You can keep trying to mentally decipher what exactly is “wrong” with you (seeing yourself as a problem to fix), and making cosmetic improvements (treating the symptom not the cause), even giving up altogether,

… or be kind to yourself, hold yourself with compassion and recognise that the planet is going through a monumental once-in-a-millennia shift in a matter of mere years, that relating in this current moment may require new skills, and skills you can learn (simple, just takes time) …

... you can commit to releasing (self)judgment, return to your sweet essence, allow you to be seen and felt in your natural luminosity.

What if nothing is wrong with you? 

More inside this episode x

For a quiz, free resources and love-notes, 
visit www.ezziespencer.com
IG: @ezziespencer

* Postscript: after 5 beautiful years, flourishing self-love, many engagements and babies! - the re.love® program has drawn to a conclusion.

NEW BODY OF WORK:
www.ezziespencer.com

Music composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

You've split, you've grieved, but your ex still haunts your thoughts, your DMs, your journal entries, your conversations with friends …

… and maybe even your new relationship.

It might be very obvious, or it might be in surprisingly subtle ways that catch you off-guard when they zombie into your head again.

Listen in to the season finale of the re.love podcast for:

• why your ex still has hooks in you
• why most cord-cutting exercises don't actually work
• how you can close out that karmic loop permanently.

 I'd love to hear what suggestion you use :)

Much love

Ezzie

P.S. I'm running a free live workshop in the first week of September to help you dissolve blocks to love. I will announce via my email list, so sign up here.

These will be fun, live, interactive events. Free. Yay! 

P.P.S. The interest list for the next 12 week re.love journey is filling up!! There will be a special bonus for those on the list, to be revealed in September : Sign up to the interest list here.

* Postscript: after 5 beautiful years, flourishing self-love, many engagements and babies! - the re.love® program has drawn to a conclusion.

NEW BODY OF WORK:
www.ezziespencer.com

Music composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

... Love is Possible in the dating wild west. 


There's gold to be had, and sometimes you might take a tumble. 

Okay… you definitely will. 

But these tumbles do not need to derail you.

How to keep the Fire of Hope that Love is Possible alive in your heart in those moments when you're asking yourself:


"is love really possible for me?!"


This episode walks you through how to:

-Strike a match to rekindle your Fire of Hope that Love is Possible
-Use a simple daily practice to keep the fire burning 
-Discover what is really extinguishing your Fire of Hope …

(The last one is a big one and might crop up at the most unexpected moment, just when things are going well…).

I'd love to hear how which tip you use to light 'er up — DM me on Instagram @ezziespencer!

xo Ezzie

P.S. I’ll be re-opening the re.love group program in September 2021 for women who want to create love, and have fun while doing it ;) Hop onto the interest list to be the first to find out about registrations: Sign up to the interest list here.

* Postscript: after 5 beautiful years, flourishing self-love, many engagements and babies! - the re.love® program has drawn to a conclusion.

NEW BODY OF WORK:
www.ezziespencer.com

Music composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

The Emotional Power Seat is a process that I lead my friends, clients (and myself!) through when the love waves get choppy.

 
… which they inevitably will, it’s a normal part of the process (self-compassion!).

 
Using the Emotional Power Seat language helps you to 

• gently set boundaries with yourself (and others), 
• repair relationship harm, 
• open up to joy and bliss 

… and it is one of my fave podcast episodes.

 I'd love to hear which of the ABCDE tools you use!

* Postscript: after 5 beautiful years, flourishing self-love, many engagements and babies! - the re.love® program has drawn to a conclusion.

NEW BODY OF WORK:
www.ezziespencer.com

Music composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©

I used to see stress as a smoke signal that something was wrong.

But what if stress could also be a signal that we are about to move from a familiarity zone (aloneness) into a growth zone (together)?

What if stress is a sign that we have hit a checkpoint where we can relinquish control and move into greater flow, trust and magic?

What if stress was the invitation into an alchemical process, a portal into love?

One of the ways that I have learned to use stress for alchemy over the years is to work with the power of predictability.
 

Working with the moon cycle helped me to align my personal rhythms and cycles to the natural environment, regulating my emotion and energy to unlock creativity and freedom.

But relationship skills are different from personal development skills. (they overlap, but different wheelhouse!).

When you've experienced heartbreak or difficult relationships in the past, it can be especially important to be equipped with skills in advance so you can navigate inevitable stress-points with grace.

I help my clients have a much more joyful experience in the dating process by using the tips that I share in today's podcast episode.

Tune in for 3 practical tips on the power of predictability, so you can use stress as alchemy for greater heart expansion.

* Postscript: after 5 beautiful years, flourishing self-love, many engagements and babies! - the re.love® program has drawn to a conclusion.

NEW BODY OF WORK:
www.ezziespencer.com

Music composed and produced by Nathaniel Koenig ©