Have you ever felt like something in your life, career, or relationships isn’t working, and instead of questioning the system, you immediately assume you must be the problem? That there’s something wrong with you, that you’re not trying hard enough, that if you were just different, everything would fall into place?

This episode of The Modern Phoenix is a wake-up call. Gervase shares a raw and powerful riff from the vault - straight from a live coaching session. She dives into the deep-rooted conditioning that convinces women to gaslight themselves, unpacks how the systems we exist in, like patriarchy, capitalism, and generational conditioning, keep us in a cycle of self-doubt and self-abandonment. Most importantly, she offers a different perspective: what if your emotions, your overwhelm, your desire for change aren’t personal failures, but signals that the ecosystem around you needs to shift? If you’re ready to reframe your inner dialogue, reclaim your discernment, and trust yourself enough to create the ripple effect that leads to real, systemic change, listen in now.

What you’ll learn:

• Why so many high-achieving women believe they are the problem (and why that’s a lie)

• How to recognize when burnout and dissatisfaction are signals and not personal failings

• The power of the shift; trusting your emotions instead of suppressing them

• How to have your own back through the inevitable cycles of transformation

• What it really means to be a culture-changer in your own ecosystem

 

Are you ready to stop gaslighting yourself? To stop thinking that you’re ALWAYS the problem, and start accessing your inner wisdom? Be a woman that has her own back. Start with a Soul Shift:

• The Soul Shift Intensive was created for the woman who is ready to leave behind the stories society has conditioned her to believe, and instead embrace the calm and clarity that comes with being connected to soul wisdom.

• Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive

 

Follow Gervase

• Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/themodernphoenix

• Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/