The transition into motherhood reshapes not just our roles, but our very beings. In this episode, Gervase Kolmos sits down with Jessi Harold, author of Mothershift, to explore the transformative journey known as matrescence. Jessi shares her insights on how becoming a mother can be both a radical shift and a rite of passage filled with growth, challenges, and deep self-discovery. Together, they discuss the complexities of identity shifts, societal expectations, and the importance of holding space for both the beauty and the struggle of parenting. 

Keep listening as Gervase and Jessie cover the balance between rejecting and emulating our own upbringing, explore how motherhood pushes us to hold paradoxes and embrace nuance, and discuss how it transforms not only how we parent but also how we grow as individuals.

What you’ll learn:

• The meaning and transformative power of matrescense

• The importance of holding complexity and paradox in motherhood

• The need for and challenges of finding community and support in modern motherhood

• How your upbringing can leave you swinging between breaking cycles and repeating them 

• Why self-compassion is a must in the matrescence journey The value of finding balance and what's right for you in motherhood versus societal norms

Connect with Jessi Harrold

• Instagram | @jessie.es.harrold:

• Website | https://www.jessieharrold.com/

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• For the first time ever, current, past and new clients can enjoy a 60 minute session with Gervase to set intentions for the New Year, get clear and focused when you feel stuck and overwhelmed, or address any persistent problems that keep recurring.

• Get unstuck and tap into your body wisdom. On sale through January. Buy it now, use it any time this year:  https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy

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Resources:

Mothershift Book - Jessie Harrold

Navigate the demands of the new year with greater ease, intention, and authenticity. In this week’s grounding episode, Gervase invites you to reflect, reset, and reconnect with the cycles of nature around (and within) you. She explores the effect of the Winter Solstice, our changing assignments for this season, and discusses how aligning with nature’s rhythm can help us navigate the demands of modern life with ease. Gervase shares her insights on living as a “modern woman on an ancient Earth,” and how tapping into the wisdom of your body and soul can unlock a new sense of clarity and coherence. Listen in as she guides you through a grounding exercise, sharing tools to help you slow down, refuel, and return to your life feeling aligned, resourced, and ready to create magic.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The power of seasonal awareness and its impact on your body and mind.

• Why slowing down and resourcing as you go is essential for sustainable energy.

• How to reset your nervous system in the midst of life’s chaos with a simple grounding exercise.

• The role of natural intelligence in guiding your decisions and aligning your inner and outer worlds.

• Why your worthiness is never tied to productivity or societal expectations.

New! Special Rate: drop into your body wisdom with a Somatic Soul Session:

• For the first time ever, current, past and new clients can enjoy a 60 minute session with Gervase to set intentions for the New Year, get clear and focused when you feel stuck and overwhelmed, or address any persistent problems that keep recurring. 

• Get unstuck and tap into your body wisdom. On sale through January. Buy it now, use it any time this year:  https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy 

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What if the key to breaking through relationship conflicts isn’t in the talking but in the listening… to your body? In this episode, Gervase reveals how shifting from mind-based strategies to somatic and soul approaches (read: dropping out of the mind and into the body) transformed a weeks-long rupture in her marriage into a moment of deep connection and repair. Listen in as she shares her struggles with “circling the drain” with repetitive arguments, how the mind can get in the way of reconciliation, and the power of the body in moving through relationship stalemates. Keep listening for questions you can ask yourself to explore the practice of dropping into your body wisdom, and for a powerful reminder that healing doesn’t always come from trying harder but from thinking differently.

Drop into your own unique body wisdom with a Somatic Soul Session:

• 60 minute, 1:1 coaching sessions to get you unstuck and ready to work with your body wisdom. On sale through January. Check it out here: https://gervasekolmos.podia.com/f1c7c21a-5772-4222-bf65-7bac78672c33/buy 

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From threats and punishments to connection - this one goes out to the parents of strong-willed children. In today’s episode, Gervase welcomes Wendy Snyder, certified parenting educator and family life coach, to discuss the power of positive, connection-based parenting. Together, they explore the challenges, myths, and opportunities of this parenting style, particularly with strong-willed children. They discuss the impact of healing generational trauma cycles, the role of self-awareness in parenting, and the importance of letting go of shame and perfectionism. Packed with personal stories and valuable insights, this episode is a must-listen for any parent seeking to nurture meaningful relationships with their kids.

Connect with Wendy: 

Fresh Start Wendy | Instagram

Power Struggles FREE Online Workshop - Fresh Start Family

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In this episode, Gervase shines a light on the pervasive belief: “I have to say or do the right thing, or they’ll be mad.” Gervase explores how this belief can not only trap you in cycles of self-doubt, stress, and rumination but also leads to self-abandonment. Join her as she shares insights into how the mind can mask trauma with obsession, frustration, and the relentless need to “get it right.” Keep listening to hear how you find the unique somatic soul strategy you need to bring yourself out of overwhelming obsession and into clarity, self-honoring, and groundedness.

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This week, Gervase takes on a limiting belief that surfaces in the lives of many modern women: it’s not okay to be wrong. Learn why this belief leads to fear, power struggles and a lack of authenticity in your life. You’ll discover why ruminating and gaslighting are trauma-based activation responses, and how leaning into body wisdom and the practice of resourcing can give you exactly what you need - the permission to be human, which will power a sense of ease, flow and creativity in your life.

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Welcome to The Modern Phoenix Podcast! Born from the ashes of the “It’s All Me” podcast, The Modern Phoenix is here to guide, inspire, and empower you to rise into the truest, most powerful version of yourself. In this episode, Gervase shares the heart behind the podcast rebrand, what it means to be a “modern woman,” and how the Phoenix archetype offers a powerful guide for personal evolution. Keep listening to hear how knowing and choosing yourself despite our social conditioning, trusting your inner wisdom, and making bold choices are key to becoming who you were meant to be.

Get your free Season of Pleasure masterclass here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/season-of-pleasure

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On this week’s solo episode of the IAM podcast, Gervases seizes inspiration from a recent client interaction, discussing how patterns of disempowerment have left many women with the sneaky survival strategy of hyper-vigilance around the needs of others, and how permission, resource, and pleasure can allow us to bring more regulated versions of ourselves forward to meet life’s initiations. Listen in for questions that will help you begin to uncover what gives you life, what’s blocking you from your pleasure, and how you can accept permission to wake up and reclaim who you are instead of who you think everyone needs you to be.

Get your free Season of Pleasure masterclass here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/season-of-pleasure

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This week on the IAM podcast, after a full year of navigating her daughter’s PANDAS diagnosis,Gervase shares her lived experience of integrating relationship, resource, pleasure, and advocacy into her approach to life and her daughter’s health. Listen in as Gervase discusses the importance of finding your “lighthouse” relationship in stressful times, how to choose your truth even when it goes against what everyone else is doing, the cyclical nature of life, and her personal journey with food and her family’s health. Get your free Season of Pleasure masterclass here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/season-of-pleasure

Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift:

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Resources:

105: My Light After the Dark Night of the Soul {Personal Story} - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify

109: A Peek Inside Our Family’s New (Food) Normal - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify

Join Gervase this week on the It’s All Me podcast as she shares how important the practice of resourcing has become in her life, especially in times of stress, like her recent bout with Covid during “Back to School’ season. Listen in as she shares why resourcing moment to moment is actually a regenerative practice that calms the nervous system, and how it differs from the typical American way of resourcing that leads to resentment and frustration. Keep listening to hear how this widely underestimated way of womaning allows you to be more efficient with your time and energy, so that you can feel better as you live, rather than collapsing in burnout and despair on your way to “better things.”

Get your free Season of Pleasure masterclass here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/season-of-pleasure

Ready to work with Gervase? Start your rebirth with a Soul Shift:

• Check it out here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive

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