When I Don't Know What to Do, I Return to Me is a raw solo where Gervase shares two real-life vignettes—a Zoom with a master lawyer taken from a Costco aisle and a mama-bear moment about her child's bully—to show exactly how she moves from rumination to inner knowing. You'll hear her NPR framework (Notice–Pause–Resource), the shift from outside eyes to inside eyes, and the embodied practice of taking your seat so your next right-for-you move becomes obvious. She also introduces The Inner Knowing Immersion: two 90‑minute sessions + a custom hypnosis track to anchor this practice for 21 days and beyond.

Listen to this episode to discover:

• The NPR micro‑framework to move from spin to center

• Inside eyes vs. outside eyes (and how to switch)

• What it means to take your seat—even in public

• How to spot self‑gaslighting and people‑pleasing

• Why clean energy = clean communication

• How a custom hypnosis can anchor self‑trust for 21 days

This episode is for you if: You're looping on a decision, performing to be palatable, or afraid of getting it "wrong." You want practical, embodied tools to choose the truest thing—at school pickup, in a boardroom, or in a Costco aisle.

Pull Quotes:

• "When I don't know what to do, I return to me."

• "Outside eyes look for rules. Inside eyes look for truth."

• "I took my seat—in a Costco aisle."

• "You've already won when you don't abandon yourself."

• "Perfection is a performance. Truth is a frequency."

Resources Mentioned:

• Inner Knowing Immersion — two 90‑minute sessions + custom hypnosis (21‑day anchoring)

• NPR = Notice • Pause • Resource (simple nervous-system reset)

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• 1:1 coaching - learn more about it here

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What if "retreat" isn't a luxury—but spiritual hygiene? In this raw solo, Gervase shares what happened on her Peru retreat in the Sacred Valley: the fire ceremony that helped her release an undercurrent of fear (10% at a time), how she anchored the steadiness of her inner mountain in her body, and why healing in circle, not solo, changes everything. Expect real talk on motherhood, anxious attachment, resourcing from nature (instead of numbing), and remembering the joyful, dancing essence beneath all your roles.

• The grief/fire ceremony that helped Gervase let go of fear and anxious attachment (in doable 10% increments)

• "The mountain is me": how to anchor steadiness from land and nature into your nervous system

• Why we need relational healing and community containers (and how to stop DIY-ing your deepest work)

• Remembering your essence beneath the roles: ancient and joyful can both be true

• Retreat as sacred time: signaling to your body and calendar that "this matters"

• Discernment in healing (including Human Design intuition + choosing the right intensity for your system)

• You feel like a woman with her hair on fire and want grounded steadiness instead

• You're carrying fear or "buildup" from hard seasons and don't know how to move it

• You keep trying to heal alone and crave circle, ceremony, and nervous-system-safe support

• You want to feel more alive, on-purpose, and resourced in everyday life (not just on vacation)

• Medicine for the Modern Soul (retreat host: Tracy Rulaine Roberts)

• Gervase's Human Design note: Splenic Projector (using intuition as a green-light threshold)

• The Phoenix Retreat — Charleston, Nov 6–9 (oceanfront house, ceremony + circle). Two bunks left—Gervase is in the bunk room too.

• Planning an international retreat in spring and another in fall 2026. Tell us where you want to go and what you're craving!

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What if the reason you feel so exhausted isn't because you're "not strong enough," but because you've been conditioned to believe you should do it all by yourself?

In this raw solo episode, Gervase dismantles the myth of hyper-independence and shares why leaning back—literally and metaphorically—is the medicine women need to restore balance. From nervous system regulation to generational imprints, she shows how centuries of cultural conditioning have pressured women to "do it all," and why the real path to vitality is found in community, co-regulation, and circle.

Listen to this episode to discover:

• The simple embodiment practice that shifts your nervous system from overdrive to balance

• Why "DIY-ing" your healing is a lie, and how we're biologically wired for co-regulation

• How patriarchy, capitalism, and colonizer mindsets created the myth of going it alone

• Why being "everything to everyone" is not strength—it's burnout

• The power of circles, retreats, and sisterhood as ancient technologies for modern women

• Why leaning back, receiving, and being supported is the new model of success

This episode is for you if:

• You feel depleted, overextended, or like everything will collapse if you stop for a second

• You've been taught that asking for help is weakness

• You're craving sisterhood, support, and spaces where you can be your full self

• You want practical tools to regulate your nervous system and soften back into balance

Resources Mentioned in This Episode Mothers Rising – 6-week mother circle: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/mothers-rising The Phoenix Retreat - ONLY 2 SPOTS LEFT (Charleston, Nov 6–9): https://www.gervasekolmos.com/chs-retreat

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What if the real story of your trauma isn't the one you keep telling yourself in your head — but the one your body has been holding all along?

In this solo episode, G shares how trauma patterns show up in our daily lives (especially as mothers, makers, and women holding it all), and why breaking cycles requires more than mindset work. Drawing on focalizing training and the wisdom of teacher Nick Werber, she will reveal how our most obvious trauma response is often how we treat our own bodies — ignoring signals, pushing past limits, or abandoning ourselves when life feels full.

This conversation weaves together personal stories (including her own rocky "back-to-school transition"), trauma-informed practices, and reminders that your body is not a machine — it's more like a garden that needs tending.

When we stop abandoning ourselves and start listening to the body's wisdom, we begin to re-pattern, restore, and rise.

Listen to this episode to discover:

• Why the most obvious trauma response is how you treat your body

• The difference between the story in your head and the story your body is telling

• How generational cycles and trauma show up in motherhood

• What I learned from crashing hard during my "back-to-school" transition (and how I found rhythm again)

• The ballerina-on-pointe metaphor: why balance is hundreds of tiny adjustments, not one rigid plan

• Why your nervous system needs seasons of rest, rhythm, and renewal — just like nature

• Practical ways to "resource as you go" so you don't abandon yourself

JOIN US:

• Join G in Charleston to tune into your womanly wisdom, inner knowing, and soulful sisterhood: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/chs-retreat

• Mamas- it's time to reset, resource and rise together: Mothers Rising 6 week circle begins October 15th: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/mothers-rising

Mentioned in this episode:

• Connect with Nick Werber - nicknwerber.comNick Werber | Integrative Coach | Instagram: @nickwerber_

• Previous episode with Nick Werber (here)

Quotes to Share:

• "The most obvious trauma response is how we treat our bodies." – Nick Werber

• "Your body is not a machine. It's more like a tree that needs seasons of rest, rhythm, and renewal." – Gervase

What if the chaos in your life wasn't the problem—but the pressure you pile on top of it?

In this raw and personal episode, Gervase shares the story of her unexpected home renovation, how it pushed her to the edge of her money stories and nervous system's capacity, and the surprising lessons it taught her about money, motherhood, and meeting upper limits.

Instead of grinding harder, she discovered the power of release, metaphor, and permission—the feminine way of moving through life. Drawing from her own experiences and her work with clients, Gervase reveals how embracing the Phoenix spiral of death and rebirth can turn breakdowns into breakthroughs.

If you've ever felt stretched too thin, guilty for dropping the ball, or at your breaking point, this episode is your reminder that you don't have to force your way through. There's another way—and it begins with letting go.

Listen now to discover: Why chaos isn't the problem—it's the pressure we attach to it How nervous system capacity sets the ceiling for love, money, and abundance The Instant Pot "pressure valve" metaphor to release tension and reclaim peace Why dropping some of the balls you juggle is not only safe but necessary The Phoenix spiral: why life is death & rebirth, not a straight line How to reconnect to metaphor, archetype, and your inner world when life feels overwhelming Permission to embrace all of you—Netflix binges, divine downloads, and everything in between

This episode is for you if: You're navigating a season of overwhelm and want a fresh perspective You find yourself self-sabotaging when life or money expands You feel like you're always at your limit and need practical ways to soften You crave a reminder that being human—messy, chaotic, and cyclical—is not a failure but part of the path

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What if that voice telling you to "be more productive" isn't your inner wisdom but internalized capitalism? Most of us are living with constant pressure to optimize, monetize, and harvest every moment of our lives, and we don't even realize it.

In this raw episode, Gervase shares a vulnerable moment from her own life that perfectly illustrates how capitalism has trained us to believe we don't get to just exist. She breaks down how this system affects modern women and offers practical ways to reclaim your humanity.

This isn't about becoming anti-capitalism overnight, it's about recognizing the programming so you can make conscious choices about your own 500 square feet of life.

Listen to this episode to discover:

• The moment Gervase realized she couldn't even enjoy a peaceful lunch with her son without thinking about content creation

• How internalized capitalism shows up in everyday life (spoiler: it's that voice saying "you're not doing enough")

• Why we've been programmed to turn every hobby, idea, and beautiful moment into a business opportunity

• The "harvest mentality" and why it's running you ragged

• How capitalism affects both stay-at-home and working moms (and why both feel like they're never enough)

• Simple acts of rebellion: ways to reclaim moments that capitalism can't touch

• Why your worth isn't determined by your output, and how to actually believe it

• How to create conscious moments of rest and pleasure without guilt

• The ripple effect of tending to your own "500 square feet" instead of trying to change the world

This episode is for you if:

• You feel guilty taking breaks unless you've "earned" them

• Every hobby feels like it should become a side hustle

• You can't enjoy peaceful moments without thinking about productivity

• You're exhausted from the constant pressure to do more, be more, create more

• You want practical ways to reclaim your humanity in a productivity-obsessed world

Resource Mentioned in this Episode:

• Toi Marie (Smith): https://www.toimarie.com/

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What if the reason you constantly feel drained isn't because you're doing too much, but because you're doing things in a way that goes against your natural design? Most of us are running on empty, trying to force ourselves into systems and rhythms that work for other people—but not for us.

This week, I sat down with human design expert and best-selling author Erin Claire Jones to explore how understanding your unique energetic blueprint can transform how you work, love, and live. Erin breaks down the practical magic of human design and shows us how to stop forcing and start flowing. She reveals why most of us have been conditioned to work against our natural energy patterns, how this creates burnout and disconnection, and the simple shifts that can help you honor your design. She shares practical insights for all 5 human design types and explains why this system is less mystical theory and more practical life manual.

Listen to this episode to discover:

• What human design is and why it's the most practical system for understanding your energy and intuition

• The 5 human design types (Generators, Manifesting Generators, Projectors, Manifestors, and Reflectors) and how each is designed to move through the world

• Why Generators and Manifesting Generators need to ask "Do I really feel excited about this?" before saying yes to everything

• How Projectors can build successful businesses and raise families without burning out (spoiler: it's about working with your energy, not against it)

• Why Manifestors need freedom to do things their own way

• Why energy management is more important than time management

• How to use human design to understand your partner and kids on a deeper level

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humandesignblueprint.com

Book: How Do You Choose: A Human Design Guide To What's Best For You At Work, In Love and In Life

Let's be real: the world doesn't need another "put-together" woman who's mastered pretending. It needs you—whole, honest, luminous, messy, intuitive, powerful-as-hell you.

That's why we're bringing back this special episode -- straight from the Vault! G goes all in—sharing raw personal stories and client transformations to show you the sacred evidence of what's possible when you stop hiding parts of yourself. Light and dark. Joy and rage. Fire and softness. All of it belongs.

This episode is your reminder (or wake-up call) that being fully expressed isn't a luxury—it's your lifeline. Especially if you're navigating mental health shifts, heavy relational dynamics, or the never-ending mental load of modern womanhood.

Here's what you'll walk away with:

• What it actually means to lead with your heart

• How to feel more grounded in your truth—even when life feels like a lot

• Why emotional range = personal power

• A new definition of "strength" that lets you breathe easier

• A soul check-in: Are you living the Woman Way… or still shape-shifting?

Hit play now. Let it land. Let it stir you. Then share it with the women who need it. And if it moves you? Come join the Phoenix Revolution. We're not here to play small anymore.

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You are not the same every single day. And while you can become outwardly successful with values like perfectionism, discipline and hustle—I can show you a better way. An easier way

Inside this four-day on-demand course, you'll learn:

• What keeps us stuck in cycles of shame, self-doubt, over-doing and feeling disconnected from our whole Woman and how to connect back to Her.

• The role conditioning plays and how to undo it.

• How to use your Creatrix magic to let go of your death grip on control and invite in more joy, pleasure, connection, presence.

• A process for breaking cycles of toxic narratives and life patterns.

• An empowered mindset that allows you to trust yourself more.

• And so much more…

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What if the reason you struggle to speak from your heart isn't because you don't know what to say, but because you've forgotten how to connect with yourself first? Most of us want deeper connection, but we're so stuck in our heads, running on adrenaline instead of presence. This week, Gervase sits down with best-selling author and international consultant Katie Hendricks to explore how to make the journey from head to heart and discover the practical tools that make authentic connection possible.

Katie reveals why most of us are walking around "from the neck up," running on adrenaline instead of presence, and how this disconnection affects everything—from how we show up with our partners, to how we navigate conflict, to how we experience our own lives. She shares practical tools for reconnecting with your body, giving yourself nourishing attention, and moving through the world with your heart open, even when it feels scary.

• The simple "hmm" technique that shifts you from criticism to curiosity (and opens the pathway between your head and heart)

• Why most people live "from the neck up" and how this keeps you running on adrenaline instead of true presence

• Katie's "loop of awareness" practice—how to circulate attention between yourself and others so you don't get lost in your head, or lost in others

• How to ask yourself "How am I experiencing this in my body right now?" and why this question changes everything

• Why opening your heart feels scary and how to move around the fear instead of forcing through it

• The difference between giving attention from adrenaline versus presence and why one nourishes while the other depletes

• How to separate "stuff talk" and "heart talk" so business doesn't block heart connection with your partner

• How to shift from seeing your partner as a "fixer upper" to an evolving work of art

• The game-changing concept of a "no blame relationship" and how to create one

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Connect with Katie Hendricks

• Be. Play. Love Podcast: https://beplaylove.com/

• Love and Relationship products: www.heartsintrueharmony.com

• Hendricks Institute: www.hendricks.com

What if you came to Earth with a divine design and a map of your life already written in the stars? This week, Gervase sits down with Carol Allen, a Vedic astrologer with 34 years of experience to explore how this ancient system can offer profound insights into your life's purpose, relationships, and spiritual path.

This isn't your typical horoscope chat. Carol shares how Vedic astrology—practiced for thousands of years in India—reveals your "celestial DNA" and why understanding your divine design can free you from the Western pressure to be something maybe you're not meant for, and help you live in alignment with your soul's true destiny. Listen to this episode to discover:

• Why Vedic astrology is different from Western astrology and how it works as "ancient technology" for understanding your soul's path

• How your chart is your celestial DNA, a snapshot of the Universe the moment you took your first breath

• Why Western hyperindividualism is making us miserable and how ancient wisdom shows us we're all interconnected frequency beings

• The concept of dharma and why you're not meant to force yourself into someone else's blueprint for success

• Why finding love isn't just about you, it's about both people's destinies aligning and what this means for taking pressure off yourself

• How to live at "the level of love" by being who you're truly here to be

• How vedic astrology can help you parent based on who your child actually is (as they come "pre-loaded at the factory")

• How your chart reveals your natural gifts, relationship patterns, and even physical characteristics with stunning accuracy

• The cyclical nature of life and why expecting constant progression is making us miserable and exhausted

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