Reset With Renee

Join a healing circle Wednesday May 8th 10 AM CST via Zoom to receive facilitation to connect to the Great Mother; a frequency that can tend to the Mother Wound many of us carry.

Creating generational health means breaking the cycle of disempowerment that is passed from each generation until a cycle breaker does the deep & often challenging & unrecognized work of healing their hurt as well as showing up for the hurt of their family.

Attend the event, purchase the recording, or listen to learn more about how to disrupt disempowering energy & activate personal power.

Two General Types Of Journaling

Processing - when activated, triggered, overwhelmed, flooded with thoughts or emotions it can help to “write it out”.

Wisdom Keeping – capture & record your truth, your “knowing”, & the downloads you receive when you reflect & contemplate. Regularly review for reflection & to remember until it is complete & you have room for new wisdom to come through.

Questions to Explore for a Regular Practice of “Checking In” Inside

1. Where am I holding fear? What is fear trying to tell me? Fear & shame are often carried consciously or unconsciously. Purifying that is helpful.

2. What do I know? What is the truth for me?

3. How’s my heart? How’s the space around my heart? Am I connected to my heart? What is blocking my heart?

Parts Check In for Processing

1. Wounded Younger Part “I HURT”

2. Protective Parts of “I MUST, I CAN’T, I WON’T, I WILL DESTROY”

3. Self-Energy of “I AM”

As you “Process Journal” you may notice wisdom, knowing, or solutions arising. This may be gold for your Wisdom Keeping Journal.

5 Behaviors to Purify for Healthy Connections

1. Separation

2. Comparison

3. Judgment

4. Blame

5. Shame

What we do internally we also do externally. It’s human. However, if done automatically, unconsciously, or reactively it’s going to create disconnection & disempowerment.

What’s your Shadow & Gift in your Gene Keys?

Renee has Gene Key #55 which is about moving from victimization to freedom (empowerment).

Validation & rupture repair of hurt & harm is what we want when we have been victimized & it is so healing when given, but this is not the norm. Our cultural norm is to avoid discomfort. Unconscious reactions add insult to injury. However, staying “stuck” in the victim story or state isn’t workable long-term as it creates bitterness, resentment, & disconnection.

Our culture has an epidemic of shame. Shame & its corresponding strategies have been passed down across generations largely in an attempt to keep certain people, places, & things secure & safe.

Disempowerment, Disconnection, & Calling Out:

Recognizing & drawing attention to problems is necessary for change & yet “calling out” contributes to separation.

Instead, CALL IN what you want to create more of, amplify, or elevate.

Where would you like to put the focus of your attention & intention, regardless of the outcome?

What is the challenge you’re facing & how can you frame it into an invitation for yourself & others?

Calling in & inviting is a better set up for all & increases connection, harmony, unity, & resolution.

What gets in the way of that for you? Check in with yourself to see who & what is running your show. What parts of you use the above 5 strategies? How connected or disconnected or you to yourself & others?

GIFTS OF CYCLE BREAKING

• Empowerment: moving from victimization to “I am the one.”

• Activation – if it’s in you or around you, it’s for you to turn towards.

• Reclaiming your birthright, your inherited gifts, & recovering your vitality.

• Moving from disempowered, transactional relationships to equal power + love + co-creating in alignment.

• Realizing FEAR was given to you to PROTECT you & knowing that it is not needed in the same way.

• Releasing FEAR & turning towards Courage & Conviction.

• Moving from FEAR to Possibilities.

• Seeing the larger context of trauma transmission across your lineage – across generations & taking the HURT less personally.

• Being ok no matter what.

• Allowing yourself to learn missed lessons & forgive yourself for past mistakes.

• Knowing the PEACE that being the path of least resistance offers you.

• Ending the cycle of relationships created in disempowerment & power over dynamics. Ending the passing of HURT & HARM.

• Releasing shame as you learn that your “worst” was your “best” attempt at protection.

• Releasing shame as you unwind conditioning & shake off what was projected onto you.

• Pride & celebration that you survived & you have time to begin again.

• Opportunity to pass gifts, wisdom, & love forward.

• Owning your story wholeheartedly.

• Be a lighthouse for others seeking safety & creating transformation at any level. Cycle breaking is for you, your community, & the collective. You are the epicenter of the ripple effect.

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To schedule your Reset With Renee email Renee directly: [email protected]

HSPs can really struggle with energetic stewardship especially as it relates to boundaries & people pleasing.  Courtney shares her journey of self-discovery of being HSP as validating & illuminating. 

Courtney & I discuss the process, challenges, & rewards of:

We also discuss diverse ways HSP is being conceptualized as

The depth, complexity, & perspective that HSP people have is truly a superpower and is a gift to the collective when embraced & not judged, shamed, or blamed.

Take a listen to find the nuggets of pure gold that are helpful for all humans, not just those of us with HSP, & be sure to follow

https://www.instagram.com/whispers_to_my_future_self?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whispers-to-my-future-self-be-the-lead-character-of/id1722571854

https://open.spotify.com/show/4dATC2hHb9tYZGgVYFSn62?si=41cd5522456a4efc

About Courtney:

“I’m a life mentor who loves to help guide individuals towards their fullest potential. I provide personalized support to empower you to overcome challenges, set meaningful goals, and lead a life of intention. Through a unique blend of empathy and wisdom, I will help you seek positive transformation and growth!”

#resetwithrenee #hsp #recovery #healing #boundaries #peoplepleasing #energy #purpose #boundaries

Gen X

·   "I dug deep, paid my dues, do what’s expected of me, absorb expectations– any other way is soft”. 

·    Where is the resilience, discipline of younger generations?

·    Stuck between boomers & younger generations – doesn’t feel fair

·   Dealing with ageism

Younger Generations are challenging the Status Quo. 

·   Why devote all of me to a company that will betray me? 

·   Culture matters, values matter

·   Recognize the status quo isn’t working for them or anyone but those in power.

·    Challenging the power structure

Each generation has differences & similarities:

·   Needs, dreams, wounds, fears related their world of work & in their personal lives. 

·  They also have overdeveloped & underdeveloped skills. 

The person in the environment matters. 

GenX often feels a "rub" in parenting & in their profession or work life.

GenX is the first generation to raise children in a child “centric” way.  Previously, children were to be “seen & not heard”. 

GenX didn’t have access to social media or the internet, so they were not as educated or aware of differences outside of their environment.

GenX takes pride in their work ethic & are often perplexed by the values & choices of younger generations at work.

The GenX RUB is the holding of what they didn’t get, won’t get, & yet providing better or different for their children or younger generations they intersect with.  Parts of them may carry fear, frustration, resentment, & grief. 

GenX may be facing the “outcome” of their parenting strategy.  Due to hard socioeconomics & the GenX tendency to engage in the “righting reflex” some adult children are taking longer to

All generations have a chance to relationally heal when they engage in the 3 Rs:  Relate first, Regulate second, & Reason

Also, the invitation for healing includes owning the story of what has been denied & disowned in favor of the “solemn vow”. 

No shame or blame.  Instead got curious about family history

Common Mistakes My Clients Make

(With or Without CPTSD)

1.    Making decisions or interacting with others from a place of HURT

2.    Making decisions or interacting with others from a place of PROTECTIVE PARTS

Do You Do This?

Listen to find out if you engage in a power struggle between your parts & theirs.

Stop the Fawn/Collapse or FLIP

Many people on a healing journey have “go to” nervous system responses when stressed.  Shutting down via silence, people

However, some tire of feeling disempowered, of feeling like the “loser” in a “win-lose” dynamic & might FLIP to “power over.”

Someone Has to Make the First Move

A natural reaction to disempowered energy is to lead with PROTECTIVE PART energy (I must, I can’t, I won’t, I will destroy).  Your protective parts will trigger another person’s protective parts…& then you both are OFF to the races of a continued power struggle (DEFEND – ATTACK – DEFEND & REPEAT).

The Solution

1.    Exit the power struggle. Don’t stay in the place of “power over” aka “persecutor” & don’t stay in the place of disempowered aka “victim”.

2.    Connect inside to your own hurt & protective parts first.  This is attuning & attachment repair work that will help you embody personal power in a pure & clean way.

3.    Set an intention, align your actions, & embody your boundaries.  Remember other people’s behaviors are about them. 

4.    For difficult/challenging people consider deepening your understanding of *Energetic Stewardship.

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What is the common denominator in my work with clts?

·    Attachment vs authenticity & imperfect caregiving

·    Nervous system regulation 4 Fs & window of tolerance & polyvagal ladder

·   Protective Parts & Wounded Parts

·   Room to develop connection to self & others

·   Integration & connection b/w mind, body, heart, spirit, soul, & universe

A CPTSD survivor has to reclaim their seat of personal power, spirituality, gifts & expertise, to recover. 

Most people, unless activated by an external event, don’t sign up for the ultramarathon of healing work voluntarily – CPTSD survivors have no choice if they want to live a life of freedom & peace. 

You want to learn from the experts, right?

CPTSD survivors are cycle breakers & I can bet that if you don’t have the trauma history you will have likely encountered a tricky or toxic person, place, or thing that will challenge your perspective, skillset & capacity, AND invite expansion.

I wouldn’t have asked for my trauma. 

Everyone I know would say the same. 

And yet, with healing our wisdom is unmistakable. 

CPTSD survivors & our healing is a gift to the collective. 

When you are ready to learn & grow you will want to work with someone that knows themself, owns their story, is authentic, & can guide your journey – a person that gets the challenge, knows the obstacles, knows when to nudge, & when to allow pacing. 

Having a guide that can hold space & provide a path is priceless. 

The outcome, no matter what, is something you won’t regret.

It’s a gift you give yourself, your family, your community, & generations to come. 

Join us in breaking the cycle of living, loving, & leading in survival, fear, & control & instead learn to lean in to connect.