Rock Solid Relationships

With my clients, I'll often hear them say, "I'm just not motivated to…{fill in the blank}."

"I'm just not motivated to exercise. I'm just not motivated to write that book that I've always wanted to write. I'm just not motivated after a long day of work myself to go grocery shopping, and so I end up just ordering a pizza or calling Uber Eats and eating things that don't align with my health goals."

Then they ask, "How do I get motivated?" Listen in for why that's the wrong question to ask yourself.

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Let's think about the labels that we put on ourselves and others that we think are truths. Labels like lazy, disorganized, control freak, or even "perfect". Labels can be a way to disconnect from others.

So, how do we remove those labels from people around us? In this episode, I give you 3 steps to removing labels from those around us and ourselves.

Inspiration Station: Courage is Calling by Ryan Holiday

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I want you to think about a conversation that at least part of you wants to have, but maybe there's this other part of you that's either scared or nervous about it and you've been avoiding it.

In this podcast, I'm going to share with you three steps you can take to have that conversation you've been avoiding. Sometimes I have conversations after I've gone through these steps and sometimes I don't and I can tell you that when I take a moment to pause and clear out the clutter in my brain, I am never sorry I did it. And you won't be either.

Inspiration Station: The song "Rescue" by Lauren Daigle

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In this episode, I interview my friend and colleague, Dr. Caitlin Foss. She is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to emotions. Caitlin teaches you some new ways to process your emotions that you likely haven't heard before. And so if you find yourself from time to time or a lot of the time feeling stuck in your emotions, sometimes we call this being in a funk, then this episode is for you. Or if you find your kids being in that situation, you are going to be able to take away from this episode some tools that will help you to help yourself and to help them.

You can find Dr. Caitlin Faas at:

www.drcaitlinfaas.com/

On Instagram @drcaitlinfaas

Find her book Unstuck on Amazon

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We all have a circle of control and a circle of influence. There is a big difference between the things you can control and the things you have influence over, and focusing on expanding your circle of influence instead of your circle of control will make all the difference. That's what we're talking about in today's episode - what your circle of control is, who is in it and what a circle of influence is. Learn to loosen the reins on what you think you can control and expand what you can influence in this week's episode.

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In this episode, we're going to talk about manipulative people, and I am going to talk about it in a way that's probably different than you've ever heard before. If you have someone in your life who you feel is manipulative, this episode is going to be so useful to you. So, start thinking about someone you believe is being manipulative and listen to this podcast.

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If you find that you often worry about how other people are feeling---whether it's thinking, "How can I make sure my husband feels comfortable at my parents' house?" or "If only I could help my daughter feel less overwhelmed..." Then this podcast is for you. Listen in to learn how to take responsibility for the emotions you can control (your own) and how to release yourself of the things you can't control (other people's emotions).

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With the new year just around the corner, you are likely thinking about goals and things you want to accomplish. This podcast will be just what you need as you come up against some stumbling blocks and failures on your way to successfully accomplishing everything you want in 2023.

Inspiration Station: The Netflix special - The Mind Explained

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Let's imagine that you're feeling a negative emotion - like worry or stress or anger or resentment. Your brain wants to make it a big problem. You may even think, "I'm going to feel this way forever." But the thing is, you aren't going to feel this way forever. This too shall pass. When you're feeling that this negative emotion will never go away, you often look for someone to blame. Like your husband or your kids. Riding the emotional wave would be so much easier. Because it will pass. In this episode, I am going to explain how knowing that any emotion will pass will help you in all of your relationships. Listen in!

Inspiration Station: The Netflix documentary Harry and Megan

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I want you to think about something that you are telling yourself you HAVE to do. Maybe you HAVE to stay married to your husband because divorce is not an option, or you HAVE to have your kids in all of the activities, or you HAVE to eat a salad instead of the oreos you're craving.

When we tell ourselves that we HAVE to do something, we're taking away our agency and causing resentment towards whomever we perceive as the reason we HAVE to do that thing. Listen to this episode to get the 4 steps you need to take to stop telling yourself you HAVE to do something and to start giving yourself OPTIONS.

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