Rock Solid Relationships

What is your money story? Do you tell yourself that you aren't good with money? Have you always thought that when your husband made more, you'd save more, but you just spend more instead? All of these, and more, are ways we think about money. But what if we question all of those things? In this episode, we take a look at what we're told about money and the different ways to look at it.

Inspiration Station: A review of my book I Did All of That for This?

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Have you ever wondered whether you're doing something out of obligation or out of responsibility? Things like taking your kids to their basketball camp every day. Or joining your husband in his hobby. Or taking dinner to that neighbor who just had a baby. In this episode, we're going to talk about how to check your emotions and know whether you're doing this out of obligation or responsibility. And once you know, then you can choose to not do those things that you feel obligated to do.

Inspiration Station: An Early Resurrection by Adam Miller

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We as humans have a desire to grow and to evolve. It's part of our DNA. I believe it's part of our spiritual DNA - something that we inherited from our Heavenly Parents. But why do we sometimes feel resentment about our desires? Resentment feels like a powerful emotion, but is it really resentment we're feeling? Listen to this week's episode to find out what is actually lurking under the surface when we're feeling resentment about our desires.

Inspiration Station: I want to share with you a couple of Instagram accounts that I follow that always bring a smile to my face. The first one is Trey Kennedy (https://www.instagram.com/treynkennedy/) . The second one is the Johnson Files (https://www.instagram.com/johnsonfiles/). Both are clean comedy and I think you'll get a kick out of them!

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I recently had an experience with a child that made me think about the difference between helping and fixing. Helping someone is something we do when they ask for it. Fixing is something we do to make ourselves feel better. And if you listened to last week's podcast, you'll know that control is just a way to make ourselves feel better. So, listen to this episode and find out how to notice when you're trying to fix things for someone else to make yourself feel better and what you can do instead.

Inspiration Station: Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown

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As human beings, we crave certainty. We want to feel a sense of control because then we can feel safe. Sometimes we think that controlling other people will give us that sense of safety. "If I could just get my husband to support me more, then my life would be so much easier!" or "If I could just get my child to stop being so anxious, then I wouldn't worry so much about them and I'd feel better!" And you might be right. Your life might be easier if that were the case. I don't know how to change the people in your life, but I do know how to teach you to feel the way you want to feel without controlling them. Listen to this week's episode to see just how you don't have to control others in order to find your way to real contentment.

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Do you know what mental gymnastics are? Even if you haven't heard the name before, I you might be jumping through some hoops in your marriage. Sometimes people say that it's looking on the bright side. What could be wrong with looking on the bright side of things? Well, you see, there's a difference between looking on the bright side and trying to avoid an unpleasant conversation. Listen to this episode to hear what we should be asking ourselves to make sure that our mental gymnastics is a good thing.

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Do you remember when you were a little kid and you didn't want to eat your broccoli and your mom said, "There are starving children in the world so you should feel lucky to have that broccoli!" This is a form of comparative suffering. (Love to all you moms and grandmas out there!) We say to ourselves that we shouldn't be feeling this way because someone has it worse than we do. Or, even the flip side. Someone shares with us what they're going through and we think, Really? Why are they even complaining about this? I have it so much worse.

Comparative suffering doesn't take away the pain of another person, it just adds to our own. listen to this week's episode to learn what we can do instead and how doing that will help us with ourselves and those around us.

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When we think of someone being entitled, we often think of children. But I've noticed that I sometimes feel entitled too. I feel like I shouldn't be feeling this or this shouldn't be happening. Or even this isn't fair! But maybe, just maybe, there's something you can learn from this. Entitlement is a powerful emotion but it isn't a positive one. In fact, it feels pretty icky. Listen to this episode to see how to change the way you're looking at things and stop feeling so entitled.

Inspiration Station: Small Group Coaching for Doctor's Wives Only

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Most of us believe that negative emotions mean something has gone terrible wrong. What if that's not true? Listen to this episode to find out how to use your negative emotions to your advantage. And remember, emotions are information, not emergencies.

Inspiration Station: The movie "Hoosiers"

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Has this ever happened to you? You have a great family dinner planned and your husband either calls to say he's going to be late or doesn't call at all. And you feel frustrated and angry but then you tell yourself that you shouldn't be frustrated and angry because [fill in blank]. Emotions may be caused by chemicals in your brain but that doesn't mean you can control them. In this episode, we talk about how to be kind to ourselves when we have negative emotions because, unlike Disney promised, we don't always live happily ever after.

Inspiration Station: The Peter Potential by Emily Belle Freeman and David Butler

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