rocking my inner world

In this episode I invited a guest speaker to chat with me, Meirav Zur. Meirav's profession is in theatre and she is most known for her brilliant solo show - Inconceivable: The Totally True One‑Woman Semi‑Fertile Quasi‑"Musical" which tells her personal story with infertility through a light-hearted and humorous lens. A show that gets people more comfortable and discussing more uncomfortable topics!

Meirav's website: http://www.meiravzur.com/

Meirav's IG and tiktok: @inconceivableshow

Meirav's twitter: @InconceivableSh

Self-fulfilling prophecies vs. manifestation.. It can seem like a thin line between both of these terms. & for someone who struggles with anxiety this thin line can be terrifying.

A self fulfilling prophecy is a expectation or prediction that happens to become true due to the actions of the believer. So essentially we affirm our beliefs about someone or something or about ourselves by acting in a way that reinforces it.

An example would be if you’re trying to find red flags in a new relationship because you were in a unhealthy relationship before. So what you do is you act in a negative / insecure / defensive way around this person which may encourage the negative expectations you may have of them to come into fruition.

In comparison, you may hear people say “think happy thoughts because if you think negative ones they’ll come true” NO.

First of all breathe. You’re OK. We are constantly experiencing an influx of good and bad thoughts. We don’t have control over a lot of these inputs. They can come into our minds spontaneously due to a subconscious belief we have or they can pop up due to something we’ve watched. Think about it like this - if you think that a dog the size of a mountain is going to show up at your doorstep - is this thought now going to manifest itself ? Absolutely not. ( a dog size of a mountain would be sick tho).

Your thoughts are NOT that powerful even if you feel powerless because of the lack of control you have with how these thoughts circulate your mind.

Manifestation occurs from our subconscious thoughts and our conscious thoughts are a reflection of where there are potential blocks that are creating resistance in the manifestation process.

In order to retrieve the inner child , a lot of us need to heal them first. Healing from childhood traumas like narcissistic abuse requires taking time to properly grieve and let go of the narrative tied to those difficult experiences. Next is calling yourself out / identifying habits that are associated to your hurt inner child - by identifying these habits you can interrupt them and break the pattern. Then you can replace these habits with habits that do serve you. In order to retrieve the inner child - we can do a variety of things like writing letters as / to our inner child, saying nurturing healing affirmations and more. Follow my wellness page @yourwellnessistur on IG to see what else I share regarding this topic.

Smashing our ambitious goals comes down to smashing our daily minor but impactful decisions 80% of the time. Similar to the 80:20 rule, which we usually use when talking about our nutrition, as long as we can make positive decisions the majority of the time - we can get closer and closer to being en route to smashing our big goals. When we make marginal improvements in our lives, we retrain our bodies and minds to become disciplined at carrying out positive habits. The more we get conditioned to these positive small habits , the more likely we are to be able to accomplish bigger goals in life. This process is slow , unlike a temporary fix where we make our selves start a habit our bodies initially oppose. When we go 0 to 100 with our habits - our bodies and minds create resistance because it’s too big of a shock to our system. But if we can break this down to sizeable chunks, we can create healthy momentum which will avoid burn out , stress and demotivation. Instead we end up fostering compassion, patience and progress.

Are you comfortable staying at your job or are you actually just unsure what your purpose is? We all have passions in life and our passions typically fuel our purpose. Our purpose is also formed by our values and what service we want to provide others. In this episode , I break down what it means to integrate your purpose into your career and simple practical steps to align your purpose to your career.

I struggle coming up with new year resolutions because so much changes can happen on a monthly basis - from what your purpose is to what makes you most happy. I feel like breaking down my goals into easy to manage chunks has been a real game changer. It’ll avoid all the anxiety that comes with potentially not completing your new year resolution. On top of that flexible consistency is something I’ve recently started to implement into my life - it’s helped so much with my productivity and essentially it’s just having things your consistent with but without having to do these things in a specific monotonous way. One day you meditate at 8 am and the next day you’ve only got some time for 2 mins of breath work on the train. That’s okay! You’ve stuck to it and this shift in perspective will shape the way you view your to-do list and it should have a huge impact on your happiness too! P.s the to do list I use on my iPhone is indeed called “Todoist”.

hey I’m back and rebranded! I decided to rebrand because I no longer resonated with my last pod name for the reasons I address in the episode. I want to be able to speak about things from an even more authentic and genuine place and I felt that the rebrand was a move into a new direction. Grateful for ya’ll xoxoxo

The THAT girl trend promotes toxic productivity because it assumes that health and wellness needs to look a certain way for it to be productive. It can encourage self doubt and lack of self love. It’s not that the habits are bad because in fact they’re great. However, it is the current mainstream portrayal of it, which romanticises the “perfect” health and wellness routine which should be carried out all the time. Whereas, it is merely a segment into someone’s life. Not everyone documents their bad days - so most of the time it truly is just a small window into someone’s life. The remainder of the episode discusses the ways in which you can start protecting your inner peace and customising your own health and wellness routine that works for you. This extends beyond nutrition and working out but also who you choose to spend time with , what you feed your mind and whether or not you have boundaries set in place.

In this episode, Matilda talks about how the pandemic has made her more introverted and the advantages and disadvantages of this. From less in person interactions to more online friends and how both had a positive and negative effect on our mental health. Additionally, she dives into how social media censorship has influenced the way we approach socialising with others now that we are coming out of the peak of the pandemic. Lastly, she dives into the beautiful qualities of introverts and how the pandemic allowed us to become more introspective and better at trusting ourselves.

In this episode, Matilda dives into her list of November intentions - from meditating more to saying bye to self-depreciating humour. Your challenge is to write 5 November intentions and post them on your story & tag Matilda or send her a DM @matildalaskacolman - she’ll be your accountability partner!