Ruwando Podcast

The desire for dominance is within all men. A man has to be connected to his dominance in order to be a useful lover, father, leader, teammate. But how does a dominant man act? What does it mean to be dominant in relationships, without being a jerk?

This episode covers the psychology behind informal power dynamics, how to be a more dominant male, the real importance of dominance in relationships, how a dominant man takes responsibility, why a dominant man makes woman feel safe, why a dominant male takes risks, how handling tension is a sign of dominance, signs of a dominant man (in relationships), and deep down why dominance is within all men.

00:00 Importance of Dominance in Relationships

04:31 Dominance and Approval

08:14 What does it mean to be dominant in relationships?

13:57 How to be the dominant person in relationships?

15:15 Dominant man takes responsibility

16:40 Handling tension is a sign of dominance

19:08 How does a dominant man act?

There is power in the masculine dark side— The thoughts, feelings, and instincts that don't fit in society's morality. But what is your dark side? How do you integrate the dark side in a healthy constructive way?

Jung's “shadow” is the part of your psyche that you dissociated from, and therefore put it in the “dark”. Uncovering the dark masculine and shadow work requires looking at deep impulses and shame, to bring that part of your power back into the light.

00:00 - The power of masculine dark side

00:39 - What is your dark side?

4:53 - Understanding the male psyche

5:55 - Masculine personality archetypes

8:39 - Results of early childhood experience

10:00 - Morals and personality

13:25 - Why are women attracted to men's dark side?

14:55 - How to integrate your dark side?

17:14 - Dealing with shame and embarrassment

18:58 - Validating and expressing emotions

19:50 - Integrating aggressive side of men

How powerful is language manipulation? I originally invited Joshua Lisec on to discuss writing, but we ended up speaking about his most recent book, Unhumans: The Secret History of Communist Revolutions.

We discuss how philosophy shapes a society, the evolution of Marxism in society, soft vs hard power, dangers of far right and far left, and some interesting history nuggets of communist propaganda in the Americas.

Joshua authored over 90 books, mostly ghostwriting famous titles you’ve definitely heard of.

Joshua is a conservative who speaks straight and some of what he says may not jive with your beliefs. But in the current political climate, I feel it’s especially important to 1) recognize the workings of ANY ideology on a population, 2) listen to intelligent people that you do not agree with.

00:00 - Intro: self-publishing vs. traditional

01:34 - Evolution of Marxism in society

16:12 - How powerful is language manipulation?

22:51 - Does end justify the means?

31:08 - Soft vs. hard power

40:30 - Moral values, Christianity and society

47:18 - How to battle an ideology?

48:47 - Far right and far left

57:10 - What is the future of publishing?

Is there a difference between Western vs. Eastern dating culture?

Last time Hans Comyn was on the podcast he shared a controversial opinion that ruffled some listeners’ feathers— that Western men are better off dating non-Western women.

We discuss this point of view and some key questions such as:

Why is dating different in East vs West?

Are men attracted to traditional women?

Is choice of women related to standards? Or culturization? Or some other unconscious factor?

Dating in a a small town vs city?

Is success more important than failure?

Hans’ “Gentlemen’s Guide”: https://t.ly/YMpBD

Hans on meeting foreign women: https://t.ly/HnX0x

00:00 - Why you should date non western women

3:53 - Is choice of women related to standards?

7:48 - Harder is always better - or not?

11:22 - Balancing masculine and feminine in relationships

19:06 - Why is west and east dating culture different?

25:52 - Women want to surrender to men

29:58 - Are men attracted to traditional women?

34:18 - Importance of female and male spaces

37:59 - Western vs eastern dating culture

44:45 - Beauty of slow seduction

51:36 - Is success more important than failure?

01:01:19 - Responsibility before entitlement

Why do we have resistance to certain goals? Especially the ones that are really important to us?

This episode covers how to be passionate about your goals, especially if you have a pattern of putting them off. There is a relationship between emotional patterns and behavior, and we can reprogram these emotional patterns.

00:00 - Why do we have resistance to certain goals?

2:44 - What is passion actually?

4:08 - Fear of failure brings self sabotage

6:27- Different kinds of thinking

7:37 - How to reprogram emotional patterns?

13:36 - The connection of big goals and resistance

16:48 - Attachment to identity vs action

17:59 - The reward of hard work

20:05 - Dealing with emotional discomfort

30:29 - How to be Passionate about your goals?

Guru Pashupati speaks on the philosophy behind hanuman, how to train on gada, and other life wisdom.

00:00 - Intro

01:12 - Spiritualism and Martial Arts

12:25 - Different Forms of Guru

13:46 - Life and Playfulness

16:00 - The role of money in our life

19:43 - Symbolism of Hindu Deity Hanuman

25:28 - Violence, Power and Domination

28:16 - Connection of Justice and Power

30:51 - The power of conserving your energy

34:23 - How to train with gada?

38:07 - The Four Stages of Consciousness

41:10 - The Imagination and False Perception

44:05 - Supplement Reality with Dreams

46:35 - Guru’s Lifestyle

49:18 - Energy Cultivation

The Magician Archetype is the part of your psyche that makes meaning, abstracts reality, and creates your life-- whether you take that literally or figuratively depends on your Magician.

This episode covers "magic" in the creative process, the shadow aspects of the magician, the five stages of belief, the importance of the Fool archetype, hacking self-fulfilling prophecy, and how to become the magician.

00:00 Intro

4:20 Magical thinking throughout history

5:35 Subjective mind of magical thinking

10:55 What is the magician archetype?

13:57 Belief and meaning as magicians tools

18:21 Magic in the creative process

29:40 The importance of the Fool

34:55 Shadow aspect of magician

37:30 Removing blocks to becoming the magician

45:19 Five stages of belief

1:03:23 The role of the magician

1:19:30 How to become the magician?

Uncover your inner world:

https://www.ruwando.com/archetype

(includes a free coaching session with Ruwan)

The Warrior Archetype is the part of the psyche for overcoming obstacles and winning zero-sum competition. It's become the most suppressed aspect of masculinity in the modern era.

Activate this archetype within you with the Masculine Archetype Challenge. Comes with a complementary coaching call with Ruwan:

https://www.ruwando.com/archetype

(Republish from 2020)

This book totally changed how I view human behavior, and perception of reality.

I focus on the first 4 "non-spiritual" circuits of Timothy Leary & Robert Anton Wilson's circuit model.

Republished from 2020. This is the episode that got my wife to like me. I'm still on paternity leave. New episodes coming in June.

https://www.ruwando.com/archetype

Psychophilosophy, quantumpsychology, thelema, general semantics, Alfred Korzybski

Men go through five distinct stages, each with their own drives, pitfalls, and keys to fulfillment. This episode covers each stage through the lenses of biology, psychology, mythology (Slave to King myth), and Nietzsche's Metamorphosis.

Republishing this one as I wait for my next kid to pop.

https://www.ruwando.com/archetype