Lucilla was once Denmark's top female pickup artist. Now she's a worldwide midwife (and the wife of Andreas from last episode). We discuss her unusual Journey as a woman in the early pickup community, her approach to developing confidence, social skills, and authenticity.

00:00 - Pickup, coaching

02:00 - Social skills, dating in teens

05:20 - Is dating easier for guys or girls?

06:30 - Who needs love when you have the game

07:40 - The game or manipulations

17:30 - Authenticity is next level of the game

24:25 - What you look for in dating?

32:30 - Does pickup change your perspective of men

39:05 - What you want, need and get

44:00 - From pickup to relationship

53:00 - Children and social skills

57:40 - Practice what you're bad at

For many men, their introduction to personal development was the infamous “pickup community”. My friend “Worldwide Psychologist” Andreas and I speak on our experiences, good and bad, and how it led to deeper understandings in self-discovery. We also cover why we replay childhood relations, installing values into your kids, and why staying connected to yourself is important.

04:00 Discovering yourself through forums

06:45 Pick up community

08:00 Benefits of tinder

11:50 Healthy pickup coaching

13:00 Childhood trauma and healing

17:15 You have to abandon the game

21:15 Consistency and intensity pay off

25:55 Why is staying connected to yourself important

28:55 Installing values into your kids

34:50 What you emphasize is what your kids will aim to

40:45 Have more trust in yourself

45:55 You thrive during a process

46:40 Persistency in intensity

Higher consciousness through sex?

If you've ever felt in an altered state from falling in love, taking MDMA, or really great sex, then you may have experienced what Timothy Leary called the “Neurosomatic Circuit”—the state of consciousness that comes with a deep connection between mind and body, typically through sustaining sexual arousal.

This episode covers how sexual arousal can be used to enhance your emotional state, via lessons I learned intensively studying sexuality in my early 20s. Such as, why men need control of their urges, sexual dysfunctions and healing, how chronic tension effects on body, and tips on sustaining sexual arousal.

00:00 - Intro

02:00 - Arousal and consciousness

09:35 - Announcements

11:30 - 8 circuit model of consciousness

29:30 - Connection between mind and body

50:00 - Truth carries the most sensation

56:20 - Sustaining sexual arousal

01:03:15 - Anxiety and arousal

01:04:30 - Chronic tension effects on body

01:08:30 - Higher consciousness through sex

My friends Kris and Lily came back from a breakup to coming back together and now happily married with two kids. In order to do so, they both had to drastically change themselves and their reality.

We discuss major turning points in a romantic relationship, balancing ideologies in a relationship, and some key (and possibly taboo) principles about how men and women can find deep harmony together.

If you’re having relationship issues and you want to fix it, apply to Lead Your Family— small group program for men in committed relationships: https://www.ruwando.com/LYF

00:00 - From Modern to Traditional Relationship

06:50 - Turning points in a romantic relationship

15:00 - Why are rituals important for a relationship?

27:00 - Leaving your principles for a greater goal

37:00 - Learning how to surrender to your partner

43:00 - Balancing Ideologies in Relationships

49:00 - Shift in relationship dynamics

01:03:00 - Christian values of family and community

01:14:00 - Passing on your values to your kids

"A man's beauty represents inner functional truths: his face shows what he can do." (Albert Camus)

Trauma (inhibitions to normal function) shows up in out nonverbal communication— facial expressions and posture. We can read one's emotions through their resting faces and micro-expressions. Here's how to read, and modify yours from trauma to ease and confidence.

00:00 - Intro

01:40 - Body language - first impressions

06:05 - A man's looks demonstrate what he can do

11:05 - How to understand trauma

18:40 - Your face mirrors your feelings

22:37 - Left side of face vs right

32:15 - The four circuits of consciousness

44:30 - Why you should have good physical awareness

49:25 - Tips on how to not contract

52:10 - The Inner Smile exercise

56:50 - Welcoming all the sensations

58:50 - How to control your tension

Why do you get nervous? Do you “choke” in important moments? i.e. Meeting someone you’re attracted to, public speaking, conflict or competition?

How to “conquer your inner weakness” really comes down to how to change your stress response.

The episode breaks down how to change your stress response. We’ll start with the biologically process of acute stress, and how to “practice right emotions” so the next time you’re faced with an important moment— in business, love, or life— you’ll have a winning response, rather than a self-sabotaging one.

01:46 - Announcements

10:50 - Why do you get nervous?

15:55 - Steroid hormone stress

22:40 - Understanding your physiology

36:00 - Emotional distress vs. chronic stress

39:45 - The winner vs. the loser effect

45:45 - Practice right emotional response

1:05:00 - Why breathing calms your brain

1:08:50 - Recap

Mrs. Meepagala rejoins the pod after 100 episodes. (She was on ep100 before we had kids).

We speak on power dynamics and imbalance in relationships, mother and father figure differences, the beauty of surrendered woman, and our personal experiences with “trad” gender roles.

If you’re a man in a committed relationship that’s not going the way you want, you may want to join my small group program:

https://www.ruwando.com/LYF

00:43 - Motherhood and work during baby years

05:27 - Challenging part of becoming a parent

07:10 - Why is family support important during pregnancy?

10:55 - Beauty of surrendered woman

13:20 - Do young women understand hormonal cycle?

15:41 - Nuclear family and masculine values

20:45 - Power of surrendered state

33:48 - Intrinsic motivation vs proving yourself

38:14 - Choosing motherhood or entrepreneurship

44:10 - Male vs female competition and confidence

52:11 - Mother and father figure differences

59:28 - Finding ways to relax when parenting

1:03:28 - Power dynamics and imbalance in relationships

A few months ago the Economist wrote an article on the political gender gap— how men are becoming more conservative, and women more liberal. While this seems like a recipe for conflict, in many ways this is a return to human nature.

This episode covers the evolutionary roots behind political leanings, the reasons for recent cultural shifts, and some fascinating studies about how your political leading may reveal itself in a brain scan.

https://www.ruwando.com/LYF

https://www.ruwando.com/archetype

00:00 - Intro: Cultural shift to left

3:20 - New Course: Lead Your Family

5:50 - Biological difference between liberal and conservative

14:40 - Biology behind liberal brain

18:15 - Karl Marx and Nietzsche

30:22 - Why is there a political gender gap?

37:17 - Why are young men more conservative?

01:02:59 - How to balance the polarities

01:14:57 - Are you truly worthy of respect?

01:26:12 - Are you making the right decisions?

01:30:24 - Recap

Marine heals PTSD with brain mapping and plant medicine.

Brain-mapping is a relatively new technology that trains a person to recreate neural patterns.

Veteran marine Luke Jensen speaks on how he healed his PTSD through brain-mapping and plant medicine and how these modalities can help people with unwanted emotional patterns like anxiety and depression.

We discuss the Marine Corps, PTSD psychological vs spiritual side, post-war rituals, war and the concept of nationality, Germanic paganism and more.

Check out Luke's work: https://www.tiwazawakening.com/

00:00 - Intro

00:03 - Recalling marine journey

08:05 - Marine corps and legal issues

15:40 - (Afghanistan) war and corruption

19:37 - War and the concept of nationality

25:38 - War zone and politics

32:53 - After war psychological crisis

34:20 - PTSD as modern phenomenon

44:39 - What is brain mapping?

53:50 - Brain mapping and plant medicine

58:05 - Stress response and brain mapping

Almost all internal conflict can be described as the Heart vs. Mind Dilemma— Your thoughts want one thing and your feelings want another.

00:00 - Heart vs. Mind Dilemma

01:35 - Announcements

04:13 - Distortions of the head and heart

06:05 - Why logic kills creativity

08:50 - Should we follow our heart or mind?

14:00 - When to listen to your heart over your mind

16:08 - When you shouldn't listen to your feelings

24:41 - Do you empower your heart?

30:59 - Is your intuition calibrated?

36:38 - Synergy of heart and mind

46:05 - Recap