Today on the show, SSN’s own Tiffany Butler discusses how the friends and family of straight spouses can support them post discovery and disclosure. She discusses what to say, what not to say, and how to hold space for a loved one who has discovered their partner is LGBT. She clears up myths and assumptions people make about straight spouses (no, they do not always know), and she gives us explanations for why a straight spouse’s post-discovery trajectory might not mesh with what family and friends think it should be. “There’s no road map for this,” she says. Finally, she gives the LGBT spouse insight into what their straight partner might be feeling and advice on treating the straight spouse with respect, care, and honesty.