Ever try to bring up something hard with your husband, your adult child, or a close friend, and it either blows up or you swallow it and stew for three days? You are not alone, and there is a better way.

In this episode of the Seasons of Joy Podcast, I am handing you a simple, four-step communication tool called the Feedback Wheel, created by therapist Terry Real of the Relational Life Institute. It is one of the most powerful tools I have ever used in my own marriage, and it is a game-changer for women who want to speak up honestly without damaging the relationship. 

In this episode, you will learn:

-Why hard conversations blow up (and what is actually happening in your nervous system)

-The four steps of the Feedback Wheel and exactly how to use each one

-How to tell the difference between a real feeling and a thought disguised as a feeling

-Why you cannot skip the regulation step before you speak

-How the posture of allowing changes everything about how you deliver hard truth

-A faith-rooted perspective on speaking honestly without trying to control the outcome

-A simple homework assignment you can try this week

Whether you are navigating tension with a spouse, an adult child, an aging parent, or a close friend, this tool will change how you show up in every relationship that matters to you.

🎙️ Seasons of Joy Podcast with Jill Pack | Episode 217

✨ Life + relationship coaching for midlife women of faith

Framework credit: The Feedback Wheel is the work of Terry Real, marriage and family therapist and founder of the Relational Life Institute. Learn more at relationallife.com or on Instagram @realterryreal @relationallife

Want More Clarity?

Grab the Clarity Map Starter Guide HERE.

To grab the Mending the Rift: Loving Your Adult Children Who Leave the Faith that You Love PDF

To join the Conflict to Connection Challenge: https://www.seasons-coaching.com/conflict-to-connection-30-day-challenge

Are you ready to take it to a deeper level?  Jill would love to be your coach!  

Click HERE to learn about all the ways you can work together!

Click HERE to schedule a FREE Clarity Conversation with Jill.

Click on the following links to learn more about Seasons Coaching and the Seasons of Joy Community Facebook Group.

To contact Jill about speaking to your group or business, email her at [email protected].

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and rate and leave a review! Help spread these tools!

About the Host: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life + relationship coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She helps women of faith navigate their seasons of life with greater purpose and joy including how to transform conflict into connection. For more resources or to work with Jill, visit www.seasons-coaching.com.

One question can change the way every hard conversation ends.

In this episode, Jill walks you through Terry Real's W.A.I.T. framework (Why Am I Talking?) and pairs it with nervous system regulation so you can respond from your wise, adult self instead of the reactive part that wants to prove a point. If you are a midlife woman navigating tension with a spouse, adult child, or aging parent, this one is for you.

You will learn:

🎙️ Seasons of Joy Podcast with Jill Pack | Episode 216

Mentioned on the podcast:

Framework credit: The W.A.I.T. framework is the work of Terry Real, marriage and family therapist and founder of the Relational Life Institute. Learn more at relationallife.com or on Instagram @realterryreal @relationallife.

To join the Clarity Circle. We begin in September 9.

✨ Life + relationship coaching for midlife women of faith

Want More Clarity?

Grab the Clarity Map Starter Guide HERE.

To grab the Mending the Rift: Loving Your Adult Children Who Leave the Faith that You Love PDF

To join the Conflict to Connection Challenge: https://www.seasons-coaching.com/conflict-to-connection-30-day-challenge

Are you ready to take it to a deeper level?  Jill would love to be your coach!  

Click HERE to learn about all the ways you can work together!

Click HERE to schedule a FREE Clarity Conversation with Jill.

Click on the following links to learn more about Seasons Coaching and the Seasons of Joy Community Facebook Group.

To contact Jill about speaking to your group or business, email her at [email protected].

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and rate and leave a review! Help spread these tools!

About the Host: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life + relationship coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She helps women of faith navigate their seasons of life with greater purpose and joy including how to transform conflict into connection. For more resources or to work with Jill, visit www.seasons-coaching.com.

Feeling tired, foggy, or off? This episode walks through six foundational daily habits: sleep, sunlight and darkness, movement, nutrients, relationships, and stress resilience. These shape your nervous, endocrine, immune, and gut-brain systems. Tailored for midlife women of faith, Jill Pack shares practical, low-cost strategies and reflection questions to help you restore energy, clarity, and connection.

Choose one pillar to focus on this week and start with a small, consistent change to see ripple effects across your life and relationships.

🎙️ Seasons of Joy Podcast with Jill Pack | Episode 215

Mentioned on the podcast:

To join the Clarity Circle Waitlist. We begin in September.

✨ Life + relationship coaching for midlife women of faith

Want More Clarity?

Grab the Clarity Map Starter Guide HERE.

To grab the Mending the Rift: Loving Your Adult Children Who Leave the Faith that You Love PDF

To join the Conflict to Connection Challenge: https://www.seasons-coaching.com/conflict-to-connection-30-day-challenge

Are you ready to take it to a deeper level?  Jill would love to be your coach!  

Click HERE to learn about all the ways you can work together!

Click HERE to schedule a FREE Clarity Conversation with Jill.

Click on the following links to learn more about Seasons Coaching and the Seasons of Joy Community Facebook Group.

To contact Jill about speaking to your group or business, email her at [email protected].

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and rate and leave a review! Help spread these tools!

About the Host: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life + relationship coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She helps women of faith navigate their seasons of life with greater purpose and joy including how to transform conflict into connection. For more resources or to work with Jill, visit www.seasons-coaching.com.

Ever feel like you know what to do but cannot do it alone?

Jill Pack introduces the Clarity Circle, a 12-week small-group coaching season built on her Clarity Map to help midlife women of faith move from knowing what to do to actually doing it with support.

🎙️ Seasons of Joy Podcast with Jill Pack | Episode 214

Mentioned on the podcast:

Episode 206 - The Clarity Map: A New Way to Understand Your Experience

To join the Clarity Circle Waitlist. We begin in September.

✨ Life + relationship coaching for midlife women of faith

Want More Clarity?

Grab the Clarity Map Starter Guide HERE.

To grab the Mending the Rift: Loving Your Adult Children Who Leave the Faith that You Love PDF

To join the Conflict to Connection Challenge: https://www.seasons-coaching.com/conflict-to-connection-30-day-challenge

Are you ready to take it to a deeper level?  Jill would love to be your coach!  

Click HERE to learn about all the ways you can work together!

Click HERE to schedule a FREE Clarity Conversation with Jill.

Click on the following links to learn more about Seasons Coaching and the Seasons of Joy Community Facebook Group.

To contact Jill about speaking to your group or business, email her at [email protected].

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and rate and leave a review! Help spread these tools!

About the Host: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life + relationship coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She helps women of faith navigate their seasons of life with greater purpose and joy including how to transform conflict into connection. For more resources or to work with Jill, visit www.seasons-coaching.com.

In episode 213, Jill Pack compassionately addresses the pain mothers feel when an adult child leaves the faith, offering hope and practical guidance.

She shares seven small perspective shifts to help repair the relationship without trying to force change.

Listeners are given a simple daily practice and resources (a PDF and the Clarity Circle) to help them practice loving differently and find peace in this difficult season.

🎙️ Seasons of Joy Podcast with Jill Pack | Episode 213

Mentioned on the podcast:

To join the Clarity Circle Waitlist. We begin in September.

To grab the Mending the Rift: Loving Your Adult Children Who Leave the Faith that You Love PDF

✨ Life + relationship coaching for midlife women of faith

Want More Clarity?

Grab the The Clarity Map.

To join the Conflict to Connection Challenge: https://www.seasons-coaching.com/conflict-to-connection-30-day-challenge

Are you ready to take it to a deeper level?  Jill would love to be your coach!  

Click HERE to learn about all the ways you can work together!

Click HERE to schedule a FREE Clarity Conversation with Jill.

Click on the following links to learn more about Seasons Coaching and the Seasons of Joy Community Facebook Group.

To contact Jill about speaking to your group or business, email her at [email protected].

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and rate and leave a review! Help spread these tools!

About the Host: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life + relationship coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She helps women of faith navigate their seasons of life with greater purpose and joy including how to transform conflict into connection. For more resources or to work with Jill, visit www.seasons-coaching.com.

Jill Pack breaks down the three stages of awareness—after-the-fact, in-the-moment, and ahead-of-time—and explains how each stage helps you notice reactions, make real-time repairs, and intentionally choose how to show up.

She also introduces the Clarity Circle, a community practice to turn awareness into lasting change.

🎙️ Seasons of Joy Podcast with Jill Pack | Episode 212

Mentioned on the podcast:

Seasons of Joy Podcast: Ep. 149 - Adding Self-Trust to the Progress Formula

✨ Life + relationship coaching for midlife women of faith

Want More Clarity?

To join the Clarity Circle Waitlist. We begin in September.

Grab the The Clarity Map.

To join the Conflict to Connection Challenge: https://www.seasons-coaching.com/conflict-to-connection-30-day-challenge

Are you ready to take it to a deeper level?  Jill would love to be your coach!  

Click HERE to learn about all the ways you can work together!

Click HERE to schedule a FREE Clarity Conversation with Jill.

Click on the following links to learn more about Seasons Coaching and the Seasons of Joy Community Facebook Group.

To contact Jill about speaking to your group or business, email her at [email protected].

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and rate and leave a review! Help spread these tools!

About the Host: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life + relationship coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She helps women of faith navigate their seasons of life with greater purpose and joy including how to transform conflict into connection. For more resources or to work with Jill, visit www.seasons-coaching.com.

In Episode 211, Jill Pack explains why you can feel tense, shaky, or unable to move on after a stressful moment and offers a clear, practical way to come back down.She teaches that stress is a physical reaction to a perceived threat and the importance of completing the stress cycle. 

🎙️ Seasons of Joy Podcast with Jill Pack | Episode 211

Mentioned on the podcast:

The Upside of Stress: Why Stress is Good for You and How to Get Good at It by Kelly McGonigal Phd

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski PhD, Amelia Nagoski DMA

✨ Life + relationship coaching for midlife women of faith

Want More Clarity?

Grab the The Clarity Map.

To join the Conflict to Connection Challenge: https://www.seasons-coaching.com/conflict-to-connection-30-day-challenge

Are you ready to take it to a deeper level?  Jill would love to be your coach!  

Click HERE to learn about all the ways you can work together!

Click HERE to schedule a FREE Clarity Conversation with Jill.

Click on the following links to learn more about Seasons Coaching and the Seasons of Joy Community Facebook Group.

To contact Jill about speaking to your group or business, email her at [email protected].

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and rate and leave a review! Help spread these tools!

About the Host: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life + relationship coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She helps women of faith navigate their seasons of life with greater purpose and joy including how to transform conflict into connection. For more resources or to work with Jill, visit www.seasons-coaching.com.

In this episode, Jill Pack explains the powerful difference between observation (what actually happened) and evaluation (the meaning we add), using a simple "camera" metaphor to show how interpretations, not events, create most of our pain in relationships and with ourselves.

🎙️ Seasons of Joy Podcast with Jill Pack | Episode 210

✨ Life + relationship coaching for midlife women of faith

Want More Clarity?

Grab the The Clarity Map.

To join the Conflict to Connection Challenge: https://www.seasons-coaching.com/conflict-to-connection-30-day-challenge

Are you ready to take it to a deeper level?  Jill would love to be your coach!  

Click HERE to learn about all the ways you can work together!

Click HERE to schedule a FREE Clarity Conversation with Jill.

Click on the following links to learn more about Seasons Coaching and the Seasons of Joy Community Facebook Group.

To contact Jill about speaking to your group or business, email her at [email protected].

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and rate and leave a review! Help spread these tools!

About the Host: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life + relationship coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She helps women of faith navigate their seasons of life with greater purpose and joy including how to transform conflict into connection. For more resources or to work with Jill, visit www.seasons-coaching.com.

Jill Pack explains why our minds and nervous systems often treat imagined problems as real ones, draining our energy by "pre‑hurting" for things that haven’t happened. She introduces the Pre‑Hurt Pause: a two‑column practice to separate what’s actually happening now from what exists only in your fears.

🎙️ Seasons of Joy Podcast with Jill Pack | Episode 209

✨ Life + relationship coaching for midlife women of faith

Want More Clarity?

Grab the The Clarity Map.

To join the Conflict to Connection Challenge: https://www.seasons-coaching.com/conflict-to-connection-30-day-challenge

Are you ready to take it to a deeper level?  Jill would love to be your coach!  

Click HERE to learn about all the ways you can work together!

Click HERE to schedule a FREE Clarity Conversation with Jill.

Click on the following links to learn more about Seasons Coaching and the Seasons of Joy Community Facebook Group.

To contact Jill about speaking to your group or business, email her at [email protected].

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and rate and leave a review! Help spread these tools!

About the Host: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life + relationship coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She helps women of faith navigate their seasons of life with greater purpose and joy including how to transform conflict into connection. For more resources or to work with Jill, visit www.seasons-coaching.com.

On June 11, 2026, Jill Pack joined 330 athletes at Snow Basin to take on 29029—the challenge of climbing 29,029 vertical feet by summiting a ski mountain 13 times in 36 hours. 

This episode reflects on perseverance and the idea that everyone has an "Everest" to climb—whether a literal mountain, a season of grief, a repaired relationship, or simply getting up each day. Jill shares lessons learned and invites listeners to take the next step toward their own transformation.

🎙️ Seasons of Joy Podcast with Jill Pack | Episode 208

✨ Life + relationship coaching for midlife women of faith

Want More Clarity?

Grab the The Clarity Map.

To join the Conflict to Connection Challenge: https://www.seasons-coaching.com/conflict-to-connection-30-day-challenge

Are you ready to take it to a deeper level?  Jill would love to be your coach!  

Click HERE to learn about all the ways you can work together!

Click HERE to schedule a FREE Clarity Conversation with Jill.

Click on the following links to learn more about Seasons Coaching and the Seasons of Joy Community Facebook Group.

To contact Jill about speaking to your group or business, email her at [email protected].

Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and rate and leave a review! Help spread these tools!

About the Host: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life + relationship coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She helps women of faith navigate their seasons of life with greater purpose and joy including how to transform conflict into connection. For more resources or to work with Jill, visit www.seasons-coaching.com.